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On today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing from Dry January—and why that’s exactly why so many alcohol breaks don’t last.

If you’re participating in Dry January (or are already sober), congratulations. But if you’ve ever noticed that you just replace alcohol with mocktails, workouts, scrolling, or another “healthy” distraction—and still feel restless, disconnected, or off—this episode is for you.

What most people call “willpower” is actually a longing to go inward.

In this conversation, I share why a fast without devotion is just another project to manage, and how true change happens when you stop checking out and start tuning in. I talk about prayer—not as religion—but as presence. As listening. As learning to ask: What is the most loving choice right now?

I also share what I’ve seen again and again with my private clients: when women add spiritual connection, self-honesty, and present-moment awareness to sobriety, alcohol naturally loses its grip. Sobriety stops feeling forced—and starts feeling like home.

If you’re tired of starting over every January…
If you don’t want to be in the same place this time next year…
If you know there’s more depth, peace, and truth available to you…

This episode will change how you think about Dry January—and what comes next.
Want to get off the emotional merry-go-round of alcohol? Grab The Permission Protocol- https://tinyurl.com/pnfv4bae
My free mini training will help you see alcohol and sobriety from a new perspective, so you can focus on what really matters. 

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Questions? Please leave a comment below with any questions you have, and I'll create a video just for you!

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose. 

We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others.  Essences shares a relatable story of finding her way into her feminine expression, practical tips for self-love, and how to break through limiting beliefs. 

If you’re ready to feel empowered and inspired, you won’t want to miss this conversation!

Connect with Essence : The Self-Healing School is a free blog space.
https://www.theselfhealingschool.com

Inside are two gifts:
The Meet Your Goddess Guide quiz, which helps women connect with the divine feminine energy leading them right now:

https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/p/start-here-goddess-quiz

And the Lightworker Gifts for Women on a Spiritual or Purpose-Led Path, a free resource library to support healing, clarity, and becoming:
https://www.theselfhealingschool.com/p/lightworker-gifts

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Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What if nothing is actually going wrong?

In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you.

We talk about getting out of your head, breaking the mental loops, and learning how to trust the process even when it doesn’t feel good yet. I share how sobriety taught me clear seeing — not just the absence of alcohol, but the ability to be with emotions instead of escaping them. Anxiety, embarrassment, boredom, fear, money stress… all of it.

We also dive into:

• Why alcohol (and other substances) create synthetic joy — and how feminine sobriety gives you the real thing
• Letting go of control, approval-seeking, and codependent patterns
• The power of saying “so what?” to emotions instead of making them a problem
• How embarrassment, discomfort, and emotional waves are actually building confidence and self-trust
• Moving from hustling and hunting to gathering, receiving, and trusting opportunity
• Why sobriety makes entrepreneurship, relationships, and self-expression easier — not harder

If you’re navigating sobriety, questioning your relationship with alcohol (or weed), craving more self-trust, or learning how to stay present with your emotions instead of numbing them — this episode is for you.

Nothing has gone wrong. You’re not behind.
 The work is working.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free! 

We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has changed in ways she never expected. Nicole opens up about the challenges, the small (and big) wins, and what it really means to make alcohol irrelevant in your life. I

f you’ve ever struggled with drinking, felt overwhelmed by life’s demands, or wondered if lasting change is possible, this conversation is for you. I’m so grateful Nicole was willing to share her story so honestly—I know you’ll walk away feeling encouraged and less alone. Let’s dive in!

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves.

I’ll share how I use the solstice as a portal for deep inner exploration—tapping into the cycles of nature, the phases of the moon, and the wisdom of my own body. We’ll talk about why I stopped using alcohol as a shortcut to relaxation and creativity, and how embracing my feminine rhythms has brought more freedom and clarity than any drink ever could.

If you’re curious about living in sync with the seasons, finding your own rituals for rest and renewal, or just want to feel a little less alone as the days get shorter, this episode is for you. Let’s honor the solstice together and see what’s waiting to be birthed in the dark.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We unpack the fifth blind spot that keeps women stuck with alcohol: the belief that seeking support means something is wrong, rather than a powerful up level. We show how to replace isolation and shame with evaluation, evidence, and celebration so alcohol becomes irrelevant.

• reframing sobriety 
• moving from isolation
• replacing alcohol-as-reward 
• strategy's that work to track your progress
• sharing from neutrality to dissolve stigma and build connection
• future-focused identity work to reclaim lost parts
• practical rituals for emotional regulation and calm
• community, support, and sustainable next steps

Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free from your wild feminine. 

As a thank you for being such an important part of this podcast, I want to gift you my brand new free mini course, The Permission Protocol
Everything you need is right here in the description

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing your relationship with alcohol.

I share how twenty years of drinking alongside a wellness practice taught me that awareness isn’t enough. Insight doesn’t rewire your brain—action does. I walk you through how beliefs create emotions, how rituals keep habits alive, and how to witness cravings in real time so the old story starts to lose its shine.

When we stop outsourcing our healing to the next expert or episode and start practicing curiosity in our own bodies, real freedom begins.

✨ Takeaways:

• Why “passive action” feels productive but keeps you looping
• How to plan ahead and act from compassion, not pressure
• What to do when the drinker identity starts to loosen
• Why support accelerates growth by exposing blind spots
• How to turn every slip into feedback through plan-implement-evaluate
• Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free from your wild feminine self.

Get The Permission Protocol Free Mini Training-A 5 Part Journey That Changes Everything You Thought Was Possible About Quitting Drinking

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need next.

In this episode, I talk about the performance phase—where you’re reading the books, listening to the podcasts, getting that dopamine rush from new insights, but not actually seeing the change stick. Then I dive into the resilience phase, the part no one celebrates: the trying, slipping, getting back up, becoming almost numb to disappointment but still believing something better is possible. Finally, I break down what real transformation actually looks like: embodied change, intentional choice, and the moment where quitting alcohol becomes less about willpower and more about identity.

Takeaways:
– Why surface-level understanding gives you a dopamine hit but not real change
– How failure tolerance and resilience are actually signs you believe in alcohol freedom
– The difference between trying to quit drinking and transforming your relationship with alcohol
– What your attempts, slips, and restarts say about your readiness for growth
– How to shift from surviving to fully transforming your life and your self-concept

If you’re ready to move from “I know what to do” to “I’m finally living it,” this episode will show you the next step.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds.

I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and start speaking to myself with compassion instead. When stress stacks up, judgment adds pressure until the body wants relief. But the antidote isn’t more control — it’s safety. I walk through how to use calming thoughts and small, honest choices to rebuild self-trust and make peace with the part of you that just wants comfort.

✨ Takeaways:

    •    How self-talk fuels or frees your cravings

    •    Simple reframes that calm your nervous system fast

    •    Why compassion is more effective than control

    •    The truth about rebuilding self-trust, one choice at a time

    •    What happens when you stop forcing change and let growth unfold

Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free. 

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives. 

I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible. 

You’ll hear why getting numb to failure is normal, how to recognize the lessons hidden in your attempts, and why resilience alone isn’t enough—transformation requires intentional action. 

By the end, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective on your past attempts and a clear path toward the change you really want.

Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.

The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.

👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.

Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!

A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.

Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.