When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees

I just wanted to check in with you on all the things happening in my life, and give you some tricks to overcome even the deepest sorrow. It's summer time in Chicago and I churn this heat into opportunity, here's how!

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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Today’s interview is a testament a perseverance. I connected with Obakeng Beddny three times because of technical difficulties.  Obakeng is a natural orator who will spur you to stand up, no matter what your beliefs may be, and invite you to recognize the love  that already resides in you. He is such a brilliant mind and radiant force in this world.

GUEST: Obakeng Beddny
@Obakengbeddny

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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This episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz returns to chat with me about how she felt the convo with her mother went. See episode 28 for part 2.

We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter.  I am simply examining why aren’t we talking about? Is it because of fear? 

GUEST: Jamie-Lyn Richartz
@_jamiekins

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter.  I am simply examining why aren’t we talking about? Is it because of fear? 

This episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz has a lovely conversation with her adoptive mother, Denise.  This will inspired you to speak from the heart more often. 

GUEST: Jamie-Lyn Richartz

Citations:
Ken Page
Marianne Williamson

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

I share what I do while in self-preservation mode, and how I get back into a space where I can feel the full spectrum of my emotions--without it consuming me. And of course, we talk about mothers and what that means to me as an adoptee this Mother's Day weekend. 

Material:
Poem by William Butler Yeats "Heaven's Embroidered Cloths"

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

My guest, Kevin Barhydt is the author of “Dear Stephen Micheal’s Mother” and the host of an  educative youtube channel. His wisdom is astounding. The depth of his vulnerability and authenticity truly inspired me. Kevin shares how he pivoted out of fear into faith by building a foundation of courage.

** Please note that this episode mentions sexual assault, abuse, and addiction but doesn't go into detail.

GUEST: Kevin Barhydt
https://www.kevinbarhydt.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpcB8oqL-10LcGkGbn23fIA

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Today’s guest has a blog called The Adoptee In Me. She speaks so beautifully about her connection to her son and father. Like me, she came from a single parent household. It’s rare that we have adoptees raised by just a father. Lionel in season one episode 14 is the only other adoptee I know. She and I connected instantly over the topics of family, worthiness and belonging. 

GUEST: Nicole Koharik
https://theadopteeinme.com/
https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

We will be back this month! I have been on hiatus but preparing to go live with some exciting new conversations. Thank you for your continued support.  Thanks for writing an itunes review :) Missed you!

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Hey loves! This week I just want to give you three books that have helped me create more than I ever have before this past year. Even though the sky was falling outside I continued to flourish in my artistic life. I want to share with you ways you can set, accomplish and hold fast to anything you set out to do. This is going to be a triumphant year! Let's fly! 

REFERENCES:
Podcast "Don't Keep Your Day Job" with Cathy Heller
https://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/

“Co-dependent No More" by Melody Beattie
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/720298.Codependent_No_More

"Honoring The self: Self esteem and personal transformation" by Nathaniel Branden
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/646185.Honoring_the_Self

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Merry Holidays! We check in with Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans to see how she feels last week's convo with her husband went. She's been married for 20 years! I had to find out her advice on enduring partnerships and figure out what it was like for her dating as an adoptee. Whether we know it or not our adoption impacts every relationship. It's up to you as to whether that impact is good or bad. 

GUEST: Dr Juliana Olson Deans
@_dr_juliana_Deans

REFERENCES:
Esther Perel:
https://www.estherperel.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...