This week’s Saturday Contemplation sits with the truth that many parts of our lives don’t get the endings we hoped for. Conversations fade, relationships drift, and chapters close without warning. Instead of forcing closure, this contemplation explores what softens in us when we let some things remain unfinished.

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Mortality feels different when you’re sitting beside a parent and waiting for the breath that doesn’t return. In this call, we stay close to that moment—not with big theories or tidy comfort, but with the real stuff: complicated love, sudden anger, the guilt that shows up long after it’s “too late,” and the small rituals we use to get ourselves through the night.

He talks about a fractured relationship, the final hours in the hospital, and the split-second when a kind nurse became the target of blame. From there, the conversation widens into the quieter parts of grief—how guilt can rewrite reality, why it hangs on longer than we expect, and how a little compassion for ourselves can change the shape of it.

We also talk about the practical side of death that most people avoid: doctors bringing up end-of-life plans, families dodging hard conversations, and what it means to leave behind a simple manual so the people we love don’t have to untangle everything alone. (Yes, even down to the Costco casket.)

Threaded through all of this is a deeper question: what does it mean to feel accomplished before our time runs out? For him, it's still unanswered—and maybe that’s the point. We build our worldview brick by brick: faith, science, memory, experience. Some bricks hold more weight than others, but together they’re what keep us standing.

Book Recommendation: Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky

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This week’s Saturday Contemplation turns toward a truth most of us struggle to look at: our time is limited, whether we see it clearly or not. Some people learn this through illness or loss. For the rest of us, the illusion of “later” makes it easy to forget.

Instead of treating that reality as something bleak, this contemplation explores how it can clarify what matters. What becomes precious when we acknowledge we won’t live forever and what quietly falls away when we stop pretending we have endless time?

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This week’s caller has lived with death in the background for most of her life—first through migraines that began when she was six, and later through a brain tumor that went undiagnosed for more than twenty years. By the time doctors caught it, she had spent a full year in a migraine that never let up. Surgery changed everything: her mood lifted, her pain eased, and even her tastebuds shifted. But the possibility of recurrence remains, shaping how she moves through the world.

What unfolds from there is part philosophy, part physics, part Wonderland. She talks about Alice in Wonderland Syndrome—the surreal way migraines can distort scale, shape, and the edges of the body—and how that lived strangeness pushed her toward math, spacetime, Flatland, and the comfort of unanswerable questions. Instead of trying to solve the mystery of death, she leans into the idea that some things can’t be known from this side of the line.

We also talk about community, belonging, and the unexpected places spirituality can live. Her weekly gathering is a pagan group that meets—of all places—in a church basement, lighting candles, crafting together, playing D&D, and caring for one another in a way that feels more meaningful than dogma ever has. When strong emotions can trigger pain, moderation becomes a survival skill, but it doesn’t stop her from pursuing what she loves or finding wonder in the smallest things.

The conversation circles around identity, too—how a person can wake up from brain surgery wondering if they’re still themselves, how preferences shift but the core stays intact, and how tiny we are in the universe without being insignificant. Her philosophy lands with a simple truth: sometimes the experience is worth the migraine. Even skydiving, if she can make it happen.

Book Recommendation: Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll

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This week’s Saturday Contemplation looks at the heart of this entire project. Why we even choose to think about death in the first place.

It’s not about fear or morbidity. It’s about presence. When we turn toward death instead of away from it, life starts to look and feel different. The ordinary becomes sacred. The temporary becomes meaningful. And we remember what it really means to be alive.

Normally, this would be a bonus episode exclusively for WWDT+ members but it felt important to share the contemplation on “Why We Contemplate Death” with everyone. Honestly, it probably should’ve been the first one, but here we are.

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This week’s caller is a psychotherapist whose first brush with mortality came early—at just six years old, when her father was struck in the head by a baseball. He survived, but not as the same man. That experience became the quiet force behind a lifelong curiosity about loss, consciousness, and the fragile line between who we are and who we were.

What begins as a conversation about death unfolds into an exploration of Buddhism, the bardos, psychedelics, and the ways grief lives in the body long after words run out. Together, we look at how facing death can soften the grip of perfectionism, reshape purpose, and turn the so-called “midlife crisis” into something closer to a midlife awakening.

It’s an open, grounded look at how spiritual practice, somatic work, and self-inquiry can help loosen our attachment to certainty—and how doing so might just make life feel more vivid.

If you’ve ever wondered how to live before it’s too late, this one’s worth the listen. Share it with a friend who needs a nudge, follow for more conversations like this, and leave a review to help others find the show.

Book Recommendation: How We Live Is How We Die by Pema Chödrön

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This week’s Saturday Contemplation explores the miracle of simply being here — the cosmic chain of events that led to this single moment. From the vastness of the universe to the smallest details of daily life, we reflect on how awareness transforms the ordinary into something extraordinary. Because when you really stop to notice, even breathing can feel like a miracle.

In honor of the two-year anniversary of When We Die Talks, all Saturday Contemplations from October are available to everyone — a small thank-you for being part of this project and for helping it grow from a single voicemail into a larger conversation.

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This week’s caller, a father who lost his son to suicide eighteen months ago, speaks with rare clarity about grief, meaning, and why skepticism doesn’t have to harden into despair. The premise is simple and brave: if consciousness is a function of the brain and ends when the brain stops, how do we live with love and purpose anyway?

We trace the moment death moved from abstract to intimate, and how that shift rewired his priorities. Together, we explore the boundaries between belief and evidence, the role of expertise in a world drowning in noise, and the difference between orthodoxy and honest inquiry. It’s a grounded look at life and death through the lens of neuroscience, traumatic brain injury, and the humility to say “I don’t know,” paired with the courage to keep asking.

Along the way, fear of mortality gives way to something sturdier: presence. Not as a slogan, but as a practice that slows time and fills ordinary moments with weight—coffee with a friend, fresh air on a hard day, a laugh that lightens the room. He describes a pilgrimage to wild places, carrying a small portion of his son’s ashes to mountains and lakes his son hoped to see. No grand promises—just a vow to live fully, love fiercely, and make meaning in the world we can still touch.

If you’re craving real talk about death, grief, science, and the fragile gift of being alive, press play. Then share this with someone you love, subscribe for more honest conversations, and leave a review to tell us what presence looks like in your life today.

Book Recommendation: The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams (Maybe the most emotional book recommendation we’ve had yet.)

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This week’s Saturday Contemplation invites you to notice what often goes unseen — the quiet moments that make up a life. From the hum of a familiar room to the light shifting across a wall, we explore how impermanence turns the ordinary into something sacred. Gratitude, after all, begins with paying attention.

In honor of the two-year anniversary of When We Die Talks, all Saturday Contemplations from October are available to everyone — a small thank-you for being part of this project and for helping it grow from a single voicemail into a larger conversation.

The first contemplation of every month will always be free. But if you want the full experience — every weekly Saturday Contemplation and early access to new podcast episodes — you’ll need to join WWDT+. It’s the best way to support the show, keep these conversations alive, and make sure you don’t miss out on the reflections reserved only for members.

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What would it mean to release your grip on the things you can’t control? This week’s Saturday Contemplation explores the quiet art of letting go — of expectations, identities, and moments that have already passed. Through breath and awareness, we reflect on how surrender can open space for peace, acceptance, and renewal.

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