Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher

Why Do I Get Defensive When She Shares Pain? Learn to Protect, Not React


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Do you get defensive when your wife shares past pain? Learn how to protect her heart, build emotional intimacy, and lead with courage instead of fear.

In this episode, Maurice Harker dives into one of the deepest spiritual challenges in marriage repair: learning to listen with charity instead of defensiveness. You'll discover the mindset required to create emotional safety, how to practice in-person DPARs, and how to reawaken the natural instinct to protect—even when it’s hard to hear the truth.

🎧 You'll learn:

  • How defensiveness sabotages emotional intimacy

  • Why protecting your spouse must outweigh protecting your ego

  • What it means to “take one for the team” during hard conversations

  • How to use the Foursquare Listening Tool for clarity and focus

  • The power of verbal in-person DPARs in building trust

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