Wonder with Libby Kelly

You are going to cherish these words of wisdom, self-love and profound insight from author/psychotherapist/interfaith minister, Nancy Colier, as we discuss her enlightening new book, The Emotionally Exhausted Woman. She discusses what society tells us is the "perfect" and, of course, "imperfect" woman, and she describes the "likability cage" that traps so many of us. Among other topics she beautifully outlines how the caregivers we had as children impacted how we feel about our own needs as adults.  And finally (and perhaps most importantly) she gives us tools that go far beyond typical "self-care" solutions to help us heal ourselves ... for example, we need to stop the "shoulds" and live more in "want", own our truths, and accept and love the "whole catastrophe of ourselves" to name a few concepts!  Enjoy this gift - you will be better for it!

1:45 What is society's view of the "perfect woman"?
6:20 What are we told not to be?
17:00 When do girls/women start trying to be likable?
21:30 What does Nancy think women need to do to heal themselves? 
25:40 Impact of our childhood caretakers on our needs as adults.
34:45 Core beliefs explained, we have to "earn" having our needs met, we are "to blame" for our needs
46:17 Self-care industry and farming out our wellness
54:20 Stopping the "shoulds" and living by want
1:03:50 What is real self-care?
1:08:45 Loving the whole catastrophe of ourselves
1:10:40 The wild gazelle

 Nancy Colier's bio:
A longtime student of Eastern spirituality, Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, and the author of “The Emotionally Exhausted Woman: Why You’re Feeling Depleted and How to Get What You Need” (New Harbinger, 2022), as well as numerous other books. She is a thought leader and national speaker on women’s empowerment, wellbeing, and mindful technology, and has been featured on Good Morning America, The New York Times, and countless other media. She is also a regular blogger for Psychology Today. In addition, Nancy spent 25 years as a nationally top-ranked equestrian and serves as a performance consultant to professional athletes and artists.

Join this enlightening conversation with Dr. Mary Claire O'Brien which covers a wide range of topics including the shame and embarrassment that so wrongly shroud a girl's period, feminine hygiene product taxes and lack of access that impact girls' education, the psychological transition of menopause, and so many inspirational words about motherhood, womanhood, and aging. She is a deep thinker and her perspective on these topics will profoundly impact you. Enjoy this gift of Dr. O'Brien!

We discuss:
Menarche and shame [6:00)
Cost of feminine products [7:30]
Period politics and taxes [10:09]
Modern society's view of older women [18:42]
Motherhood and sacrifice [20:40]
Menopause as a "disease" [24:50]
Psychological transition of menopause [28:38]
Women and wisdom through the decades [32:05]

Links discussed in the show:
NC Tampon Tax
The Period Project
ThePadProject.org
Period. End of Sentence. Movie trailer

Join this phenomenal comprehensive discussion about menopause with Dr. Nell P. Johnson, OBGYN. Dr. Johnson tackles this wildly complicated part of a woman’s life and discusses symptoms of perimenopause and menopause, hormone and non-hormonal treatments, alternative medicines, vaginal estrogen, vaginal physical therapy, appropriate vaginal care, recurrent UTIs, libido and sex, mood and sleep disturbances, and bone health as these all relate to menopause. She shares an extraordinary amount of wisdom in an approachable and accessible way. There are pearls of wisdom here for every woman.

Menopause defined [6:05]
Symptoms [9:12]
Women’s Health Initiative [19:40]
Menopause Hormone Therapy [27:25]
Vaginal Estrogen [29:29]
Non-hormonal treatments [31:18]
Mirena IUD and menopause [38:58]
Alternative Medicines [46:15]
Vaginal care [49:44]
Vaginal rejuvenation [54:17]
Recurrent UTIs [57:24]
Libido and treatment options [59:38]
Sex and desire [1:01:10]
Mood/sleep disturbances/brain fog [1:11:11]
Osteoporosis and bone health [1:18:14]
Take home points [1:26:30]

Dr. Nell Johnson’s advice is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for your own professional medical advice.

Join Nancy Colier, author of the newly released book, Can’t Stop Thinking, as she teaches us that rather than fighting with our thoughts, to step back from them and become a calm and nonjudgemental witness. She explains how the nearly universal tendency to overthink things, particularly negative or emotionally charged situations, rarely serves us any benefit and instead makes things worse. Turn the lens on your own mind and listen as she guides you down a path of better awareness and understanding. She also sheds light on the state of our mental health 14 months into this pandemic. She believes that we are each coming out of this chapter of our lives different than who we were going into it. We discuss how this change will likely affect what you want in life as we all turn the page and move forward.

Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, and author of many books including Can’t Stop Thinking, The Power of Off, and Inviting a Monkey to Tea. She is a thought leader on mindfulness, well-being, and digital life. She’s featured on Good Morning America, RT America, in The New York Times, and other media, and a regular blogger for Psychology Today and Huffington Post.

Join Brigid Schulte, an award winning author and international speaker as she discusses time, productivity, the causes and consequences of our unsustainable, always-on culture, and how to make time for Work, Love and Play. She is rethinking how we work so that it’s effective and sustainable, and by re-imagining gender roles for a fairer division of labor and opportunity at work and home. Instead of seeking status in busyness she encourages us to capture the value of leisure. If you think you don’t have time to listen, this is precisely why you need to hear this!

Brigid Schulte is the author of the New York Times bestselling book on time pressure, Overwhelmed: Work, Love & Play when No One has the Time, which was named one of the notable books of the year by the Washington Post and NPR, and has won several other nonfiction awards. She was an award-winning journalist for The Washington Post and The Washington Post Magazine and part of the team that won the 2008 Pulitzer Prize. She now serves as the founding director of The Good Life Initiative at the nonpartisan think tank, New America, and director of The Better Life Lab, both of which seek to elevate the conversation, explore transformative solutions and highlight how work-life and gender equity issues are key to excellence, productivity and innovation, as well as a full, authentic and meaningful life for everyone. She has been quoted in countless media outlets and has appeared on numerous TV and radio programs including NBC Nightly News, Good Morning America, BBC World News, and NPR’s Fresh Air, to name a few!

Join Brigid Schulte, an award winning author and international speaker as she discusses time, productivity, the causes and consequences of our unsustainable, always-on culture, and how to make time for Work, Love and Play. She is rethinking how we work so that it’s effective and sustainable, and by re-imagining gender roles for a fairer division of labor and opportunity at work and home. Instead of seeking status in busyness she encourages us to capture the value of leisure. If you think you don’t have time to listen, this is precisely why you need to hear this!

Brigid Schulte is the author of the New York Times bestselling book on time pressure, Overwhelmed: Work, Love & Play when No One has the Time, which was named one of the notable books of the year by the Washington Post and NPR, and has won several other nonfiction awards. She was an award-winning journalist for The Washington Post and The Washington Post Magazine and part of the team that won the 2008 Pulitzer Prize. She now serves as the founding director of The Good Life Initiative at the nonpartisan think tank, New America, and director of The Better Life Lab, both of which seek to elevate the conversation, explore transformative solutions and highlight how work-life and gender equity issues are key to excellence, productivity and innovation, as well as a full, authentic and meaningful life for everyone. She has been quoted in countless media outlets and has appeared on numerous TV and radio programs including NBC Nightly News, Good Morning America, BBC World News, and NPR’s Fresh Air, to name a few!

2020 has been one hell of a year. We are collectively hitting the pandemic wall with high rates of pandemic fatigue, we are worried about our physical/mental/emotional/financial health or all of the above, we are concerned about racial injustice/our democracy/our future, and we are hurtling towards what could be the most intensely heated election of our lifetimes.

Join me for these mini-interviews with each Enneagram type and hear Enneagram guru, Dr. Chris Copeland, share suggestions for each of us as we navigate these stressful times. The heart of this conversation: we all need to be kind to ourselves, expect less of ourselves, find what replenishes us, and lean away from the rat race of life and instead lean in towards healing. You will find much-needed serenity and countless pearls of wisdom in the words of Dr. Chris Copeland.

Jump to Your Type:
Type 2: 5:06 min
Type 3: 11:10
Type 4: 17:18
Type 5: 22:36
Type 6: 28:30
Type 7: 37:18
Type 8: 47:35
Type 9: 53:41
Type 1: 1:02:48

The Essential Enneagram (great book for basic information about this powerful tool)

Dr. Chris Copeland's Bio

Heart of the Enneagram Podcast

Heart of the Enneagram book

Your 'Surge Capacity' is Depleted - It's Why You Feel Awful

Lacy Crawford speaks with openness, eloquence, and extraordinary strength about the repercussions and impact that rape and the subsequent silencing of her voice have had on decades of her life. She lays bare the consequences of a sexual assault on identity and the tragedy that results when those in power value reputation above all else. Her new memoir, Notes on a Silencing, has been been featured in Vanity Fair, The New York Times, NPR, and has received a New York Times Review Editors’ Choice award. This episode is not to be missed.

Three remarkable citizens join Wonder for a not-to-be-missed conversation. Cathy Denning has been a revered elementary teacher at Summit School for 22 years. Dr. Pam Oliver is an OB/GYN and physician leader in our community. Larry Smith is an entrepreneur and small business owner. They discuss a range of pressing topics, including the importance of not being silent, Black Lives Matter, and fear for the safety of one's children. These brave souls are open, honest, and vulnerable, and their voices need to be heard.

Larry Smith (336-462-7034)
Detailed By Design
[email protected]

Clinical and Health psychologist Rebecca Sotile Fallon specializes in the particular challenges faced by high-achievers. She has spent her career helping successful people thrive both professionally and personally. In addition to her work as a therapist and coach, Rebecca is a published author and engaging speaker who lectures nationally on the psychosocial aspects of work/life balance for busy professionals. In this episode, she offers insight into the unique challenges that these times pose to relationships, and helps us focus on self-compassion, letting go of guilt, and aspiring toward growth.