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Have you ever pulled away from your spouse’s affection…
—even though part of you wanted it?

Or maybe they offer something kind—a compliment, a hug, a moment of connection—and your whole body tenses or recoils?

You’re not alone.
And you’re not broken.

This week on the podcast, I’m exploring a concept that’s been deeply eye-opening for me—and for so many of my clients:

What if you’re not resisting love… you’re resisting the pain that once came with it?

Maybe “love” used to mean:

• Pressure to perform
• Conditional affection
• Being needed more than being known
• Or being told what’s “best” for you while your voice was dismissed

So now, even healthy love can feel like a threat.
Your nervous system doesn’t recognize it as safe—it recognizes it as familiar.
And familiar, in this case, feels risky.

In this episode, I walk through:

• Why shame and unhealed stories distort how we give and receive love
• How past experiences can cause us to resist connection—even when we long for it
• And the steps we can take to gently start healing and creating safety again

If you’ve ever wondered why love feels complicated, this might be the insight you didn’t know you needed.

This episode is a little tender, a little exploratory, and I truly believe it might unlock something powerful for you—just like it did for me.

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