Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher

Why Does It Feel Like My Wife Still Doesn’t Feel Connected or Satisfied? Part 5 – I’m Trying to Help, So Why Does It Still Hurt Her?


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You’re doing your best. You’re keeping her updated. You’re setting reminders. You’re trying to “zipper” your communication so it’s thoughtful, loving, and timed right.
But somehow… she still ends up hurt.
She still feels disconnected.
And you’re left wondering:
“What more can I do? I’m not trying to hurt her—I’m trying to protect our relationship.”

In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we explore the impossible tightrope many husbands walk: loving your wife without accidentally wounding her, communicating with care without triggering her fear, and trying to show effort without sounding like you’re checking boxes.

Maurice dives into the advanced (and often painful) principle of zippering—how two people can take turns sharing in emotionally intense moments without blowing up the engine of connection. Learn why even small emotional misfires destroy intimacy, and how to stop the spirals before they start.

This one’s deep. It’s raw. It’s real. And if you’ve ever wondered why love still feels like war, this episode might just be your turning point.

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