Winning answer: Not that big

I read an interview with Madonna who said that when people came into her home in LA and they saw her Frida Kahlo collection of paintings, if they didn't like Frida Kahlo, she couldn't be their friend.

If I'm hanging out with somebody who turns non-problem problems into problems… I mean, I can still be their friend, but I just don't really wanna hang out with them.

Here's the sticky question that changes everything… How big of a problem do you want to make this?

The obvious answer is always going to be, like… Not that big of a problem.

Problems don't change until you change how you relate to them. (When we bless them.) We can't control the circumstances in our lives, but we can choose how we think about them.

If storms and fires are the work of the Divine, so are flat tires and breakups. All of it is a blessing (even if it's in disguise). Problems become portals when we get excited about transforming them.

Where everyone else sees a roadblock, we can be like, guys… it's a secret passage to higher consciousness.

Listen in for an excerpt from my new book Bless & Release. Spoiler: The book is funny. That's all I want. Well, it's not all I want. It's what I want the most.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

Your capacity to forgive will amaze you

What happens when you become a Super Blesser?

In today's episode, I'm telling you about a music festival and an ex-partner's mistress. Not mine. Someone in my community. I have her permission to tell this story…

A blessing is your focused positive intention. And blessing is the most excellent situation medicine response for balancing your nervous system.

When you start working with your heart's intelligence, your whole way of living will shift for the better. You will stop obsessing. No more mental replays of that conversation from months or years ago. Your creativity will surge.

You will stop managing other people's emotions. All this worrying about other people burns through our own energy reserves. We manage other people's emotions out of fear—fear of loss, rejection, or just having the same old argument again. It's exhausting.

When you filter your emotions through your heart, you build emotional resilience. And your capacity to forgive will amaze you.

Picture this: You're getting ready to rock out at a music festival with your girlfriends. And you run into the woman—the mistress—who broke up your marriage. The kind of confrontation moment that could make you freeze. But something's different now.

Listen in for an excerpt from my new book Bless & Release. Hear about Gina's Super Blesser experience at that music festival—and how she used The Centering Practice to choose dancing instead of drama.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

A peek into my journals

Today I'm giving you a sneak peek into my Bless & Release journal. I'm talking about some divorce. I'm talking about some manifesting. It's really a celebration of owning my shit.

…I was sitting at my desk, crying as I googled how to overcome heroin addiction. Except I've never tried heroin. I don't even drink coffee. I was trying to let go of divorce pain. The rumination—the mind looping—felt addictive.

So I did the most radical thing I could think of. I did a 21-day Centering Practice for my former husband. There were no skipping days. Prior to that, I had been going out of my way to keep him off my doorstep. But now I was going to hold him in the cave of my heart with unconditional love.

And it was really hard. And then it was awesome.

Love is so easy. We tell ourselves all these stories about how hard it is. Love itself is not hard at all. It's electric, it's alive, it's perfect.

I transmuted a hella heap of pain, and that was my closure. I didn't need any additional closure. I didn't need a conversation. I didn't need more therapy.

Listen in for real entries from my journal…plus manifesting on the seawall, blessing my son on his birthday, and what softening actually means.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

And what to do when it shows up

Here's the sequence:

Unmet needs lead to disappointment. Disappointment gives rise to grief. Unresolved grief turns into resentment. Holding onto resentment creates anger.

Welcome to Earth. Welcome to being a human. There is a 100% likelihood that to varying degrees, we will all feel unseen, unheard, or not loved in ways that we want to be loved.

When we're children, we aren't able to fully process not having our needs met. The implicit grief registers in our energy field and we haul it around until we're mature enough to process it on our own or until we can afford therapy, whichever comes first.

If we don't treat our grief with compassion, it thickens into resentment over time. Resentment is one of the root causes of cynicism and doubt. Resentment often causes us to hoard resources out of fear. Resentment is a huge obstacle to abundance.

Holding onto our unmet needs perpetuates not having our needs met in the present. It becomes this vicious cycle of chasing and not receiving.

If you fight your anger, it will fight you right back. Your anger is looking to be seen, to be heard, to be loved. Bless it, and it will stop acting out.

What we embrace transforms and makes us more loving.

Listen in. Then we're doing the Centering Practice together. We'll work with the full spectrum of colour. This is you being the energy healer.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Join The Colours Class — a LIVE class with Danielle on working with the healing frequencies of colour. This Sunday, March 15 at 10am PT | 1pm ET. Use code POD220 for $7 off. Expires at class time: daniellelaporte.com/class

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

What you push away pushes back

Here's the physics principle: What you push away pushes back. And while it's pushing back, it's building its own muscle. What we push away grows stronger.

We have to be in relationship with our fears, not in opposition to them.

Most fear is based on past experience that we project into the future. The catch? Fighting our fear creates this inner battle. That inner battle is such an energy burn. So draining. So hard on the nervous system.

The irony is that we created the fear. Every single one of our fears comes from the unconscious mind. Each one is a mind baby. You are the mother, the father, the parent of all of your fears. Your job? It's to lovingly parent them. Not to deny them. Not to abandon them. (That would make you a very bad parent.)

Relax your grip on your fear.

You bring your fear into your heart. You have a conversation with it. You say, I hear you. I've got you. And the Divine has me.

As long as we are running away from fear, we don't look at it. The moment we stop and look at fear, it begins to dissolve.

In this episode of With Love, Danielle, I'm breaking down how to have a healthy relationship with your fear. With content from my new book Bless & Release.

Then we're doing the Centering Practice together—focusing on one of your fears. We'll work with the full spectrum of light and colour frequencies. Pinks, peach tones, golds, minty greens, sky blues, violet. You're rainbow-healing your fear. This is you being the energy worker. You're doing the healing.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Starting March 1st. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

This is physics. This is metaphysics. This is the power move.

A sneak peek from my new book, Bless & Release…

We need a new relationship with our emotions and ambitions. Because clearly, the current one is not working.

Here's a radical idea: Instead of repressing, rejecting, or ignoring our suffering, we bring it even closer. Within. Gently. As if we were blessing it.

As if we were alchemists and energy workers. Because we are.

Listen in for the 21 principles of blessing and releasing. The philosophical ground everything is built upon.

This is physics. And this is metaphysics. And this is the power move that will change everything.

As mentioned in this episode:

• Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless

• Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Starting March 1st. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

I'm announcing CENTERED—my new spiritual wellness app launching April 2026.

This is 10 years in the making. And it feels like holding onto a rocket right now.

Think Spotify for spiritual wellness. A place to design your day based on devotion. Wake up to the energetics of the day. Build playlists with prayers, mantras, meditations—all the things.

The existing wellness apps are for coping and calming down. You press play. You stay passive. Spiritually neutral.

But CENTERED is built for depth, not dopamine.

I'm partnering with Aligned, a Silicon Valley software company led by an early Spotify exec. Launching April 17th with my new audiobook, Bless & Release.

Here's what shocked me: Only 1.1% of global venture capital goes to female-led startups.

I'm changing that. CENTERED is open to investment from $100 to $1.5 million. The goal? A women-majority investor base.

We're putting the feminine in fem tech. Listen in for all the details.

With Love, Danielle

As mentioned in this episode:

• Learn more about investing in the CENTERED App at centeredapp.com. We'll send you the pitch deck, and access to our WeFunder campaign where you can become a founding investor with as little as $100.

• Pre-order my new audiobook and I'll send you BTS content and early access to chapters. Bless & Release: The physics of letting go…and wanting what's meant for you – get yours at daniellelaporte.com/bless.

The physics of letting go… and wanting what's meant for you.

For a decade, I thought letting go of my worldly desires would bring me peace.

I was wrong.

I used spiritual perfectionism to hurt myself. I guilt-tripped myself for having "unspiritual" feelings. I romanticized renunciation while still wanting to host dinner parties at the monastery.

Then I figured it out… What we push away pushes back and gets stronger. What we embrace transforms and strengthens us.

This is the introduction to my forthcoming book, Bless and Release: The physics of letting go—and wanting what's meant for you.

With love, Danielle

In this episode:

• Why people who let go with ease are more joyful (they don't avoid pain—they bless it)

• The spiritually romanticized torture I put myself through

• How I stopped criticizing myself for having "unspiritual" feelings

• The Bless Practice: heart-centered energy work you can do in 90 seconds

• What happens when you stop pushing away the pain and chasing the desires

• Why we're turning to AI for spiritual direction (please stop)

• The radical truth: instead of repressing suffering, bring it in closer—and bless it

Pre-order the audiobook and get early access to BTS content, audio excerpts, and the Bless Practice at: daniellelaporte.com/bless

This episode originally aired as Episode 160 on February 7, 2025.

Lean in, pay attention. This episode of With Love, Danielle is our favourite kind—raw girlfriend honesty with deep spiritual wisdom (hello Krishnamurti)!

Danielle focuses on identifying the behaviours that signify someone is 'not your person' and encourages you to cultivate discernment. But what next? Distancing ourselves, Forgiving, Compassion, healing, setting boundaries. How do you do this with Love?

Danielle shares a favourite nourishing thought to help us. I love myself so deeply, I have the courage to see things as is. She explains how to become a more Loving being for yourself and everybody else. You can see everything with Love.

You'll elevate your vibration, embrace deeper self love, and seek healthier connections. You'll turn to your inner wisdom and magnetize nurturing and supportive relationships. You'll experience the joy of finding your true community.

This episode originally aired as Episode 152 on January 8, 2025.

You know… I've felt like an outsider most of my life. Lil' bit on the outside. And of course I've had my share of hard No's and reeejection.

And… but… each rebuff and snub is taking us closer to our shadow territory, to the beautiful, unhealed stuff that's waiting to be healed.

I recently taught a class on rejection in our CENTERED Collective, and it was a tender one. We've strung the diamonds for you:

In this episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE I'm teaching on:

• The meta-function of rejection. Every spurn, every rebuff points to our inability to accept all parts of ourselves
• Exactly why rejection is an advanced class in self-acceptance
• How we stand in our power to heal from rejection, without bypassing or bravado
• How to choose responsiveness and consciousness over numbing out and running away.

This is the work. This is how we transform our repetitive pain into deep esteem.

With Love, Danielle