Why do we gladly "Do the time," with true crime?  It's no secret that women, especially white women, are absolutely smitten with podcasts, TV Shows, Books, and Movies that deal with True Crime. Ever wonder why? This week Tammy and Heather tell stories about their True Crime habits, and Heather discusses what she learned working on Criminal Minds, all in relation to the enduring, addictive content that makes up all things True Crime. They both share hair-raising stories of solo trips gone awry, and their unique tactics found in trying to simply "arrive alive," after bad dates. 

I feel called out. 

 In this wine- infused rendezvous, Tammy and Heather Explore the Four Primary Adult Attachment Styles. 

Tammy recently wrote her dissertation on this very subject, so trust me, you are in good hands!

The four child/adult attachment styles are:

In this delicious Podcast, Tammy and Heather delve into the world of how each of these attachment styles affect one's ability to feel close to another person, just how comfortable one feels with the concept of being dependent on another person, and levels of anxiety that manifest and fluctuate within all four attachment styles,  in regards to the levels of worry that accompany feeling potentially abandoned or rejected from their partners. 

We're getting cerebral over here!  Come with us and explore a little armchair psychology with your Pinot Noir! 

 What happens when you don't get along with your S.O.'s friends or vice versa? How much influence do your friends have over you, really? How much do your significant other's friends influence and rub off on your main squeeze? Does one bad apple make a moldy apple martini? 

Stories from the frontlines of navigating tempestuous and toxic friends of your main squeeze!

"Tell your friends to get with my friends. And we can be friends" - Notorious B.I.G.

Do you show love through Acts of Service? Or is spending quality time more of your place to shine? Do you give tangible tokens to prove your undying love, or is your affection for your beloved transposed through affectionate physical touch?  What about the language in which you'd prefer to be shown love back?  Can the love language that you express to your BAE be completely different than the love language you want your partner to "speak"?   Tammy and Heather get into all the layers swaddled within the many love languages. 

So....are you fluent in LOVE? 

Welcome to the land of uncomfortable topics, Du Jour! You have this nagging feeling that something isn't right in one of your friendships, they drag you down every time you hang out, judge your life choices, or just straight up aren't there for you.  Should you cut the cord?  What if you've been friends with them FOREVER? Extra points for longevity and history? Or is it high time you found some pals that unconditionally support you? 

Friends Forever or Friends For Never.? (Oh, how very clever...)

PS: YOU DO YOU, BOO BOO

Let's get raw! Tammy and Heather explore the hidden and obvious meanings intertwined in their favorite torch song from their youth- "A Letter To Else," by The Cure. They take a painful and uncomfortable look back at their experiences with letting go of relationships they fought so hard to make work, and the issue of dealing with timing, indifference, and unequal feelings, all within a melancholic and EMO serenade, of course. 

Let's dive deep, in-between the lines, and bleed and grieve. 

Then, we'll dance. 

Let's explore the notorious "B" word. Boundaries! Tammy and Heather dive deep in this one, exploring concepts from a well-known article which highlights how old childhood wounds determine the inability for adults to set healthy boundaries within their relationships.  The girls wax -on and wax-ff off about the ever elusive concept of co-dependency, speaking your needs to your mate, emotional vampires and their insatiable lust towards Empaths, and platonic relationship deal breakers. Grab a glass of something strong for this one! 

Are you an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), dabble in ghosts, b-curious about graveyards, and/or felt or seen the presence of your deceased love ones?  Told with a healthy helping  of, "This may sound crazy, but....," Tammy and Heather get raw and real about their own experiences in conjunction with the spooky  spiritual realm. This just may be our weirdest episode yet, and that's saying a lot, coming from us.