When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees

Today's guest, Nikki Webster is the illustrator Nikki Often,  heart warming comics that "Punch you in the gut." We discuss the following:

• Allowing your child to sleep with you for as long as possible
• Nikki's work comics
• What is a "miracle of tenacity"
• How to overcome feelings of not being enough as we both dabble in public speaking. 

GUEST: Nikki Webster
https://www.nikkioften.com/
@nikkioften

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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Today's guest is the author, film maker and coach, Anne Heffron. Anne wrote  “You Don’t Look Adopted,” “Making a Mess: Writing and Pooping,” “Truth Agency: Writing Ideas for people who were adopted,” and she co-wrote the film “Phantom Halo.” Anne facilitates writing workshops and retreats designed to empower, instill confidence and make people excited to be alive.

We discuss:

• Approaching life and trauma from an angle
• Adoptee's relationship with Enough-ness and financial security
• How yoga and other healing modalities have shaped our lives
• What it means to be extraordinary vs ordinary

GUEST: Anne Heffron
https://www.anneheffron.com/

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Today I speak with Isaac Etter, a social entrepreneur, transracial adoptee, founder of  Identity a startup focused on using technology to help foster and adoptive families thrive, and the owner of a small business strategy agency called, Etter Consulting. Identity is dedicated to equiping parents so that the children are empowered. 
GUEST: Isaac Etter
https://isaacetter.com/

RECOURCES:
Heart and Mind Therapy

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@lantoines
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MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

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Our guest Emma Stevens is an mother, trainer and the author of "The Gathering Place: An adoptee's Story" and newly released,  "A Fire is Coming." We unpack the uses of the healing modality, EMDR Therapy (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), and she touches on her tumultuous childhood with her adoptive parents, the gift of learning how to take up space, Benefits of tapping as another tool of healing, how she chose life after years of alcoholism, and how deconstructing belief systems led to writing her book, and thereby teaching her how to help others get unstuck. And finally she breaks down how to self-publish a book, step by step. 

GUEST: Emma Stevens
@Emmastevenswriter
https://linktr.ee/emmastevenswriter

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MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

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DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Today's guest, Patrick Armstrong (he/him) discusses  creating his podcasts and what that entails, how he builds empathy with and for the community outside of the adoption constellation, and how "adoptee" is an identity that one inhabits. We also delve into what differentiates an activist from advocate and how he navigates the construct of "whiteness". 

Patrick is an adoptee from Korea, a  podcaster, speaker, and community facilitator. He is one of the hosts of the Janchi Show, a podcast that explores and celebrates the experiences and stories of Korean adoptees . Patrick is a producer and editor on the Dear Asian Americans podcast. He is also the cofounder of the Asian Adoptees of Indiana.

GUEST: Patrick Armstrong
Website: https://www.patrickintheworld.me
Instagram: @patrickintheworld
TikTok: @patrickintheworld
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/patrickintheworld
Podcasts:
- The Janchi Show (Host)
- Dear Asian Americans (Producer)
- Conversation Piece with Patrick Armstrong (Host)

REFERENCES:
Book:
Building A Story Brand

Lewis Howes "School of Greatness" Podcast
Episode 1409

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DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

We start this season off with a one-on-one "calling in." I talk about the adverse affects of conflict avoidance and the true promise of accountability.

REFERENCES:
Victoria Albina "Feminine Wellness"
https://victoriaalbina.com/podcast/

Calling In vs calling Out
https://edib.harvard.edu/files/dib/files/calling_in_and_calling_out_guide_v4.pdf?m=1625683246

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MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!

DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
15% off Code: WTWY

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

This is the last episode in Season 3! Hoorah! And before we go on a short hiatus, I want to breakdown why and what I mean by "Where can you apply courage?" and "Courage, my love." This word is the the bedrock of this work, so let's find out why. 

References:
Brene Brown
William Ernest Henley "Invictus"

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CONNECT WITH HOST:
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@lantoines
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MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

SPONSORSHIPS:
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DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
15% off Code: WTWY

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Today’s guest is Sandy White Hawk who is the Executive Director at First Nations Repatriation Institute. She and I take the gloves off with this one. We discuss white supremacy in indigenous communities, systematic removal and problematic placements of adoptees, changing of adoptee names, and what unconditional love looks like. The mainstream doesn’t talk about what happens when the adoptee is adopted into an unsafe or unsupportive household. You hear stories of re-homing because the child had special needs or didn’t get along with the biblical children, but conversely the adoptive child’s perspective is just as valuable and needs to be brought to the forefront. 

Guest: Sandy White Hawk

www.wearecominghome.org

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DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

Julie McGue graces my podcast today. We talk about the journey she took to write the extraordinary memoir, “Twice A Daughter” with her twin sister. Julie and I delve into the challenge of asking adoptive parents for adoption information, and how important it is to know your medical history. She also found some kismet moments where writing her story opened new up conversations and opportunities for healing

GUEST: Julie McGue

https://juliemcgueauthor.com/

Angela Rye:

Comments on Supreme Court ruling on abortion:

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CfM3g_qDgYs/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Amand Wooston (Episode 10):

https://www.instagram.com/amandawoolstonadoption/?hl=en

Melissa Guida Richards (Episode 6):

https://www.instagram.com/adoptee_thoughts/?hl=en

Dr. Cam Lee Smalls:

https://www.instagram.com/therapyredeemed/?hl=en

Support the show

CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com

WATCH ON YOUTUBE Here!

MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!

DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
15% off Code: WTWY

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...

My guest today is  Lina Vanegas who is an advocate for Displaced adoptee rights, mental health awareness, suicide prevention and is also the co-host of the podcast “Rescripting The Narrative”. We discuss how war is a prime opportunity for displaced children ending up in the adoption cycle, what advocacy can looking like in the adoption community, and suicide preventions for adoptees. 

GUEST: Lina Venegas
@linaleadswithlove 
Rescripting The Narrative Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rescripting-the-narrative/id1577193193

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MERCH here "I am my Hero" and "Courage, my love" Tees

SPONSORSHIPS:
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DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
15% off Code: WTWY

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:

NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":

RESOURCES ON ...