In today’s episode we talk about the importance of recognizing emotional labour in relationships, and what happens when someone’s unfairly carrying the mental load for their household. We also break down weaponized incompetence - if you’ve never heard that term, you’re going to want to tune in and hear Danny’s perspective :)

Articles referenced:

https://www.nytimes.com/article/emotional-labor.html

https://www.theskimm.com/wellness/weaponized-incompetence

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2NOsE-VPpkE

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/weaponized-incompetence-women_l_61e71983e4b0d8b665717814

https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”, because otherwise you’ll feel guilty? Do you find yourself agreeing with others to avoid conflict? Do you feel the need to be liked by everyone around you? If you relate to any of these questions, then you might be a people-pleaser! In today’s episode, we break it all down and share our personal experiences with people-pleasing…and how to stop.

Articles referenced:

https://www.blackfemaletherapists.com/people-pleasing-vs-codependency/#:~:text=Codependency does usually involve aspects, further than just people-pleasing.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58690308-book-lovers

https://brenebrown.com/hbo-max-presents-brene-brown-atlas-of-the-heart/

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Jocelyn’s anxiety manifests itself physically, which makes her feel embarrassed, which makes her feel even more anxious! This makes social and work-related situations extra challenging. In this episode we talk about how anxiety can come back, even if you’ve done lots of therapy to overcome it, and what helps in those triggering situations. 

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, Danny talks about why he procrastinates – the reason goes alllll the way back to his childhood (as most things on this podcast do!) ⁠Procrastination might seem like a weird subject for a mental health podcast, but there's a lot to uncover! ⁠ 

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Have you ever had to break up with a friend? Have you ever been broken up with? Was it harder for you than a romantic break up? In this episode we talk about it all, and swap stories of how some friendships in our lives have fallen apart – for better or for worse.

Book recommendation: Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode we talk about body image struggles, and how our earliest memories shaped our relationships with our bodies. This one's for anyone who has struggled with their body image, who has felt like they'd "be happy if they changed XYZ" about their appearance, who always feel like they're being looked at but not seen. 

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Danny shares his take on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) in this beautifully vulnerable episode. He talks to Jocelyn about how he recognized the effects of CEN in his life, and how working through it all has helped him understand some of his behaviours as an adult. 

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Do you feel like you’re a burden on your loved ones? Has it stopped you from forming meaningful connections? In today’s episode we talk about the negative impacts of feeling like a burden, and why that feeling happens in the first place. We also talk about ways to combat that feeling and how we can help each other. 

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, we discuss our own unique experiences growing up as Asian-Canadians and seeing (or not seeing) ourselves represented in the media we consumed. Jocelyn is mixed-race and was born in Toronto, and Danny is Taiwanese and immigrated to Canada when he was 6. We talk about what it was like to feel “othered” and the effects of tokenism.

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

What does anxiety feel like? When did you first notice you had anxiety? What is the difference between nervousness and anxiety? In today’s episode, Jocelyn and Danny discuss these questions, as well as what practices have helped alleviate these anxious feelings. Therapy is one solution, but there’s more!

Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/

Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/