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Why Hiring Friends Usually Ends in Disaster


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It’s an exciting thought to have a friend serve alongside you. Ministry is challenging, but it also can be fun, especially if we enjoy the people with whom we work. But hiring a friend does not often end well. In fact, we hear from pastors regularly about the downside of hiring a friend. In this episode, Thom and Sam look at the causes of this failure.

    • It can work, but it’s rare.
    • The relationship has been redefined.
    • Most leaders do not vet friends well for their new role.
    • The friend often expects concessions because of the relationship.
    • You don’t really know someone until you work together.
    • P. S. The friendship often ends.
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