Romans 8:5-18 KJV

5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.

6 For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.

8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.

10 And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.

11 But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you.

12 Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh.

13 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

What do you have a marriage or a mirage one is real and one is not? One is real and comes with trails and one comes with what you think it should be without ever learning fully what state you are in as an individual but yet believe you have figured each other out. One is living by faith while walking with God individually and collectively. The other is presenting yourselves one way in public but possibly living in hell and hopelessness behind closed doors. When are we gonna be truthful about how hard marriage is  in general and especially without God.

Often times people just like having the form of Godliness but denying the power There of and will treat the institute of marriage like a fairytale and believe you will move to a fairytale land have fairytale children. We are here to tell you the truth about marriage and how you should be a whole and complete person before you marry someone. If you get married young enough you might not even know who you are yet so with all the blissfullness you will feel on your wedding day and love making that will soon come of concercation unto God that yall will do. There is also this concern when you take a moment to remember I have no clue who I am and what I will be now. I have a responsibility of a role I've never been in before. I've been a daughter/son to my parents so I know how to be a child. I've gone to school so I know how to be a student so I think. In fact I've come through elementary, middle , high school and college. But yet I still don't know me fully and now after dating this man/woman I must be committed to learning them everyday simultaneously learning me and trying to find my way in and with the Lord. So after your honeymoon baby the real work begins. I've been working so I know how to be an employee. So many roles I've filled a friend because I have friends. But now is the ultimate test of faith, love, constant forgiveness, and understanding and even misunderstandings. We named our podcast when two worlds collide because we are man and woman coming together from two different backgrounds and upbringings that share paths and similarities but we have to learn to collide without causing damage, hurt, and pain. We have to bring ourselves and thoughts and ideas from each world we have been in and came from but create our own that will flow with us. So I ask you do you have a marriage or a mirage? What is a marriage?  Marriage is an institution, a unity a bond created by God to carry out his plan to in Genesis 1:26-28, 2:7,18,21-25

So created man after his image and likeness. So you see first thing God did was create our spirit male/female then gave our spirit a mandate to be fruitful, multiply, replenish the earth, have dominion and subdue it.  He created man out of the dust from the ground and said man should not be alone. He said after creating all the animals that there was none fit for Adam and so God creates Eve out of Adam. Then Adam called her woman and said she would be his bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh his wife thus There were married. A mirrage

an optical illusion caused by atmospheric conditions, especially the appearance of a sheet of water in a desert or on a hot road caused by the refraction of light from the sky by heated air.

• something that appears real or possible but is not in fact so.

MIRAGE in its extended sense applies to an illusory vision, dream, hope, or aim

Eph 5:20-33 KJV 20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sa

Pro 13:24 ISV Whoever does not discipline his son hates him, but whoever loves him is diligent to correct him.

Pro 22:6 KJV Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.(In his way meaning you have to cultivate your children find out what your children have interest in. That's the pressure of next living vicariously through your child from a place from something that wasn't afforded to you. If you are not careful you will lose your child and they will lose their identity because of your frustrated place and resentment in your life you didn't have that you have to provide for them and you didn't spend time seeing what they want to do so they rebel. Have a firm foundation of respect but let them know it's ok to find their own way and you can help the outcome by not trying to control the narrative. Your kid might not want to go to college after high-school or at all are you gonna be OK with that?

Pro 3:11-12 ISV 11 My son, do not reject the LORD’s discipline, and do not despise his correction,

12 because the LORD corrects the person he loves, just as a father corrects the son he delights in.

Heb 12:6-8 ISV 6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he punishes every son he accepts.”

7 What you endure disciplines you: God is treating you as sons. Is there a son whom his father does not discipline?

8 Now if you are without any discipline, in which all sons share, then you are illegitimate and not God’s sons.

Stay in a child's place what does that mean? I've heard it mean stay out of Grow folks business you're to grown right now and your mouth is smart. But Jesus said a little child shall led them. He also said that unless you are like one these children (meek. Humble, pure) you won't see the Kingdom of heaven. So maybe we need to normalize listening to your children watching them around people maybe God has given them insight because you missed it and is trying to work patience in your through your children. But because you have bills and you doing things like it's always been done like your granny that wooped your mom and your mom that wooped you that's all you know. Take time and talk to your children and let them express themselves and correct them but don't discipline them out of your confusion and make them confused and then when trouble comes their way they won't talk to you because you forced them to hide and or suppress their emotions so they drink, smoke, sex, fight it away instead of dealing with it.

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Sometimes it's not even about getting to open doors or getting away from closed ones. God himself controls what doors are opened and closed. It says so in

Revelation 3:7

And to the angel of the church in Philadelphia write; These things saith he that is holy, he that is true, he that hath the key of David, he that openeth, and no man shutteth; and shutteth, and no man openeth;

But I believe the key is to be consistent as to undo, remove, avoid, and or prevent complacency and stagnation. Things do get tough sometimes but we are built for it as God said he would be with us in trouble and that he wouldn't put more on us to bare. He also says his strength is made perfect in our weaknesses. Meaning don't have to be perfect! We can in fact be weak and trust God that he will see us through. Don't quit, don't, cave in, don't through in the towel! Keep pressing on. Even if you fall or fail get up!!! Even if it hurts, keep pressing on. In fact press towards the mark of the high calling in Jesus!!! We all have a destiny that if we are obedient and God continues to be gracious towards us we will see and make through but even when we can't see the finish line you don't through around your running shoes you keep running, and when you can't jog, if you can't jog, walk, and if you can't walk crawl, or ask for help but don't give up!!!

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Truma makes you time travel....couples' Edition!! Yes, we are back with another episode of our podcast we are talking about our experiences how dealing with each others truma and offering things we learned along the way.. Please enjoy and chop it up with us in the comments. God bless you 🙏🏾

Have you dealt with each other's truma?

What ways have you and your spouse dealt with each overs truma?

When two worlds collide and courageous-beauty collaboration podcasts!!!

Truma makes you time travel....couples' Edition!! Yes, we are back with another episode of our podcast we are talking about our experiences how dealing with each others truma and offering things we learned along the way.. Please enjoy and chop it up with us in the comments. God bless you 🙏🏾

Have you dealt with each other's truma?

What ways have you and your spouse dealt with each overs truma?

Welcome to When-two-worlds-collide Podcast! Where My Husband (Benny) me (Krystyles) come together in conversation to share our different perspectives on varies topics we come across. We learned a long time ago that we come from two different worlds; meaning families, ideas, backgrounds, and male and female opinions. But, that we can collaborate and collide together as one without harm, anger, resentment, but in love and respect for each other's points of view! So as we share our   views relax, take a listen and join us in the comments!

In this episode: Krystyles and Benny take you on a trip down the lane on how When two worlds collide when you have a Introvert and an Extrovert. We did this segment as a vlog style Benny is more introverted and Krystyles is more extroverted. Both of us have experienced being the opposite. We went into depth on why we feel we are the way we are in terms of where it stems from and how to look for clues as to how it can affect you. Not to shun or downplay anyone just sharing our thoughts on how to be more balanced in whatever you relate to and how to recover and or cope  in our opportunity areas. Also given encouragement to be whom God has made you!

In this world everyone is trying to be ok everyday! There is all these motivational, self-help, church sermons, which all can help but, sometimes you are just gonna have to feel, deal, and then heal from the real! Let's normalize not faking it until we make it baby!! No more faking, no more facades, fake smiles, and merry-go-rounds! To thy own self be true. If today you are feeling blue it's cool. Allow yourself to feel what you feel and how you feel so you can heal foreal. Later for the times of being captain save em. Save yourselves by allowing the real you to surface and allow God arise and his enemies be scattered. No more being a spiritual trash can!!! It's ok to no be ok, everyday but through God you can make it even in those days just don't fake it when those days come.

In this episode we keep it real and authentic! Is forgiveness an easy thing to do? Is it possible to truly forgive and let a situation go? Hopefully we can answer some of those questions for you, so tune in and enjoy the show!!

This podcast is featuring my Cousin Chalet from The Friendship Movement on Instagram! What is something in your past relationship(s) that if you talk about it will take you back to that situation when it happened? Trust/communication 2. How do you cope with what happened to you? 3. How has it affected you in your current relationship(s)? 4. What advice can you give to other woman that might be experiencing the same truma and or triggers? 5. Closing statements Woman you now have to learn to move on and forward! You should now focus on finding your identity and who you are and who you are not! I believe that our identities are in Christ. However you have to figure out what you believe and make it work for you. You need to practice self-discovery and have the self-discipline to no longer participate in self-sabatoge and understand and normalize self-love love of self. God is love and because we are made after his image and likeness which means we are love too. We infact are love incarnate? We are walking, talking, breathing, thinking, believing love! So it's ok to abandoned your fears in this moment.