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****Join the Pressure To Peace waitlist here!**** Could your relentless pursuit of perfection be a response to deeply subconscious psychological trauma? This week, we're unmasking the connection between perfectionism and childhood trauma and how, unbeknownst to many, it shapes our lives.

Join me on this intimate journey as I talk about my own struggles with perfectionism, a journey sparked by a life-changing conversation in a café.

We'll tackle how perfectionism manifests as an obsessive fear of flaws and an excessive need for control. We'll also talk about how it is often rooted in trauma that leads to a vicious cycle of stress and anxiety.

However, there IS hope. Together, we're going to explore how understanding these traumas and developing psychological flexibility can liberate us from this exhausting cycle. You'll start to see why perfectionism is actually a SOLUTION and not a problem!

We'll also delve into the impact of growing up in a chaotic environment, where praise was tied to performance, and how it results in an internalized obsession with achievement and the fear of never being good enough. We'll scrutinize how this fear translates into overthinking, overanalyzing, and an overwhelming responsibility for others.

But this isn’t just about understanding, it's also about empowerment. In this episode, I'll be sharing strategies to challenge limiting beliefs and build self-confidence - all aimed at empowering you to transform perfectionism into a tool for realizing your dreams. This is your call to rise above self-doubt and the fear of failure.

Let's learn to set healthy boundaries with ourselves and others and create the life we truly want and deserve.

Tune in, and let this be the start of your own journey of understanding and healing from perfectionism.

Highlights:

(01:16 ) Exploring Perfectionism With Compassion 

(11:31 ) Transformation and Breaking Patterns 

(19:15 ) Perfectionism's Impact and Hidden Traumas

(22:14 ) Parental Involvement's Impact on Emotional Well-Being 

(27:58) Trauma's Impact on Mental Health

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Perfectionism is a wolf in sheep's clothing. It's not just about aiming for excellence, but rather a fear-driven state of hyper-arousal that can lead to a powerful sense of helplessness and hopelessness.

So, how can we battle this beast? This episode is a personal journey through the ups and downs of of perfectionism and depression, where I unravel the roots of my perfectionism, understand it's triggers and what it sought to protect me from.

Navigating perfectionism and depression hasn't been an easy journey for me. From the depths of my despair, I've uncovered the profound truth that depression is not simply sadness or an emotional low; it's a crippling sense of helplessness and hopelessness.

Far from the common misconceptions, it engulfs your life with a darkness that's hard to come out of. This isn't just my story, but a reflection of the battles fought by many who struggle with perfectionism and any other mental health struggles.

The paradox of being able to support others on their healing journey while struggling to keep my own head above water was something that I really struggled to understand. Peeling back the layers of perfectionism, I discovered a state of hyper-arousal fueled by fear, not ambition.

Yet, it isn't all doom and gloom. The mantra 'imperfect is the new perfect' has been a game-changer, and the key to sustainable productivity by calming our perfectionist parts and learning to stay present.

Together, we can flip the narrative, calm our anxieties, and celebrate the beauty of imperfection. Tune in for a deep, personal exploration and let's reframe our understanding of perfectionism together.

Let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod!

If you haven’t already signed up for Pressure To Peace where you will learn how to let go of perfectionism permanently and get better results without the burnout, make sure to join here! 

0:00:44 - Perfectionism and Overcoming Depression 
0:03:36 - Understanding the Biological Aspect of Perfectionism 
0:09:47 - My Biggest Breakthrough Ever With Perfectionism
0:18:06 - The Power of Coaching and Self-Awareness 
0:24:08 - Understanding Patterns and Victim Mindset 
0:27:42 - Understanding and Working With Perfectionism 
0:32:48 - Managing Perfectionism and Overwhelm at Work 
0:38:10 - Overcoming Perfectionism and Finding Safety 
0:45:57 - Instagram Waitlist for Beta Round Program of Pressure To Peace

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Ever wondered what drives high achievers and what lies beneath the surface of success? This episode of The Women of Worth podcast takes a deep dive into this enigma. Uncover the meaning of high achievement and how to identify a high achiever. Delve into the psychology behind this drive, and discover the dual faces of high achieving – the blessings and the burdens. We will also unravel the patterns of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how these can often overshadow inner success.

In the second half of our conversation, we transition towards the concept of being a conscious achiever. We illuminate the significance of aligning your identity with your purpose, setting intentions, and evading the trap of instant gratification. We guide you on a journey to achieve inner peace and contentment, asserting that happiness is not just a result of our circumstances but rather largely linked to our mindset. Prepare to embark on an exploration of the five steps of the permanent peace process and join us in our mission to understand the complexities of high achievement.



(0:00:02) - Understanding High Achievers (16 Minutes)

What does it mean to be a high achiever and how to spot one? We explore healthy and harmful high achieving, and why your ability to enjoy is more important than your ability to achieve. We discuss the theory of human motivation and the three needs that motivate people to do anything in life: the need for power, the need for affiliation, and the need for achievement and success. We also examine how success doesn't always equal inner success, and why it's important to understand what's underneath the surface.

(0:16:33) - High Achiever (19 Minutes)

We explore the psychology behind high achievers, and how it can be both a blessing and a burden. We discuss the dangers of overthinking, overscheduling, and overfunctioning, and how, when we are in alignment with our true selves, being a high achiever brings joy and fulfilment. We also examine why ambition is healthy in the right quantity, and how overachieving can lead to burnout and stress.

(0:35:47) - Power in Being a Conscious Achiever (12 Minutes)

We explore how to align who you are with what you're here to do. We discuss the importance of intentions and making the world a better place, and how to stay away from the need for instant gratification. We also examine how to achieve inner peace and contentment, and why happiness has little to do with our circumstances and more to do with our mindset. Finally, we discuss the five steps of the permanent peace process and invite you to sign up for the beta round.

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Are you constantly feeling like you're falling short, no matter how much you accomplish? Let's put an end to this unhealthy cycle. In this empowering episode of The Women of Worth podcast, we tackle the heavy concept of toxic productivity, the harmful myth that's driving us towards constant "doing" and making us miserable in the process. We'll discuss the detrimental effects of buying into these productivity falsehoods, and how they leave us feeling like we're constantly failing and not living up to expectations.

But it's not all gloom and doom. Join me as we dive deep into the concept of mindful productivity, a kinder, healthier approach to our daily tasks. Hear about my personal experience of challenging and overcoming toxic productivity beliefs. Let's redefine productivity together, and learn how to find joy in what we're doing rather than just ticking off tasks. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to reevaluate your productivity habits and take the first steps towards a healthier, happier life. Trust me, it's a journey worth taking.

In today's episode join me on a journey of deep self-discovery as we explore how to love ourselves at our lowest, without sinking into the quicksand of shame. From overcoming mental breakdowns, navigating self-love, understanding depression, to healing from self-abandonment and finding peace, this episode is a deep and honest look at the trials and tribulations that come with personal growth. Discover the strategies I've used to experience breakthroughs and how they can be adapted to your own personal journey. 

This podcast episode also includes a fascinating discussion on the concept of unconditional self-love and how powerful it can be in breaking down barriers of shame, guilt, and anxiety. I share personal stories and the experiences of my clients to demonstrate the transformative power of self-love. We'll explore how understanding our childhood needs can help unravel patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and how trust in the universe can help us cope with difficult emotions. 

Listen in as we tackle the topic of healing from self-abandonment and the victim mindset. You'll hear about my personal journey of self-discovery, how I broke patterns of avoiding painful emotions, and how unconditional self-love brought me peace and joy. 

Plus, I'll share insights from a book that's been inspiring me and provide practical steps you can take to start your own journey of unconditional self-love. By the end of this episode, you'll have a newfound understanding of your self-worth and the tools to love yourself at your lowest.

(0:00:02) - Loving Yourself at Your Lowest
(0:11:07) - Navigating Breakdowns and Self-Love
(0:21:26) - Understanding Depression and Overcoming Shame
(0:37:13) - Healing From Self-Abandonment and Victim Mindset
(0:41:25) - Overcoming Patterns and Finding Peace
(0:46:08) - The Power of Unconditional Self-Love

Enjoy! And as always, please let me know your biggest takeaways. I love hearing from listeners, it really inspires me to create more episodes like today's. Also, share this with somebody you love, they might need it more than you know x

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Alana's coaching journey will inspire you beyond words. In today's episode Alana talks about her journey

From:

-  starting her business at 18, buying a house and still not feeling good enough
- looking to the big things for happiness
- coping with shopping and spending £1k/month on clothes
- never fully relaxing or letting her hair down
- putting everyone else first, saying yes to everything and never listening to her gut
- masking her emotions, always smiling and bottling everything up
- feeling like you're at the bottom of the ocean and completely broken
- rarely feeling present/fully connected with the people in her life



To:
- feeling happy, whole and healthy without all of the external stuff
- living from her heart, not her head
- letting go of the past and getting into an upward spiral
- putting her own happiness first and never disappointing herself
- having zero self-doubt and fully trusting herself, even with big decisions
- things falling into place and happening so easily
- letting go of people who aren't really there for you
- spending her energy and time wisely with the people who lift her up
- feeling safe to feel her feelings
- celebrating every single small win

To follow Alana's amazing journey, because I know this is just the beginning and great thing lie ahead of her, go check out her IG @alanamandersonxo

A massive thank you to Alana for sharing her powerful, and unbelievably inspiring transformation. I know it's going to help so many people believe that getting out of a downward spiral and into an upward spiral is SO possible!

Being constantly busy is a sign of something much deeper. In today's episode I help you understand what’s driving the never ending to-do lists, constant overwhelm and living life on the edge of exhaustion. Because when you get to the root cause, you get all of that sweet relief!

Are you constantly busy to:

• Avoid emotions/numbing
• Distract from deep down fears of not being good enough
• Receive the love you didn’t receive in childhood
• Spending too much time on sm and feeling less than

Here are three steps to break free from busy:

• Get clear on your fears
• Get clear on your priorities. 
• Protect your peace with better boundaries

Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts! Love hearing your biggest takeaways from the pod ❤️

PS: If you haven’t already signed up for next week's FREE masterclass where you will learn how to set boundaries confidently without the guilt! 

In this brand new FREE- Better Work Boundaries in 90 Minutes Masterclass, you'll:

• Understand the importance and all of the amazing benefits that come from better boundaries
• See how not setting boundaries massively impacts your self-worth and why you struggle to set them
• Identify the four main types of work boundaries you need to be setting
• Let go of the 5 most common limiting beliefs that block you from setting healthy boundaries
• Learn the 5 simple steps I use to help my clients know when to say no, listen to their gut and ditch the guilt FOR GOOD!

Where there is a lack of boundaries, there is a lack of peace. Learn how to protect your precious time, energy and peace in five simple steps! 

Join us on Thur 1st June @ 6.30pm - replay available after when you sign up. 

See you there 🙌🏻

Today's episode goes DEEP on what's holding you back from being your most rested, healthiest and happiest self (and how to finally take your power back and reclaim rest).

In this episode we'll explore:

- defining what rest actually means (and why it's not just a good nights sleep!)
- signs you're not getting enough rest (some of these will definitely surprise you)
- how to more proactive, rather than reactive, with your time
- the fears that drive compulsive doing and never ending to-do lists
- overworking as a trauma response and being stuck in flight mode
- why learning how to rest effectively is a skill that takes practice
- small simple steps that you can start TODAY to feel more rested, relaxed and rejuvenated. 

AND SO MUCH MORE!

Grab a cuppa and enjoy today's episode. Don't forget to share with a friend who also needs some of these strategies. We are so much stronger together. 

Much love and happy resting x

If you feel guilty when resting, you’re not getting real rest (and this episode is for YOU!). It's SO common but also SO unhealthy! The only way we know how to switch off is scrolling. Life is worth so much more than being busy all the time! 

In today’s episode we talk about the signs of productivity anxiety or 'productivitis' as I sometimes call it with my clients, the root causes and how to start breaking free from it! 

The secret to being your best is a daily ritual of rest. Rest is not a reward. It is a daily retreat from the demands of doing non-stop. It is an act of courage in a society that sells success as non-stop doing. Rest is restoring order to your being. It must be a part of your daily to-do list free from all reward attachments to work well done.

Settle in, grab a nice cuppa, and enjoy another episode of WOW!

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In this episode, I delve into the topic of failing forward and not staying down when faced with failure. Failure is a natural part of the growth process and can often be an opportunity for learning and personal development. 

However, it can also be a source of discouragement and disappointment. 

In this episode, I aim to provide listeners with practical tips and strategies for bouncing back from failure, embracing it as a learning opportunity, and moving forward toward success.

Key Topics Covered:

• The importance of taking risks and stepping outside of one's your comfort zone
• Understanding failure as a natural part of the growth process
• Developing a growth mindset and embracing failures as opportunities for learning and personal growth
• Implementing strategies for bouncing back from failure, such as setting achievable goals, seeking support from others, and reframing failures as lessons learned
• Overcoming self-doubt and negative self-talk

Key Takeaways:

• Failure is not the end but rather a stepping stone toward success.
• Failing forward involves learning from failures and using that experience to move forward.
• Embracing a growth mindset can help overcome failures and encourage taking risks.
• Taking action, seeking support, and reframing failures are key strategies for bouncing back from failure.

Join us as we discuss the topic of "How to Fail Forward and Not Stay Down When You Fail" and discover ways to turn failure into a powerful tool for growth and success.