You cannot give what you haven't got.
HEW works with the ethos that everything you desire is within you and therefore to achieve any of this, you must learn and accept the need for you to be selfish. Working on you first before anything else. A simple yet powerful concept.
It doesn't mean you turn your back on everything and everyone else, just temporarily channel your energy, time, effort and finance into #youfirst for the long term gain.
In which time what and who you may have given too much to, may not belong in your life anymore by being consciously unaligned to who you are and what is important to you.