Contrary to what you may hear from feminist, the majority of women that we work with in our office desire a good man in their lives. When asked what women are looking for here are some general answers and themes that we see in our office as well as what we read in the research. 

Empathy and understanding
Open and honest communication
Shared values and goals
Mutual respect
Shared responsibilities
Equality in decision-making
Intellectual stimulation
Shared interests and hobbies
Reliability and Dependability
Trustworthiness
Commitment
Financial stability
Leadership and Confidence 
Direction and Vision
Solid Values and Morals 
Commitment to Leading the Family Well

The challenge is that these men are harder and harder to find.  Women often find themselves settling or simply going without a man even though they desire a good man. 

There are many reasons that women are having a harder time finding the man of their dreams, but a few that we see and the research supports are:
Lacking Maturity - we know that now more than ever we have men that are slower to get their driver's licenses, go to college or trade school, move out of their parents’ house, or embark on a career. 

Lacking Motivation - We know that more than ever, young men are addicted to video games that steal hours of their days as they become over-stimulated by a false world.  This results in young men that are excited or motivated by the slower paced “wins” of real life and thus lose interest and motivation to do real life. 

Lacking Fathers - Possibly the largest contributor to the stunted growth of our young men is the simple fact that they lacked a father that challenged and encouraged them to actually become a man.  They make statements like; “I never had anyone show me how to do that”

Lacking Identity - The mixing of roles and responsibilities has driven women to do even more, while it has confused men with recognizing their gifts and what they can bring to the relationship.

Lacking Moral and Spiritual Compass - God’s Word is very clear on what his design is for men, but if you don’t know or believe in God’s Word, you have lost an opportunity to learn and receive an upbringing that gives you a clear vision of what it is to be a man. 

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