"Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn is a groundbreaking approach to parenting that gives parents powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves. Even if you don’t have children or if they are grown, this book connects dots and explains what leads some of our current behaviors and choices. Alfie has written prolifically on the subject of shifting from punishment/reward (doing to), to more of a 'working with' relationship with our children. He is humorous and unapologetic in this! Enjoy!