Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher

Why Do My Wife and I Keep Having the Same Arguments Part 5 – When Logic Fails and She Just Needs to Feel Safe


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You’re telling the truth. You’re trying to stay calm. You’re even using logic.

So why is she still upset—and why do you keep ending up in the same exhausting argument?

In Part 5 of this vital series, we explore what happens when your honest efforts to be transparent and reasonable don’t bring your wife the peace she needs. You’ll learn how even the “right answer” can come across as cold, how to stop fueling her fear without abandoning your integrity, and how to finally break the cycle of defensive reactions and relational disconnection.

Key insights:

  • Why logic doesn’t help when your wife’s heart is in survival mode

  • How to stop trying to “win” the conversation and start making her feel safe

  • Why emotional disconnection is the real issue—not whether you remember every detail

  • How judging her emotional responses can destroy trust (even when she’s being “unfair”)

  • The myth that “time alone will fix it”—and what to do instead

If you're tired of walking away from painful conversations asking, “What am I doing wrong when I’m trying so hard?” — this episode is for you.

Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-in-a-traumatized-relationship-a-spiritual-and-psychological-approach/


Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SvGqOiziaYs


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