Finding Fertility

Why Ignoring Grief Keeps You Stuck in Infertility & How to Finally Break Through


Listen Later

“Grief isn’t just emotional, it’s cellular.”

Topics Discussed: 

  • Unacknowledged grief and its impact on fertility

  • Miscarriage, IVF failure, and invisible layers of loss

  • How grief gets stored in the body and nervous system

  • Science-backed effects of unresolved grief on hormones and immunity

  • Real-life stories of grief showing up as physical symptoms in children

  • Learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing
  • “Grief is not a sign of weakness; it’s proof that you loved and believed in something.”

    Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here. Today we’re getting raw about a topic no one prepares you for on this fertility journey—grief. Not just the grief of miscarriage or failed IVF, but the invisible grief that creeps into your body, your friendships, your sex life, and even your sense of self. The kind of grief that lingers in your tissues like an unwanted guest and quietly shuts down your body’s ability to receive life.

    I share how grief can dysregulate your hormones, suppress your immune system, and trap you in fight-or-flight—making you feel like no matter how “perfect” your diet or protocol is, something still isn’t working. I get personal about losing my dad, watching grief show up as pneumonia in my child’s lungs, and realizing that our bodies will always find a way to express what we refuse to feel.

    This isn’t about fixing yourself or bypassing the hard stuff. It’s about giving grief a seat at the table, so it no longer hijacks your energy in silence. If you’re tired of holding it all in, if you’ve been “strong” for too long, this episode is your permission slip to soften, to feel, and to heal. Press play and let’s talk about the grief no one talks about—but every fertility warrior knows too well.

    “If you don’t face the grief, it stays stuck. And stuck grief blocks life.”

    Timestamps:

    • 01:23 The invisible layers of grief in fertility struggles and why you need to recognize grief.
    • 03:58 The science of how grief dysregulates the body and blocks fertility even when you’re doing everything right. 
    • 05:26 The story of losing my father and how grief showed up as physical illness in my children.
    • 09:54 The miscarriage I processed alone, and the long-term impact of pushing grief away.
    • 13:08 Understanding that unprocessed grief and stored trauma can turn into a deeper health risk than diet or lifestyle. 
    • 15:30 The importance of learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing during your fertility journey. 
    • “You weren’t broken, you were doing the best you knew how—and that’s all you can control.”

      Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-ignoring-grief-keeps-you-stuck-in-infertility-how-to-finally-break-through 

      Let's Do This Together 💚

      Monica

      Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session:

      Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣]

      Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG 

      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

      TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 

       

      🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

       

      🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

      Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

      Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

      Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

       

      🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon  

      Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

      ...more
      View all episodesView all episodes
      Download on the App Store

      Finding FertilityBy Monica Cox

      • 4.2
      • 4.2
      • 4.2
      • 4.2
      • 4.2

      4.2

      29 ratings


      More shows like Finding Fertility

      View all
      Fertility Friday | Fertility Awareness Mastery for Women's Health Professionals by Lisa Hendrickson-Jack, FAE, HRHP

      Fertility Friday | Fertility Awareness Mastery for Women's Health Professionals

      794 Listeners

      Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee by Dr Rangan Chatterjee: GP & Author

      Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee

      3,977 Listeners

      the goop podcast by gwyneth paltrow

      the goop podcast

      6,779 Listeners

      This Jungian Life Podcast by Joseph Lee, Deborah Stewart, Lisa Marchiano

      This Jungian Life Podcast

      1,634 Listeners

      The Egg Whisperer Show by Dr. Aimee Eyvazzadeh

      The Egg Whisperer Show

      246 Listeners

      As a Woman by Natalie Crawford, MD

      As a Woman

      1,101 Listeners

      Fearlessly Fertile Podcast by Rosanne Austin

      Fearlessly Fertile Podcast

      267 Listeners

      The Kick Pregnancy Podcast by Dr Patrick Moloney and Brigid Moloney

      The Kick Pregnancy Podcast

      48 Listeners

      Fertility Docs Uncensored by Various

      Fertility Docs Uncensored

      285 Listeners

      Mind Your Hormones by Corinne Angelica

      Mind Your Hormones

      250 Listeners

      Fertility Confidence Podcast by Dr. Kelsey Duncan ND

      Fertility Confidence Podcast

      87 Listeners

      Align with Jenna Zoe: The Human Design Podcast by My Human Design

      Align with Jenna Zoe: The Human Design Podcast

      457 Listeners

      The Mel Robbins Podcast by Mel Robbins

      The Mel Robbins Podcast

      20,417 Listeners

      The Great Birth Rebellion by Dr Melanie Jackson

      The Great Birth Rebellion

      78 Listeners

      The Ultimate Pregnancy Prep Podcast by Nora DeBora

      The Ultimate Pregnancy Prep Podcast

      57 Listeners