In this episode, I sit down with renowned relationship coach and author Dr. Susan Campbell for a real, practical conversation about communication, connection, and what it takes to create emotionally honest relationships.

We talk about the most common patterns that keep partners from truly hearing each other, how to move from defensiveness to curiosity, and simple tools you can use right away to build more trust and ease in your relationships — romantic or otherwise.

Susan Campbell, PhD, is a relationship expert, speaker, and best-selling author of twelve books, including Getting Real and Five Minute Relationship Repair. With decades of experience in counseling psychology, she helps individuals, couples, and teams communicate more authentically and navigate conflict with compassion. Her work has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN's News Night, and in publications such as Self and Cosmopolitan. You can learn more at susancampbell.com

In this deeply supportive session, Christine coaches Kelly, who is learning to open her heart to healthy love after leaving a toxic marriage. Kelly recently met someone kind and emotionally available—but her nervous system keeps sending mixed signals, leaving her wondering whether it's intuition or fear.

Christine helps her understand how the body stores memories of past trauma, how to distinguish real red flags from old triggers, and how to gently retrain the nervous system to feel safe in love again. Together, they explore what integration looks like after healing work—when awareness turns into embodiment.

If you've ever questioned your body's signals, struggled to trust love again, or feared repeating old patterns, this conversation will bring deep clarity and compassion.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Do you mistake fear for intuition—or intuition for fear?
• Have past painful relationships made it hard to feel safe in love?
• Are you waiting to be "fully healed" before allowing intimacy in?
• How do you respond when someone truly shows up for you?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• The nervous system often reacts to memories, not the present moment.
• Fear can mean danger—or it can mean expansion.
• Integration is the bridge between awareness and embodiment.
• Healing doesn't mean fear disappears; it means you relate to it differently.
• Safe love can still feel unfamiliar—and that's okay.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Journal about how your body reacts when someone is kind, consistent, or loving.
• Write down red flags from past relationships to clarify what's truly unsafe.
• Practice "titration": letting love in slowly, without judgment.
• Notice when your nervous system feels unsettled and speak to it with compassion.
• Remind yourself: you can feel fear and stay open to love.

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Upcoming Program: Christine's new Emerge Program is now open! This 3-month embodiment experience is for anyone who's done the inner work but still feels "stuck." You'll integrate your growth through body-based tools, live coaching, and lifelong access to all materials.

Join or catch up anytime at christinehassler.com/emerge2025.

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You've attended the retreats, read the books, done the therapy—so why does everything you've learned still live in your head and not your life? In this episode, I introduce Emerge 2025, a 3-month intimate group coaching and teaching container design

Do you ever feel like you're too self-aware? You can name every childhood wound and pattern… yet your inner critic still takes over?

Welcome to the Awareness Trap.

In this episode, Christine guides you through a 5-minute somatic shift so you can stop mentally analyzing your Inner Critic — and start embodying freedom from it.

You'll learn:

• Why insight alone doesn't create transformation

• How the inner critic is really a protective response

• A simple practice to shift from self-judgment to self-leadership

If you're self-aware but still stuck… this is for you.

Save your spot for the FREE Awareness Trap Masterclass:

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In this heartfelt and relatable session, Christine coaches Mischa—a high-achieving, only child who's used to getting what she wants and is now navigating a season where nothing seems to be going her way. After leaving a toxic job and experiencing disappointment in love, Mischa feels stuck in what Christine calls an expectation hangover: the emotional crash that comes when reality doesn't match our hopes.

Together, they explore how unmet desires are not punishments but powerful invitations to grow. Christine helps Mischa see how her childhood pattern of being soothed by "getting what she wanted" now limits her ability to self-soothe and find peace when life doesn't deliver. This episode invites all of us to stop labeling difficult seasons as problems—and instead recognize them as sacred opportunities to develop resilience, self-worth, and inner stability.

If you've ever felt like you're doing all the work but life just isn't "flowing," this conversation will help you see that you are in flow—just on a deeper, soul-centered level.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Are you in a season where it feels like you just can't get what you want?
• Do you find your worth tied to achievement, attention, or validation?
• When life doesn't go your way, do you resist or allow yourself to feel the disappointment?
• What might shift if you learned to find safety and love within yourself—no matter what's happening externally?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Expectation hangovers aren't setbacks—they're realignments.
• True freedom comes when we stop needing things outside us to validate our worth.
• Discomfort is not failure—it's emotional strength training.
• We repeat childhood patterns until we consciously choose new responses.
• Flow isn't always about ease; sometimes it's about deep integration and recalibration.

How to Deepen the Work

• When things don't go your way, pause and ask: "What is this season teaching me?"
• Sit with disappointment rather than rushing to fix or distract from it.
• Journal about times when you've equated love or safety with "getting what you want."
• Practice self-validation by naming three things you're proud of—no external approval required.
• Reframe "stuckness" as a recalibration period where your soul is upgrading your inner strength.

Upcoming Program

Emerge 2025 — A 3-Month Integration Journey for Women Christine's newest program is for women who already know their patterns but still feel stuck repeating them. Through live coaching, somatic breathwork, and embodiment practices, you'll integrate what you've learned and create sustainable transformation.

• Starts: Spring 2025
• Format: Live online coaching container
• Learn More & Register: christinehassler.com/emerge2025

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• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this soulful and courageous session, Christine coaches Christina—a woman in her mid-40s navigating a season of heartbreak, transformation, and rediscovery. After years of deep personal work, Christina finds herself between two worlds: the part that longs to repair a relationship marked by betrayal and the part that knows it may be time to let go.

Through their conversation, Christine helps Christina uncover how childhood patterns of betrayal and instability shaped her adult relationships—and how her current challenge is an invitation to reclaim trust, safety, and self-worth from within. Together, they explore how to discern between intuition and fear, how to release self-judgment, and how compassion—not perfection—is the key to healing.

If you've ever questioned whether to stay or move on, struggled to trust yourself, or felt stuck between awareness and action, this episode will remind you that every moment of confusion can be a sacred initiation into deeper self-trust and freedom.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Do you know what's next for you—or do you feel caught between awareness and action?
• Are you replaying familiar childhood dynamics in your adult relationships?
• Do you struggle to trust yourself or feel safe in your own choices?
• Can you offer compassion to the parts of you that are still learning and healing?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Our deepest relationship struggles often mirror early attachment wounds.
• Trust is both a decision and a feeling—it begins by creating safety within.
• Compassion, not criticism, is what allows transformation to take root.
• Healing is not linear; we revisit old patterns to integrate new awareness.
• Sometimes our life "stalls" because our soul is prioritizing foundational healing.

How to Deepen the Work

• Reflect on moments where you've outsourced safety or validation to others—then gently reclaim that power.
• When confusion arises, pause and ask: "Is this my adult self speaking, or my inner child seeking reassurance?"
• Write a letter to your younger self affirming that you can now provide the safety and love she needed.
• Practice compassion daily—especially when the inner critic says you "should be further along."
• Trust that healing developmental wounds is not a distraction from your purpose; it is the path to your purpose.

Upcoming Program

Emergence: A Live Coaching Container with Christine Launching this November, Emergence is a transformative group experience designed for women who have "done the work" but still feel stuck in one key area of life. This live coaching journey helps you move from awareness to embodied change—on the subconscious and nervous system levels.

• Start Date: November 2025
• Format: Live coaching (not pre-recorded)
• Learn More: christinehassler.com

Sponsor: BEAM Dream Powder

Struggling with sleep? Christine recommends BEAM Dream Powder, an all-natural blend designed to help you fall asleep, stay asleep, and wake up refreshed—without grogginess.

Over 17.5 million nights of sleep have been improved with BEAM, and 92% of users report better rest.

Special Offer: Get up to 40% off for a limited time at shopbeam.com/overit with code OVERIT.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this powerful coaching session, Christine works with Kevin, a husband of 21 years, as he explores the delicate balance between healthy relational needs and unresolved childhood wounds. Kevin opens up about longing for deeper intimacy and appreciation from his wife—and wondering if those desires are truly valid or rooted in his past.

Together, they unpack how unmet childhood needs often show up in our adult relationships, especially when we expect a partner to fulfill what our parents couldn't. Christine helps Kevin distinguish between the "little boy" who seeks attention and the "grown man" who can communicate clearly, take leadership, and set his partner up for success.

If you've ever felt unseen, under appreciated, or rejected by someone you love—or if you've wondered why the same emotional patterns keep showing up in your relationships—this episode offers a roadmap for transforming frustration into empowerment and deeper connection.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Are there needs in your relationship that go unmet, leaving you resentful or withdrawn?
• Do you ever feel like your partner "should just know" what you need?
• Have you confused childhood wounding with adult desire?
• How might your relationship change if you led with grounded communication instead of expectation?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Many relational frustrations stem from projecting unhealed childhood wounds onto our partners.
• Expressing needs from a grounded, adult self invites intimacy—while expressing them from a wounded inner child often repels it.
• True leadership in love means clearly communicating needs and guiding your partner on how to meet them.
• Resentment and unspoken expectations block intimacy more than unmet needs themselves.
• Relationships thrive when both partners take 100% responsibility for their own healing and communication.

How to Deepen the Work

• Before expressing a need, pause to ask: "Is this coming from my adult self or my inner child?"
• Practice the phrase: "If you really knew me, you'd know I'd love to hear…" to communicate appreciation requests gently.
• Create "safe yes" conversations—where each partner can express needs without fear of rejection.
• Consider setting aside scheduled connection time to nurture intimacy intentionally.
• Reflect on how your family patterns might still shape how you relate to love, desire, and worthiness.

Upcoming Event

Couples Retreat with Christine & Steph Join Christine and Steph for a small, intimate couples retreat in San Diego, designed to deepen communication, heal emotional patterns, and restore passion and partnership.

• Date: April 2026 (exact dates TBA)
• Location: San Diego, CA
• Register: Email [email protected] or DM @ChristineHassler to join the interest list

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

The survival strategy of fawning may have once kept you safe, but it can leave you disconnected, resentful, and exhausted.

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Ingrid Clayton, psychologist and author of Fawning: The Cost of People-Pleasing and the Courage to Break Free, joins Christine to unpack trauma and specifically the trauma response of fawning.

In this episode, Christine coaches Jessica, a multi-passionate entrepreneur who struggles to follow through on her vision. Jessica shares how she often throws herself into new ideas with enthusiasm, only to lose momentum when life shifts or self-doubt creeps in. Although she feels deeply called to help mothers raising children in challenging family systems, she wrestles with limiting beliefs about whether people actually want what she offers.

Christine helps Jessica reframe her so-called "career ADHD" as a strength—multi-passionate creativity—and uncovers the deeper fears that keep her from committing fully to her dream. They discuss the power of belief, why consistency matters more than perfection, and how to align her entrepreneurial mindset with truth, love, and service.

If you've ever second-guessed your calling, started projects you didn't finish, or doubted whether your work really matters, this coaching session will inspire you to release self-sabotage and step forward with clarity and confidence.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Do you start projects with excitement but struggle to finish them?
• Have you labeled yourself as "scattered" or "inconsistent" instead of seeing your creativity as a gift?
• Are you holding back from your dream because you fear people won't want what you have to offer?
• How might changing your beliefs about yourself and your audience shift the results you see?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Being multi-passionate isn't a problem—it's part of the entrepreneurial spirit.
• Our beliefs shape our outcomes: if we believe there's no audience, our energy reflects that.
• Consistency in creating and sharing builds trust, especially with sensitive topics like parenting and family.
• Fear of failure often shows up as "not finishing," but true growth comes from committing fully.
• Relief, not resistance, signals alignment with truth.

How to Deepen the Work

• Identify one limiting belief that's draining your momentum. Write down evidence that challenges it.
• Clarify who your "ideal client" is and create content as if you're speaking directly to them.
• Reframe social media or marketing as opportunities to build trust rather than chores.
• Normalize the ups and downs of entrepreneurship—it's part of the journey, not proof you're failing.

Upcoming Event

Christine's Women's Retreat A transformational retreat designed to help you release old patterns, reclaim your truth, and radiate love into your life and the world.

• Date: October 17, 2025
• Location: San Diego, CA
• Register: christinehassler.com/retreat
• Scholarships available—email [email protected] for details.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this tender and powerful coaching session, Christine works with SJ—a single mother who has done tremendous inner work but still wonders if something is blocking her from partnership. Together, they explore the difference between apathy and protection, generational patterns, and the fear of letting someone see you at your most vulnerable.

As SJ opens up about her history, caregiving responsibilities, and longing for connection, Christine reflects back the progress she's already made and challenges the belief that there's "a problem" to be solved. Instead, this conversation shows how surrender, self-love, and reframing our stories can transform what we see as liabilities into pathways for deeper intimacy.

If you've ever felt "stuck," compared your progress to others, or believed that your life circumstances made you unlovable, this episode will help you soften those fears and recognize the growth already alive within you.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Do you sometimes confuse surrender with apathy?
• Have you felt so self-sufficient that there's little room for anyone else?
• Do you carry the fear that your challenges or past make you undesirable in relationships?
• How might it feel to let someone witness you in your weakest moments and discover that you are still worthy of love?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Not every challenge is a "problem" to be solved—sometimes there's no problem at all.
• What looks like apathy may actually be self-protection.
• True partnership is about interdependence, not codependence.
• Intimacy often deepens when we let others see us in our hardest moments.
• Shifting your inner language and beliefs can change how others experience your life story.

Upcoming Event

Christine's Women's Retreat Join Christine for a life-changing experience where you'll release old patterns, reconnect with your truth, and step into the next level of your life.

• Date: October 17, 2025
• Location: San Diego, CA
• Register: christinehassler.com/retreat

Sponsor: BEAM Dream Powder

Struggling with sleep? Christine recommends BEAM Dream Powder, an all-natural blend designed to help you fall asleep, stay asleep, and wake up refreshed—without grogginess.

Over 17.5 million nights of sleep have been improved with BEAM, and 92% of users report better rest.

Special Offer: Get up to 40% off for a limited time at shopbeam.com/overit with code OVERIT.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.