Marriage is not an easy proposition for many people. Those who are married today know there is a 50/50 chance they won’t make it based on statistics, but today’s guest sheds light on something that actually saved her marriage of 13 years and she explains step by step of how she was able to regain control in her own life, identify the troublespots in her marriage, and ignite passion that was always present, but somehow diminished by the day to day monotony of doing menial tasks.
Kirstin Smith is founder of Kirstin Smith Coaching and is the Best-selling author of “Confessions of an Unhappy Housewife.” She is a business partner to her husband, Jeff, and mother of their 4 children ranging in ages from 2 to 9 years old.
Today, Patrick and Kirstin have a very candid conversation about marriage, the challenges most couples face, and the triggers that tend to destroy most marriages. They discuss the importance of clear, concise communication, and identifying your individual love language and how to leverage it for a successful marriage. Kirstin shares about how she felt jealousy and resentment from her husband coming back from networking events asking her the one question that took her some time to answer…………”What is your mission?” Kirstin shares a lot about her thought processes, her education in research and how she’s used it to help her make the best decision when it comes to the best steps to take when considering oneself as well as the family unit. Kirstin shares how she used to keep her to-do list and use it as a weapon against her husband and the revelation that stopped her cold in her tracks. If you’re married, you don’t want to miss this episode. Kirstin and Patrick go wide and deep in this discussion that will probably save the other 50% of marriages currently failing at this very moment.
What You’ll Learn:
- Where Kirstin was born and raised
- How many tornadoes came ripping through Houston after Hurricane Harvey
- The power of a support system and how to tackle everything on your list every single day
- What it’s like being a mother of 4 children and supporting an entrepreneur
- Kirstin’s original plan of pursuing her Ph.D and why she never finished it
- How many languages Kirstin speaks
- The devastating effects of analysis paralysis
- How Kirstin overcompensated for not bringing physical checks into the household
- Why communication is so important in a marriage
- The 5 love languages and how to decipher what yours are
- Patrick discusses one thing he did to change the outcome of what happened at home
- How getting your personal house in order first is the secret to filling your cup
- Why Kirstin and her husband pulled their children out of public school
- How Kirstin is helping other women find freedom, autonomy, and true partnership in their marriages
- The name of her #1 Best-selling book
- How to connect with Kirstin
Favorite Quote:
“I felt a lot of guilt and shame about not producing the way my husband was producing. I didn’t have a paycheck that I could deposit in our bank account. Was there value attached to the work I was doing? Yes. But it was not lost on me that I was not the one depositing the checks. I needed to be productive. I needed to show my worth. I need to show my value. I really got bogged down in the menial tasks that go along with being a Mom; bogged down with the laundry, the dishes, running the kids everywhere, being supportive of my entrepreneurial husband while he’s building a business. I just felt like my cup was always empty and didn’t know how to fill it. I thought it was my husband’s job to fill it at the end of every day. I thought it was his job to make me happy, but it was my job to make myself happy.”
How To Connect with Kirstin:
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Book: Confessions of an Unhappy Housewife
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Patrick Bolanos is a serial entrepreneur, business owner, and CEO of Trailer King Builders in Houston, Texas.
He was raised in Nicaragua, exposed to extreme poverty, and also had the fortune of being exposed to life in the United States traveling back and forth to both countries.
After college, Patrick’s career took him into the corporate world of banking where he learned the important lessons of understanding what you’re selling and why it’s important to believe in it.
Back in December of 2017, Patrick was fired from his job as a CFO for a Restaurant Group. With only $500 to his name, rent due, his wife, 3 children at home, and one on the way, he was forced to figure out how to pull his family out of this financial abyss that was strangling his life.
With no knowledge of how to build a trailer, Patrick simply figured all of it out and has now built it into the thriving empire of what’s now become Trailer King Builders.
This show highlights the failures, successes, lessons, and insights from Patrick and his guests. Bring your notepads and pens. You’re in for a real-life education.
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