The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable.

Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through how to uncover what alcohol has really been doing for you — comfort, transition, connection — and how to meet those needs in ways that honor your values and your body. This is where the feminine path to freedom begins: rooted in embodiment, curiosity, and compassion rather than self-judgment.

We also talk about the difference between attachment and desire, how your stories around alcohol amplify craving, and how to build evidence of your strength with small daily actions. This isn’t about perfection; it’s about devotion — to the woman you’re becoming.

✨ Takeaways:

• Why “just quit” creates resistance instead of relief
• How to uncover the real need underneath each craving
• Simple rituals that help you transition, soothe, and reconnect
• What commitment looks like in a feminine, sustainable way
• How to shift from self-control to self-trust
• Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free. 

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Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because nothing else feels right — this is your sign that a third option exists.

I share the real mindset shifts I learned outside of AA, how I finally made alcohol irrelevant, and why most women stay stuck bargaining for years. We talk about the gap you avoid, the mental noise you've normalized, and why “just not drinking” never creates the freedom you want. This is the foundation of the Permission Protocol — the feminine, embodied path to shifting your relationship with alcohol on your own terms.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• the real reason quitting feels impossible (hint: you’re only trying to not drink)
• the third option between AA and white-knuckling
• how alcohol becomes the center of change — and how to shift the focus back to you
• why you keep bargaining, moderating, and negotiating with yourself
• the truth about the “gap” (and why being alone with yourself feels hard)
• how alcohol dulls your authentic expression + steals your presence
• the mindset I used to make alcohol irrelevant after 20 years
• why the Permission Protocol works when “trying harder” doesn’t

If this resonates, download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms. 

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem?

In this episode of Wild Sobriety, I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it.

I talk about how changing my relationship with alcohol wasn’t about giving something up, but about raising the quality of my problems — from “how do I stop drinking?” to “how do I create a life that doesn’t need alcohol at all?”

It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence, power, and emotional maturity — the kind that makes you proud of who you’re becoming.

✨ Takeaways:

    •    The real reason trying to “quit drinking” keeps you stuck

    •    What I focus on now instead of “not drinking”

    •    How I learned to see alcohol as a symptom, not the source

    •    The truth about emotional avoidance and self-abandonment

    •    The simple question I ask myself that always brings me back to peace

Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free with your wild feminine self. 

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever.

I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that expands every part of your life.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the three brutal — but liberating — truths that changed everything for me and every woman I’ve coached

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I just wish this were easier.”
• “My partner still drinks — how can I do this alone?”
• “I’ve tried everything, what if I fail again?”

Then this episode is for you. I’ll show you why the “other side” of drinking isn’t unknown — it’s the most familiar place you’ve simply forgotten how to access.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety.  I share  the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me for a feminine-based approach to sustainable sobriety and start living your wildest, alcohol-free life!

• why avoidance keeps you attached to alcohol
• the belief ladder and confirmation bias
• planning mindset and body state for events
• case study of a date night that disproves a story
• the relaxation myth vs real nervous system shifts
• exhaustion from controlling environments
• replacing rumination with evaluation and skills
• focusing on thoughts, emotions, and actions you control

🌹Schedule A Free Private Strategy Session With Mary Today and Take Your Power Back 

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am.

In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might be keeping you from the freedom you're seeking.

🌹 IN TODAY'S VIDEO:
• Why the label "alcoholic" doesn't serve women 
• The real question you should be asking instead  
• How to know if alcohol is enhancing or diminishing your life
• The grey area drinking spectrum (and where you might be)
• Your next steps toward clarity without shame or rock bottom

This isn't about diagnosis or labels. It's about giving yourself permission to explore your relationship with alcohol - wherever you are on the journey.

You don't need to hit rock bottom to decide alcohol isn't working for you anymore. You can choose sobriety as personal evolution, not punishment.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud.

Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start overthinking, over-explaining, or trying to control what you can’t?

That’s what we’re talking about today.

I’m opening up about a recent personal experience that cracked my heart open in new ways — and how even through uncertainty, alcohol never once crossed my mind. I share how my sobriety and the Five Shifts I teach gave me the tools to meet that moment with softness, not shame.

You’ll hear how anxious attachment and drinking can feed off each other… and why the real path to peace isn’t about “fixing” anyone else, but coming back to your values, your boundaries, and your truth.

This episode is about resilience, emotional maturity, and learning to be with yourself — even when everything feels uncertain.

Takeaways:

• The surprising link between anxious attachment and drinking
• How over-explaining keeps you disconnected from your power
• Why saying “no” can be the most loving thing you do
• What it means to find safety in silence instead of distraction
• How to start trusting yourself again — no matter what’s happening around you

💬 I’d love to know what resonates most for you — leave a comment or message me on YouTube so we can keep this conversation going.

🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts, or watch the full episode on YouTube:
👉 Wild Sobriety — Feminine Freedom Beyond Alcohol

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

To all my Warriors of Love — this is for you.

After a break for integration and creation, I’m back with a brand-new title, a new direction, and a new way for us to connect. Wild Sobriety is expanding to YouTube — not as a performance, but as a deeper conversation. In this episode, I share why I made the shift, what “wild sobriety” truly means, and how I’m integrating everything I’ve learned through my own healing, partnership, and growth. 

This is a love letter to everyone who’s been on the journey with me — those who’ve listened, drifted, returned, and kept the flame of curiosity alive.

In this episode:

• Why I’m taking Wild Sobriety to YouTube for real-time connection and community
• What “wild sobriety” means beyond not drinking — clear seeing, emotional maturity, and radical responsibility
• How silence became my greatest teacher during a season of uncertainty and healing
• The truth about transformation, patience, and trusting divine timing
• A personal update about love, addiction, and choosing dignity over over-explaining

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process.

What happens when I’m navigating my own sobriety while someone I love is still caught in addiction’s grip?

In this episode, I sit down with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth, founder of Put the Shovel Down, to talk about what it really looks like to support a loved one through addiction without losing yourself in the process.

Amber shares why the belief that “you can’t help until they want it” keeps families stuck, the powerful difference between boundaries and rules, and how anger and control can actually fuel addiction. With 20+ years of experience, she brings a compassionate, strength-based approach that focuses on what is working instead of only on the problems.

I also open up about my own experience discovering a partner’s hidden addiction—the betrayal, confusion, and self-doubt it created—and Amber breaks down the psychology behind denial and delusion so you can finally understand what’s really happening in your loved one’s mind.

✨ You’ll hear:

• How to support loved ones without enabling
• Why boundaries protect you (and why they’re not rules)
• The sneaky ways anger and control can actually backfire
• Why women in over-functioning roles often turn to substances as an escape valve
• How reclaiming your feminine energy shifts the entire dynamic

If you’ve ever felt responsible for carrying the weight of someone else’s addiction, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools to protect your own wellbeing.

✨ Don’t miss the free resource in the show notes: 60 Seconds to Calm — the same quick practice I use to ground myself in moments of overwhelm.

About Amber Hollingswort

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Calm isn’t just a mood—it’s the baseline your body must return to if you want to break free from the cycle of drinking. When you’re stuck in overwhelm—overthinking, overworking, and over-giving—your nervous system never resets. That constant stress is exactly what makes pouring a glass of wine at the end of the day feel so tempting.

Here’s the truth most sobriety methods miss: alcohol was never the problem. It was just your body’s quick fix for a frazzled nervous system. The deeper issue is self-abandonment—constantly outsourcing your energy, trying to hold everything together with willpower, and disconnecting from your feminine wisdom. That’s what fuels the decision fatigue, the mental load, and the endless responsibilities that make you want to check out.

The feminine way flips the script. Instead of piling on more rules, tools, and self-improvement hacks, what if you simply learned to generate calm from within? A few small shifts—like softening your breath, feeling the support of your back body, and asking, “How would my Calm Queen respond here?”—create the safety your brain has been chasing in a bottle.

✨ Key Takeaways from this episode:

• Calm is your true superpower—it dissolves the urge to numb.
• Alcohol is not the root problem—it’s a nervous system coping mechanism.
• The feminine way isn’t about doing more, it’s about feeling safe enough to do less.
• Simple daily practices can rewire your body to choose calm over craving.

When you feel safe in your own skin, you don’t need a drink to take the edge off—you have a the CALM codes with in you. 

👉 Ready to test this out in real life? Download my free guide “60 Seconds to Calm” in the show notes. It works faster than a drink—and it actually gives you your power back.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.