This week I welcome my new co-host, Kev Stockbridge, for a deep, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, International Men’s Day, and the often-hidden issue of male loneliness , especially as men age.

Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement.

From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary.

Key Takeawys

• Why November matters for men’s mental health
• Movember: where it started and what it funds today
• Suicide statistics and the shocking gender divide
• How men and women differ in social connection
• Why loneliness skyrockets for men over 50
• The “A.L.E.C.” model anyone can use to support someone
• Why retirement is psychologically dangerous for men
• How purpose protects mental health
• The rise of male-only support spaces (Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club)
• Creating social networks before retirement
• Practical, real-life ways to support the men in your life

Timestamps

01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters

03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age

05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches)

06:34 – What Movember funds today

08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride

09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme

11.34 – Why men die younger than women

13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in

14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders

15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men

16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same)

18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 2030

20:55 – Why men struggle socially after 50

22:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women

22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces

24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion)

29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement

30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat”

31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around you

https://uk.movember.com

https://internationalmensday.com

https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/

https://menssheds.org.uk

https://andysmanclub.co.uk

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Put an Erection Ring on it Episode

I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor.

This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it.

Key Takeaways:

Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring

Designing a device for women

How the erection ring can help you

Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it

Timestamps:

• [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin

• [01:39] – The Erection ring

• [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction

• [14:18] – How Women have been described

• [16:45] – Database

• [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring

• [26:02] – Shame and secrecy

• [31:56] - Device for women

• [32:54] – Your mission

Where to get more information on the penis ring or buy one: https://myfirmtech.com/

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this engaging conversation, I talk to Suzanne Noble, host of the podcast Sex Advice for Seniors, we explore the often-taboo topics surrounding ageing, sexuality, and the challenges faced by seniors. Suzanne shares her journey in founding 'Advantages of Age' and the importance of disrupting negative narratives about ageing. We discuss the complexities of desire, the significance of communication in relationships and the need for open discussions about sexual health. The conversation emphasises the importance of community and support in navigating the ageing process, while also addressing the innovations in sexual wellness that can enhance pleasure and intimacy for seniors.

Takeaways

Ageing narratives need to be disrupted to reflect reality.

Community support is vital for seniors facing challenges.

Sexuality does not diminish with age; it evolves.

Communication about sexual health is crucial for pleasure.

Many seniors lack information about sexual wellness.

Desire and libido are complex and influenced by many factors.

Lube and other aids should be normalised in conversations.

Ageing brings unique challenges that require attention from policymakers.

The importance of celebrating achievements in ageing through awards.

Everyone's experience of ageing and sexuality is unique.

Timestamps

01:14 Suzanne is on a mission to smash the stereotypes around ageing and sex

02:11 Media narrative around ageing

03:03 The Journey of Advantages of Age

06:42 Start up School for Seniors – to help people over 50 start a new business

08:43 Sex Advice for Seniors explained

09:53 This age group used to be sorted

13:12 Any surprises?

14:22 Getting back into sex in her 60s and reactions

17:17 Desire and libido are complex

19:30 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration

23:40 Interesting interview(s) on Sex Advice for Seniors

21:04 How easy is it to communicate about sex with your partner?

24:59 Dr Elliot Justin – Penis Ring

Suzanne's Links

https://advantagesofageawards.com/

https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pegging-and-the-older-man-how-to

https://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtech

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we explore the concept of a 'second childhood', emphasising the importance of embracing creativity, passion, and a sense of wonder akin to that of a child. We discuss how allowing oneself to experience these feelings can lead to personal growth and self-discovery.

Takeaways

The idea of second childhood, in a way, it is a second childhood.

Allowing yourself to have the same creativity and passions.

Absorption in things and awe and wonder as a little two and a half year old.

What is wrong with that?

Embracing creativity can lead to personal growth.

Passion is essential for a fulfilling life.

Awe and wonder can be rediscovered at any age.

Self-discovery is a lifelong journey.

Creativity should not be limited by age.

Allowing oneself to feel like a child can be liberating.

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of 'When the F*** Did I Become Old?', hosts Jo Parker and Corinne Franceschi explore the complex relationship between ageing and mindset. They discuss the impact of attitude, emotional memory, belief, and cultural perspectives on the ageing process. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, language, and the power of choice in shaping how we experience ageing. Through various studies and personal anecdotes, they highlight that while ageing is inevitable, our perception and approach to it can significantly influence our quality of life as we grow older.

Takeaways

Ageing is influenced by both mindset and physical factors.

Attitude plays a significant role in how we perceive ageing.

Emotional memory can affect our physical vitality as we age.

Belief in oneself can lead to positive physical changes.

Language and self-talk are crucial in shaping our ageing experience.

Cultural perspectives can impact how ageing is viewed and respected.

Mindfulness can help us stay present and aware as we age.

We have the power to choose our attitude towards aging.

Ageing is a complex interplay of various factors, not just mindset.

The freedom that comes with ageing can be liberating.

Timestamps

01:32 Mel Robbins podcast episode with De Ellen Lnager

02:46 The Mind-Body Connection in Ageing

03:40 Attitude and Ageing: A Complex Relationship

05:53 Emotional Memory and Its Impact on Ageing

09:50 Belief and Perception: Shaping Our Ageing Experience

13:40 How do Faith, Gender, Culture impact your Belief

14:46 Negativity around age

15:30 Cultural Perspectives on Ageing, how we make it more interesting and fun

16:37 The Role of Language and Mindfulness in Ageing

21:10 Belonging and Being Accepted

17:52 The Power of Choice in the Ageing Process

25:57 Is there Something Liberating about Getting Old

29:13 We Have a Choice

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Corinne Franceschi (ex head teacher)

In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers.

Takeaways

• Parkinson's affects everyone differently, with over 40 symptoms.
• Early onset Parkinson's tends to progress more slowly.
• There is a lack of awareness about Parkinson's as a growing neurological condition.
• Caregiving can lead to emotional detachment as a protective mechanism.
• Support systems are crucial but often lacking in understanding of Parkinson's.
• The impact of Parkinson's extends to family and relationships.
• Maintaining personal identity is vital for caregivers.
• Practical advice includes understanding treatment options and side effects.
• Finding joy and personal fulfillment is essential for caregivers.
• Establishing lasting power of attorney is important for managing care.

Timestamps

01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease

02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression

07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving

12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems

16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family

20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity

22:22 Depression and Dignitas

24:23 Going into a Care Home

26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney

28:09 Practical Advice for New Diagnoses

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Holistic Dentistry

Episode Summary: 

In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He 

explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very 

interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to 

other things in your body. 

Key Takeaways: 

Can toothache relate to something else in my body 

1st step is the most important one

Dr Elmar Jung’s podcast 

Timestamps: 

• [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung

• [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry

• [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth

• [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths 

• [19:28] – Fluoride 

• [22:10] – Where can we do our research

• [23:47] – How do we start 

• [27:50] – Root Canal

Dr Elmar's podcast Tooth Talk https://open.spotify.com/show/2nLSiWifMMs1QjUoXdiCng?si=56e0b821c4994583+-+Tooth+Talk&nd=1&dlsi=eac902f460a543cb

Root Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8

The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQH

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Kev ( my partner)!

Finding yourself after divorce...post 50

Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way.

Key Takeaways:

40% of marriages end in divorce

Everything has an end to it

Finding your identity

Timestamps:

• [01:36] – Kev’s divorce

• [05:10] – Identity

• [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling

• [18:44] – Kev going to India

• [24:25] – What you do creates your identity

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!

Shall we take the kids on holiday?

Episode Summary: 

In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the 

difficulties of holidays with pets. 

Key Takeaways: 

Creating family holidays and memories 

Paying for older children to go on holiday 

Why do we take them on holiday

Timestamps: 

• [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets

• [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids

• [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children

• [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday

• [22:03] – The last swansong

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!

Kev’s First When The F**K Moment

Episode Summary:

In this episode we introduce our co-host Kev Stockbridge and we discuss in depth his When the Fuck Did I become Old Moment. We talk about people’s perception of age and why Jo has to vet photos that go on social media.

Key Takeaways:

Someone else’s idea of old isn’t always your idea of old

Memories in Photo

Perception of how you look and how you feel

Timestamps:

•[01:14] – Introducing co host Kev Stockbridge

•[01:28] – Kev’s When the Fuck Moment

•[03:45] – Perception of age

•[08:45] – What age is perceived as old

•[11:58] – Why does Kev document with Photos

•[22:01] – Jo’s view of photos of her being on socials

Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo

Email us [email protected]

Our sponsor

https://sallyrule.com/

[email protected]

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.