Whole Self Podcast

What is healthy submission and boundaries in marriage, and when can submission cross the line into control? As a group practice of therapists, we too often see biblical submission used in an unhealthy way. In this episode, licensed, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss the cultural context and biblical understanding of love and submission, how influences in our current culture, like purity culture and our experiences in childhood, impact how we relate to our spouses and operate in our marriages, and what both his and her jobs are in a healthy marriage.

Links:

Tim Mackie Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBuDX8ds5ME

Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions: https://amzn.to/3SQWZDu

Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing: https://amzn.to/4dtFbXs

Richard Schwartz, You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships: https://amzn.to/3M6weXI

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A re-release of an old episode! In 2022, we did a series called “Know Thy Trauma.” Throughout multiple episodes, we discussed trauma and its components: generational trauma, attachment styles, triggers, and so much more. This summer, we’re revamping our most popular episodes of that series! To start us off, we have part 1 of 5 types of narcissists. In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss narcissism and 2 out of the 5 types we commonly see. Vulnerable and covert narcissists can be difficult to spot due to coming off as “givers”, and Sharon and Cait dive into detail about what makes them narcissistic. Subscribe and leave a 5-star review, and follow us on Instagram and Facebook @wholeselftherapists!

Professional counselors Sharon and Kayla are joined by guest Matt Owen, a counselor at the Moore Resilient Group, to discuss the messaging Western culture sends men and what boxes men can be put in as a result. They talk about gender roles, what men are taught about friendships and romantic relationships from a young age, how men are shown to handle emotions, and more. Lastly, they discuss what effect these things can have on men’s mental health and relationships, and what men can do to challenge or work through these narratives.

Low sexual desire in married women is a topic we encounter a lot in our counseling office, and is more nuanced than you think. Licensed, professional counselors Sharon Wegman and Kayla Seader discuss the factors that contribute to lower sex drive, like gender roles, purity culture, unequal labor divisions in the home, pornography, and more. This episode is a follow up to our episodes on The Mental Load of Women, Weaponized Incompetence, and Boundary Conversations with Your Partner.

Link to the study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8382213/

The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregiore: https://amzn.to/3Vuub5V

Jimmy On Relationships on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jimmy_on_relationships

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Have you seen tons of posts on social media about narcissists, or people breaking off relationships with “toxic” people? In this episode, Sharon and Mandy break down concepts that have been popularized by pop psychology, like narcissism, gaslighting, abuse, trauma, and more to help bring clarity to what is true about these topics and what is not.

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Pop psychology can encompass any psychological concept, diagnosis, theory, etc, that has been popularized in mainstream media. You might have seen some of the following terms on social media: narcissism, toxicity, gaslighting, triggers, codependency, abuse, or more. In part one, Sharon Wegman (MA, NCP, LPC) and Mandy talk about the rise of pop psychology, why it’s so appealing, it’s validity, and how to discern if what you’re consuming online is quality information.

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Chronic illness impacts not only our physical health, but our mental health as well. The lifestyle changes, dietary changes, relational changes, and more can lead to feelings of isolation, depression, anxiety. Individuals can also go through traumatic experiences amidst those changes and during the process of diagnosis and treatment, which can lead to PTSD.

In this podcast episode, licensed, professional counselor Sharon Wegman talks with Mandy, who was diagnosed with a chronic illness of the GI tract in 2019. They discuss the eastern vs. western mindsets when it comes to long term suffering and the different ways gut health and illness impact the brain. They also discuss how individuals can improve their mental health while dealing with chronic illness, and tips for how others can care for and support those experiencing long term suffering.

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Trauma counselor Cait Beiler and former teacher Mandy discuss the nature of teaching and how it can impact teachers. They talk about vicarious trauma, burnout, and personalizing student behavior. They give practical feedback on what teachers can do when they encounter those things, and how teachers can manage their mental health.

In this episode, former teacher Mandy Kaucher and trauma therapist Cait Beiler sit down to discuss student behavior. They identify four main types of student behavior (the disengaged student, the outburst student, the defiant student, and the perfectionist), and talk about what how those might show up in your classroom and what you can do about them. Follow us on instagram @wholeselftherapists

In the follow up to parts 1 and 2 about the mental load and weaponized incompetence, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss ways to go about talking to your spouse or partner about those topics. There are tips for having a successful conversation, examples of different types of boundaries, and more!

Links:

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/43HAEed

Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab (affiliate link): https://amzn.to/472xWCR