Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher

Why Does My Wife Still Hurt When I’m Trying So Hard? Part 2 – The Pain of Going Too Fast, Too Soon


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“Why is she still in pain when I’m trying everything I can?”
“Why does it feel like the more I talk, the less she trusts me?”

Welcome to Part 2 of “I’m Trying So Hard to Get Things Right in My Marriage.”
This episode speaks to the heart of every husband who’s doing his best—but keeps hearing, “You still don’t get it.”

If your wife seems overwhelmed by your efforts…
If she pulls away after you open up…
If she seems to want emotional intimacy, but then panics when it actually starts to happen…
You’re not alone—and you’re not failing.

In this episode:

  • Why emotional timing is everything—and how the “clutch and gas” metaphor could save your marriage

  • How talking too much, too soon, creates emotional whiplash

  • Why your wife might feel less safe the more you “lecture”

  • The terrifying reason she shuts down when you’re finally trying to connect

  • Why it’s not about whether you’re trying—but how you’re trying

  • And what it means when she says, “It still hurts” even though you’ve changed

If you're ready to stop stalling conversations and finally drive emotional intimacy with precision—this one matters.

Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-power-of-anchors-habits-and-routines-a-path-to-happiness-and-calm/


Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIgWTVWUCSM


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