When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees

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Today in this solo episode I wanted to talk to you about lost languages. I stumbled across this article called  “Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The Brain.” For those of you feeling overwhelmed (like me) with the idea of re-learning your mother-tongue this article gave me so much comfort and hope. 

REFERENCES:
Adoptees who taught themselves their native language:
Jacob Taylor Mosquera from Colombia ep.39
William Uhlaub from Haiti ep.8

BOOK:
Embers in the Ashes by Sabaa Tahir

Article
https://www.myenglishlanguage.com/2017/01/29/forgotten-first-languages-leave-imprint-on-brain/?fbclid=IwAR3TFhD8CRV-3mm_65sXzz1z7dC9oevfJSKMOl-aaTFgcZQtvR3CY-19UWY

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HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

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Jacob Taylor Mosquera is a Colombian adoptee who taught himself Spanish in two years and now teaches Spanish in Seattle. He is the author of, “I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging.” He shares his extraordinary  journey of discovery, self-actualization and identity. This is going to be a good one! 

GUEST:: Jacob Taylor Mosquera
https://www.imetmyselfmemoir.com/

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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Our guest today is Astrid Castro. You’ve heard me talk about how much I love the phrase “The Adoptee Constellation” before, and I first heard it from her. Astrid’s works in both the private and public sectors of various adoption organizations such the Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center (ORPARC), Holt International, Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchange to name just a few. She is the creator of The Adoption Mosaic which is a platform for compassionate, informed education, training and resources to the adoption constellation/community. This was such an illuminating conversation-- let's go!

GUEST:: Astrid Castro
 www.adoptionmosaic.com    

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

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Today’s guest  has one of the gentlest spirits I’ve ever encountered. Moses Farrow is a very active activists and a long time family therapist. In this conversation he gives some actionable steps to come back to yourself and begin the work to reconnecting with who you are. Moses Farrow is an advocate for mental health, adoption reform and suicide prevention.

GUEST:: Moses Farrow
#truthislouder
https://mosesfarrow.com/about-1

Website
https://mosesfarrow.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

 The co-founder and executive director of The Adoptee Collective reached out to me about a possible collaboration. She and I instantly hit it off. Heather Enright is not an adoptee but has an in-depth perspective having worked as a social worker for 19 years. After watching my panel series she had the intuitive ping to leave her current job and start a journey as an advocacy for adoptee . The first thing she said to me was, “I wait to be invited to the table, I don’t expect a seat.” My mind was blown—Such grace and humility from a non-adoptee! She Started The Adoptee Collective with Kara Donaldson, who is an adoptee. Their organization is built on all the different entry points of adoption. The Adoptee Collective acknowledges the adoptee constellation and how with  diverse perspectives all aiming at the same destination, they can reform the system. Powerful stuff, right? Now you know why I brought both of these amazing women to chat today to strategize on how we're going to change the world.


GUEST: Kara Donaldson & Heather Enright 
https://www.theadopteecollective.com/

Name drop:
Brene Brown
Karyn Purvis https://child.tcu.edu/#sthash.Jsdp6jZI.dpbs

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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This conversation is incredibly important if you have a child of another race, if your family is of another race,  or if you live on this planet. You will walk away more informed. My guest Issac Etter is an incredible educator, consultant, speaker, activist and social entrepreneur.  He’s the co-founder of SafeHouse Lancaster, where he is the co-executive director. Isaac also serves on the board of directors for The Keystone Business Alliance.

Heather Enright : Isaac Etter
https://isaacetter.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

This week is a solo episode to share some actionable steps to unlearn perfectionism. This is something that I am constantly working on and have finally gained some ground on through meditation and thought work. I've included some links to people who've helped me along the way. 

REFERENCES:
Joe Dispenza:
https://youtu.be/oFB6KDftGPY

Victory Albino:
https://victoriaalbina.com/

Expanded Podcast:
Episode on Perfectionism
https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast/2021/152

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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Today’s episode takes a deep dive into my perfectionism, boundaries and people pleasing. I did not intend for it to play out that way, but when I met Amy Geller, today’s guest, I was disarmed. She has a magical--Jedi way of getting down to the root of the issue in a matter of minutes—I could have spoken with her for hours. I can see why she is so successful in her work helping clients through depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, loss and adoption. Amy is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Professional Advocate Member Association for Training and Attachment in Children, and a member of Member: American Adoption Congress.  Amy truly has a gift for listening, healing and guiding into deeper a awareness. 

GUEST : Amy Geller
https://www.amygellerlcsw.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

I lost my grandmother, and my aunt Juliana lost her mother about a month ago.
We asked Dr. Charmaine Borda to interview myself and my biological aunt, 
Dr Juliana  Olson- Deans, because Charmaine is a close friend of Juliana’s and I have loved getting to know her this last year. Both of these women are adoptees who work as clinical psychologists in the world— they have a beautifully 3 dimension view of the trauma, truth and the healing that encases adoption.
I’m deeply grateful that they have returned yet again to impart wisdom and sister ship.
 
GUEST: Dr. Charmaine Borda & Dr Juliana  Olson- Dean
https://www.thebluecouch.org/about

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...