Welcome to another solo episode of WYP! Today is all about showing up in those tough moments when you're feeling not good enough, but you want the courage to take that step. In this episode you'll hear 6 things that will help you show up and move through your fear! 

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Until next week, be well, fail big, and go wreck your perfection.

In today's solo episode, I talk about how to determine whether you're a perfectionist, why shame is at the root of perfectionism, and how we can begin to take small steps to expand our comfort zone and ultimately live with more joy, purpose, fulfillment, and connection. 

Some resources I mention in the episode:

Any of Brene Brown's books (I recommend starting with 'The Gifts of Imperfection')

Carol Dweck's Book 'Mindset'

Carol Dweck's Ted Talk on Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset

Head here if you'd like to book a free consult with me if you're interested in how life coaching can help you wreck your perfection. Email me at [email protected], or DM me on instagram @rachelle.lanae - I want to hear from you on what you're struggling with, what your wins are, and how I can best be here for you and support you. Until next week, be well, fail big, and go wreck your perfection.

Today's episode of WYP is with Patricia Grgurovic. Patricia moved to MN from the Philippines at the age of 7. She has worked as a high school counselor, a day treatment psychotherapist, an equity specialist, and a systemic family therapist. She is also a national SEED project leader and is passionate about educational equity. In this interview the biggest part of our conversation is about building emotional resilience and why so many kids and adults are losing our resiliency. Patricia also shares about digging deep into her own identity as a Philippino-American, why it’s important to learn about your ancestry whether you are BIPOC or you are white, and how we can learn to listen to each other and walk through grief together.

Some resources mentioned in the episode: 

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Chimamanda's Ted Talk (this wasn't mentioned but it is AMAZING)

National SEED Project

If you are working on wrecking your own perfection, and want to learn more about coaching with me, you can set up a free hour-long consult at wreckyourperfection.com. And if you want more daily content, follow me on instagram @rachelle.lanae. Be well, fail big, and go wreck your perfection!

On today's episode, I have the privilege of interviewing my sister, Brigitta Smith, and her boyfriend, Mike Diaz. They are two of my FAVORITE human beings, and it's such an honor to hear from them about what it was like to meet and begin dating after divorce. We also talk about being an interracial couple, dealing with mental heath, and staying present with each other.

If you like the podcast, please leave a review and share it with a friend! If you have any feedback for me on the show, or any suggestions, I'd love to hear from you via email at [email protected]. Follow me on instagram @rachelle.lanae for more daily content, and I'll see you back here for next Friday's episode! Be well, fail big, and go wreck your perfection. 

Welcome to Season 3 of WYP! On today's episode, I share my story about how perfectionism has impacted me from childhood until now, how I realized I was a perfectionist and what that turning point looked like, and how I have learned to wreck my own perfectionism one baby step at a time by consistently doing things that scare the living SHIT out of me. Recording this episode included! As always, I want to hear from you on what you're struggling with and in what ways you need support so that I can show up for you in the best way possible. DM me @rachelle.lanae or @wreckyourperfection, or email me at [email protected]. I'd also love to hear your wins and find out how you're wrecking your perfection! If you want to hear more songs like the one at the end of the episode, you can check out my EP 'Taking Back Me' on Spotify/Apple Music. 

Some of my favorite resources that have helped me in my perfectionism recovery:

Anything by Brene Brown (she has more but these are the ones I've read, some of them multiple times): The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Dare To Lead, and I Thought It Was Just Me. Also her Ted Talk on The Power of Vulnerability. 

Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way. This one is awesome if you're looking to get more creativity into your life. 

Mindset by Carol Dweck. Consistently working to change from a fixed mindset into a growth mindset in all areas of life is, I believe, the work that us perfectionists have to do. Perfectionism and fixed mindset go hand-in-hand.

Life Coaching. I was introduced to life coaching at a pivotal time a few years back, and it helped me transform in so many areas. I am now addicted to getting coaching because it's brought me to do things I never thought possible. There are tons of amazing life coaches out there, and I encourage you to find one who's a good fit for you. If you want to work with someone who can help you wreck your perfection, I'm also available as a certified professional coach. You can book a free consultation on my website. 

THERAPY. This is the big one, folks. If you have trauma of any kind, it's never too late to seek out help. As a perfectionist, it honestly took me until this year to even realize that I have anxiety, and that's a big part of how my perfectionism plays out. If therapy is not an option for you due to affordability, Open Path offers discounted rates ($30-60/hr).

See you next week! Be well, fail big, and go wreck your perfection.

On today's episode of Wreck Your Perfection, I have the privilege of interviewing Charly Haversat. Charly is a beautiful soul that I found because I came across her Ted Talk on Perfectionism. She has a wide breadth of experience, from working in finance for huge companies to her background as a pro athlete turned yoga instructor, and even running for public office. Charly is such a delight to speak with, and she shares about what it means to have good enough policy, how we can band together with our communities to create social change, and really what can happen personally and in our world if we drop our idea of perfect and exchange it for better. And we talk about trees. Which is pretty great because I love trees, and I mean who doesn’t?!

If you want to reach out to Charly, her email is [email protected]

Click to learn more about nuns against guns, The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben, or to watch Charly's Ted Talk 

If you have feedback, a story about how you’re wrecking your perfection, or you just want to say hi, you can email me at [email protected], or slide into my DM’s on instagram at rachelle.lanae. Also, if you’re an artist who’s feeling blocked, or you don’t consider yourself creative but you’ve always wanted to be, I’d love to be your creativity coach! I am a certified professional coach, and I’m offering an introductory rate until December 1st. Head over to wreckyourperfection.com or email me to learn more!

Hi, and welcome to Wreck Your Perfection! I’m your host, Rachelle LaNae. Today we have an amazing guest that I feel so fortunate to get to introduce. His name is Dr. Thomas Curran, and he is the Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Sciences at the London School of Economics and Political Science. His primary area of expertise is the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts mental health. He is the author of over 30 published papers and book chapters, and has received numerous awards for his scholarship and research.

You’re going to hear about why social factors are so important when it comes to perfectionism, where this idea of perfection even comes from, and how we’re impacted by our capitalist overlords.

Dr. Thomas Curran's Ted Talk

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck 

The Neurotic Personality of Our Time by Karen Horney 

If you'd like to learn more about how to wreck your OWN perfection through life coaching, check out www.wreckyourperfection.com. 

On this week’s episode of Wreck Your Perfection, I have the honor of speaking with Coach Valorie Kondos Field, also known as Miss Val. She is the Former Head Coach of the UCLA Women’s Gymnastics team, and despite never having done gymnastics in her life, she led her team to 7 NCAA Team Championships, was inducted into the UCLA Athletics Hall of Fame, and was voted PAC 12 Coach of the Century. In this interview you’re going to hear real talk about how she transformed herself from a dictating leader into a curious and supportive coach, how she created an atmosphere of encouragement and trust, and what it means to redefine success and create champions in life.

More from Miss Val (trust me, you're going to want it!)

Head over to her website to find out more: https://officialmissval.com/

Buy a mask from Miss Val's website - 100% of proceeds are donated to support survivors of sex trafficking

Order her book, 'Life is Short, Don't Wait to Dance'

Watch Miss Val's Ted Talk

If you want to wreck your own perfection, turn your self-doubt into self-compassion, and step into your courage to live a life that's authentically you, I'd love to work with you as your coach! Head on over to https://wreckyourperfection.com/ (the website is under construction but you can contact me there!)

I'd love to have your feedback on the show! Email me at [email protected] or DM me on instagram @rachelle.lanae

On this week's episode, I had the immense pleasure of speaking with Dr. Ashley M. Davis. Ashley has dedicated herself to exploring the impact of servant leadership and is influence on the personal development and fulfillment of others. Working in continuing education and intercollegiate athletics, Ashley possesses a wealth of knowledge which she uses to open doors for others. As an educator and life coach, her motto is "Lean into your greatness, and never be afraid to let the world feel your shine." In today's conversation, you'll learn about how to get into alignment and find your authentic path, how servant leadership starts with our own inner work, and how getting clear on who you really are sets you up for unshakable confidence. Get ready to get INSPIRED by this amazing woman. 

Connect with Ashley on Twitter @drashleydavis: https://twitter.com/DrAshleyDavis

On Instagram @drashleydavis: https://www.instagram.com/drashleydavis/

Email Ashley at: [email protected]

If you want to wreck your perfection, consider working with a coach! I champion people who struggle with self-doubt and the inner critic by helping them step into their courage and find their brilliance. For a short time, I am offering a discounted rate as I accumulate practicum hours. Email me at [email protected] if you'd like a free consult to learn more about life coaching and working with me!

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I'd LOVE your feedback on the show! Tell me what you like, what you didn't like, what you'd like to see! Email me at [email protected] or DM me on instagram @rachelle.lanae

On today's episode of Wreck Your Perfection, I have the privilege of speaking with Travis Daigle. Travis is a writer who is fascinated with how we solve problems in everyday life. I came across his Tedx Talk that he gave in 2018, where he shares his incredibly powerful story and in it he reveals how he was able to transform his pain into strength and resilience. He shares insights about the power of determination, how to overcome deeply held limiting beliefs, and how to find the courage to define success on your own terms. I learned so much from our talk, and I know you’re going to love what he has to say. Just a quick heads up that we do talk about weight loss and if that is a trigger for you, you might want to skip this episode.

To get more of Travis Daigle and to follow his blog, visit https://travisdaigle.com/

Recommended reading for those who want to work towards anti-racism: Stamped From the Beginning by Ibram X. Kendi and 'me and white supremacy' by Layla F. Saad

Spend your dollars thoughtfully, and consider how you can support your local black-owned businesses. Official Black Wall Street is a great place to start, and they also have an app!

To support the podcast through a monthly donation, visit my Anchor.fm page. 10% of all donations will be donated to World Food Programme to support those experiencing hunger.

I'd LOVE your feedback on the show! Tell me what you like, what you didn't like, what you'd like to see! Email me at [email protected] or DM me on instagram @rachelle.lanae

Thank you for listening; my wish for us in our actions and conversations this week is to be well, fail big, and go wreck our perfection!