I sat down with Morgan Snyder, author of Becoming a King and founder of Become Good Soil. At 50, Morgan opens up about his liminal season: turning 50, launching his adult kids, empty-nesting with Cherri, stepping away from 26 years with John Eldredge at Wild at Heart, and choosing a biblical Jubilee year of intentional pause, grief, and unlearning.

He gets raw about excavating his false self, naming his deepest fear, redeeming 25 years of marriage from broken beginnings, and shifting from building big platforms to quietly serving the thirsty few as a spiritual father in the second half of life.

This episode is my invitation to you—especially men (and the women who love them)—who are ready to slow down, grieve what must die, let fear become a guide, integrate your shattered parts, and apprentice yourself to God’s subversive, mustard-seed kingdom. Fewer people. Deeper relationships. Exponential impact over scale.

If you’re in midlife transition, wrestling with identity, or craving wholehearted leadership that flows from being rather than doing, press play. It works. Slow and steady brings forth the kingdom.

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If you're ready to align your identity, marriage, and vocation so you can lead wholeheartedly—from a sound mind and a healthy soul—I'm here to walk with you.

I help high-performers (entrepreneurs, CEOs, founders, senior leaders, sales executives, and mission-driven men) get honest about their story, untangle limiting beliefs, renew their mind with truth, and live with clarity, confidence, and purpose that flows into every area of life.

No more performing from a false self. No more disconnected marriage or vocation that drains your soul. Just real, wholehearted leadership that honors God and serves others deeply.

Ready to explore what this could look like for you?

• Start with my free Unlock Intimacy Challenge: 7 days for Christ-following entrepreneurs to rebuild connection with your wife.
• Or book a no-pressure discovery conversation to talk confidentially about your story. lantzhoward.com and click "Work with Lantz."

I'm selective with who I take on—spots are limited because this work is deep, personal, and life-changing. If you're thirsty for real alignment and maturity, reach out. I'd be honored to serve you.

Peace and courage on your journey,Lantz Howard

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In this heartfelt episode of Whole Hearted Leadership Coaching Conversations, host Lantz Howard sits down with longtime friend Dr. Jay Raines, CEO of LeadersQ and author of the new book Culture Brand: A Proven Framework for Building a Culture That Wins.

Jay traces his path from nonprofit leadership and launching a leadership development firm in India (working with Toyota and startups) to returning to the U.S. in 2016 and growing LeadersQ—where he and his team have delivered thousands of coaching hours to over 80 Chick-fil-A owner-operators and hundreds of other leaders.

The conversation blends personal vulnerability and practical wisdom:

• Protecting marriage through weekly “Sunday night board meetings”
• The family-balanced, multi-year journey of writing his book
• How running brought mental clarity—and how a shattered shin during a half-marathon forced him to confront absence of presence, learn dependence, and cultivate peace and a victor mindset

Jay unveils his Culture Brand framework—a Venn diagram that balances three essentials:

• Results — excellence, accountability, goal-driven performance
• Teaming — collaboration, encouragement, developing others
• Character — coachability, dependability, ownership, attitude

Character serves as the “glue,” integrating results and relationships. He illustrates this with stories from introducing servant leadership in hierarchical Indian business cultures and real client transformations.

The episode closes with a striking metaphor: the Dodda Alada Mara (Big Banyan Tree) in Bangalore—a single tree spanning acres, thriving through interconnected “feeder” trunks long after the original center died—symbolizing cultures that endure and scale beyond the founder.

Key Takeaways

• Guard sacred relational time (weekly spouse check-ins) as a core leadership habit.
• Physical discipline sharpens mental clarity and reveals blind spots—suffering often exposes where we’re not truly present.
• Lead from an “empty cup” (building relational trust) rather than a “full cup” (relying on authority)—it multiplies impact through abundance instead of scarcity.
• Assess your team across Results, Teaming, and Character; celebrate strengths, but transparently tackle weaknesses—starting with yourself.
• Intentionally build cultures that scale and leave a living legacy.

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Learn more about coaching with Lantz Howard and discover how you can lead wholeheartedly in your true identity.

In this raw and transformative episode of Wholehearted Leadership, host Lantz Howard sits down with Dr. Wayne Chappelle (aka Dr. C), a clinical and sports psychologist with over two decades of experience serving military special operations, the OKC Thunder, and high-profile leaders like Craig Groeschel. As co-author of the new book Heal Your Hurting Mind , Dr. Chappelle shares profound insights on achieving extraordinary results while maintaining wholeness in life, leadership, and relationships.

From identifying the "7 wounds" that derail men (bottle, money, zipper, temperament, wolves, pride/ego, jealousy/envy, control) to candid discussions on sexual integrity in marriage, reframing anxiety and trauma as growth opportunities, and avoiding burnout through intentional rhythms, this conversation is a blueprint for men seeking to lead with heart and resilience. Whether you're a leader, husband, or high-performer, Dr. Chappelle's blend of behavioral science and biblical wisdom will challenge and equip you.

Key Timestamps:

• 00:00 - Introduction and welcome to Dr. Wayne Chappelle
• 02:03 - Dr. Chappelle's professional journey: From clinical psychology to special ops and sports
• 03:37 - Personal life: 31 years of marriage, recent dates, and leadership lessons
• 07:20 - The 7-8 wounds that wreck high-achieving men (and how to spot them)
• 10:27 - The power of "wingmen" – Story of General Petraeus and protecting yourself from yourself
• 13:52 - Wounds vs. human vulnerabilities: Why strengths can become weaknesses
• 15:35 - Dr. Chappelle's personal vulnerabilities and the thorn in Paul's side
• 16:35 - Deep dive: Sexual integrity, zipper wounds, and why Christian men struggle most here
• 20:42 - Reframing porn, arousal, and masturbation in marriage – Biblical insights from Song of Solomon
• 23:10 - Emotional needs behind sexual desires: Connection, admiration, and heroism
• 26:30 - Practical advice: Self-control, frequency, and avoiding selfishness in solo sex
• 30:58 - Bringing secrets into the light: Role of wingmen, therapists, and open talks
• 34:54 - Genesis of Heal Your Hurting Mind with Craig Groeschel – From exhaustion to endurance
• 37:10 - Engineering life for joy: Mindset, habits, adventure (flying, jiu-jitsu), and authentic masculinity
• 40:15 - Navigating burnout: Diet, exercise, sleep, and intentional rest
• 41:51 - Reframing anxiety: Embrace 5-7 levels for optimal performance – Anti-pop psychology
• 44:22 - Trauma as opportunity: Diamonds under pressure and Romans 8:28
• 48:35 - Closing encouragement: Continuous growth, seeking help, and becoming your best self

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Heal Your Hurting Mind by Craig Groeschel and Dr. Wayne Chappelle

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What does it mean to stand in total darkness and become a beacon for others? On September 11, 2001, former U.S. Secret Service agent Darin Kinder was inside the World Trade Center complex when the towers fell. He ran from collapsing buildings, guided desperate people toward light in pitch-black debris clouds, and survived one of history’s darkest days.

But this episode isn’t just a 9/11 survival story.

Twenty-four years later, Darin shares how that trauma became the backdrop for discovering true purpose, healing through obedience, and a lifelong vow: to live (and one day be buried) in a “dirty suit”—sleeves rolled up, getting into the mess of life for God’s glory instead of staying clean and comfortable.

In this powerful conversation, Darin opens up about:

• The moment he stood in an alley amid screams and dust, calling strangers to safety—and the spiritual metaphor he only saw 10 years later
• Why stuffing down pain doesn’t work, and how sharing his story brought unexpected healing
• The three core traits he’s instilling in his four sons (and every man listening): integrity, courage, and compassion
• Protecting marriage and family during high-stakes seasons (including post-9/11 chaos)
• His promise to God after seeing “clean suits” vs. “dirty suits” on 9/11—and why he wants every man to reject a passive, shiny life

If you’re a leader, father, husband, or man feeling the pull toward deeper purpose, this episode is your rallying cry.

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Are you struggling to discover your true identity? Or experience deeper intimacy with your wife? Reach out to Lantz Howard to start the conversation. Or take the free assessment to scan the health of your marriage and leadership.

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Join Lantz and Timothy in this conversation about navigating the sale of his generational business and the journey of coming into his true identity. Hear from Timothy on how identity coaching transformed not only the peace to sell his business but also took his marriage to the next level as well.

Would you like to discover your true identity and have more intimacy in your marriage? Reach out to Lantz to start the conversation.

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In this episode, Lantz Howard sits down with authors and marriage experts Jill and Mark Savage, and the author of 14 books, No More Perfect Marriage. Together, they explore how attachment styles shape our marriages, leadership, and emotional presence—often without us realizing it.

Jill and Mark unpack the familiar “cat and dog” dynamic—anxious pursuit and avoidant withdrawal—and how these patterns quietly fuel conflict, distance, and misunderstanding. Drawing from decades of marriage ministry, personal story, and clinical insight, they invite couples and leaders to move beyond performance, perfection, and coping strategies into secure attachment, honest connection, and lasting intimacy.

This conversation is especially relevant for high-capacity leaders and husbands who are successful externally but longing for a deeper connection at home. Rather than offering quick fixes, this episode calls men and women into courageous self-awareness, emotional maturity, and a marriage rooted in grace—not perfection.

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In this conversation, Lantz Howard sits down with Mark Moore, pastor, teacher, and author of Core 52 , Quest 52, Wisdom 52, and more to explore why biblical wisdom isn’t information to master—but formation to live into.

Together, they unpack the difference between knowledge and wisdom, why so many leaders are spiritually informed yet inwardly exhausted, and how a slow, intentional engagement with Scripture can stabilize the soul in a distracted, accelerated world.

Mark shares insights from decades of teaching and pastoring, emphasizing the power of weekly rhythms, long obedience, and letting God’s Word shape not just beliefs—but desires, decisions, and leadership presence.

This episode is a call back to depth over hustle, formation over performance, and wisdom that actually holds when life and leadership get heavy.

Perfect for leaders, husbands, pastors, and high-capacity men who want more than quick inspiration—they want lives that are rooted, resilient, and whole.

Coaching that aligns identity, marriage, and vocation for extraordinary success.

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Faith-driven leaders often win at work while quietly running a deficit at home. In this conversation, C12 CEO Mike Sharrow joins Lantz Howard to unpack why so many high-capacity Christian CEOs experience “artificial buoyancy” in marriage—appearing stable because of spiritual convictions and financial margin, while intimacy atrophies.

Mike shares C12’s peer-advisor model, their marriage check-in, and a vision for business as ministry that re-centers the CEO to stay focused on Jesus. From the “locker room vs. field of play” church metaphor to a military-grade picture of vulnerability in marriage, this episode invites leaders to run into the storm, tell the truth, and build the only enterprise guaranteed to outlast the P&L: the family.

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Lantz Howard is a Marriage Transformation Coach for Entrepreneurs, CEO's, and high-achieving men.

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In this episode of The Wholehearted Leadership Coaching Conversation, Lantz Howard sits down with Peter Greer, CEO of Hope International and author of more than a dozen books including Mission Drift and Lead with Prayer.

Together, they explore the challenges leaders face in staying aligned with their true calling, how to avoid mission drift, and the practical rhythms that help leaders finish the race .

Top 5 Learnings

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Welcome back, friends.

Jessica and I sit down to unpack the difference between resistance and rejection in marriage. Resistance isn’t always a “no”; often it’s an invitation to slow down, draw out the deep desires, and find deeper alignment.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to share your desires clearly, navigate mismatched expectations, and turn tension into deeper connection.

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