Words With Myself

Being yourself can be hard at times, it shouldn't be, but it is. Naturally, most of us want to make others happy and want people to like us but this can come at a heavy price. We change who we are to please others, we change to fit in and to make our lives easier so we meet less resistance from society. Change is not to be feared, but we need to make sure we are changing for the right reasons.

An easy life may seem like the ideal life, but everything that is meaningful is always hard. To live a meaningful life we must do the hard things, this means voluntarily taking on responsibility. Leaders, Parents, Charity workers and community leaders, roles like this are highly meaningful but also require taking on the burden of large amounts of responsibility. Choose to live a meaningful life , don't run away from responsibility and challenge, instead seek them out.

Is putting others before yourself really always the best thing to do? In this episode we discuss self-prioritisation and when we help ourselves, we help others. Selfish is a label many fear being applied to them, this fear isolates people into a state of unrelenting giving to others no matter the cost to themselves. You are not helping anyone by burning yourself out trying to solve all the worlds problems and not giving yourself a moments thought. It is time to prioritise you.

If you look at your life and the components within it, it may seem natural that what you pursue is the opposite of what you fear. Naturally we avoid all the things we fear and think we are no good at, this satisfies our self-preservation requirements and makes us feel safe. However, there are many times in life that we are required to do the things we fear in order to get the things we want, sometimes we must run in the opposite direction of comfort and pursue strength instead. What are you running towards and what are you running away from?

... But don't force it to drink. If you want to create real change in the world, you must inspire. Personal change leads to localised change. Inspiring your friends and family to see the positive impact of the changes you are making will cascade to the people in their lives too. You can change the world by inspiring as many people as possible, by being the example of the good you want to see in the world and proving that it is possible to those with doubts. Instead of telling people what they need or should be doing, focus on your own growth and commitment and let that shine through to everyone.

How often do you let the fear of failure stand between you and the things you want to achieve, how often are you too paralysed with anxiety to do the things you want to do. It is time to let yourself live, without the fear of being judged, without the fear of letting people or yourself down. It is time to wage an assault on the fear of failure.

Being content is the killer of motivation and inspiration, your self-esteem may be happy under the guise that you are fine as you are but your intrinsic desire for purpose will cause you to suffer. We often know we can do more, know we could be better if we worked a little harder, tried a little more but instead of getting out of our comfort zone and leaning into the pain of inadequacy, we plateau in our comfort. Push yourself, Challenge yourself, fight to achieve more, you will be far more fulfilled in your life than latching onto temporary happiness.

You may love the idea of something more than you love the actual thing, this can be true for people, hobbies, careers and almost everything we consider something we want to obtain. Desire can blind us and cause tunnel vision, only allowing us to see the positive side of the things we want while ignoring the whole host of negatives and the journey it may take to obtain.

How well do you know yourself? Most people think they know themselves, that they know who they are and why they are that way. In truth, Some may think they know but very little understand why or how they got to be the person they are today. The contextual history of what makes you you is crucial information to be able to discern between who you are and who you have been taught to become.

Childish is commonly a term used in a negative way, but children are born with an inherent understanding of the world around them and how to behave in it. We learn to behave differently, to not play, to be scared of taking risks. As our age grows, our egos tend to follow. I am trying to reclaim the lost wisdom of my youth and return to a more carefree and playful way of living.