Every week I paint my nails and watch an episode of Gossip Girl. Itâs like my church. Whatever episode Iâm on, the themes are spot on to set me up for the week ahead. The timing is always uncanny.
Watch the show and see what stands out to you: what inspires you? What disgusts you? Let your emotional reactions to the characters show you what to focus on in your own life.Â
And if youâre inspired, join me in my rewatch! Weâre jumping straight in to where I happen to be this week:
Season 2 Episode 6: New Haven Can Wait
This is the episode where they visit Yale, culminating with Serena and Blairâs show down and the deanâs reception.Â
Life Lessons from Gossip Girl:
Flip that chip on your shoulder.
When youâre frustrated, who or what do you blame for holding you back? Whatâs in your control? Whatâs not? How can your perceived setbacks be an advantage? Donât be like Dan and blame it all on being from Brooklyn. Look at Nate, who pretends to be Dan, because anonymity is a privilege. How can you navigate your current situation with pride and authority?Â
Nobody actually cares about how much effort youâre putting in.
Itâs an ugly truth, but think about it: you wonât get rewarded for trying. Dan and Blair mould themselves to fit the perceived formula. Whatâs the magic word that will please the Yale gatekeepers?Â
Craft over Contrived Connection.
Jenny focuses on bringing her artistic vision to life. Create the best fashion show, and others will follow your lead. Others might fire you, reject you, or stand in your way, but it doesnât matter. When youâre creating in service to the vision - not just yourself but for everyone who will enjoy it - the work will speak for itself. Invite people in to witness it, knowing that itâs irresistible.Â
Get comfortable being yourself, and you wonât have to try so hard.
Leaning on a persona or manipulating others to get your way is an exhausting method to keep up. But if youâre used to being authentic, you donât have to try. You just have to show up, relax, and be present. Serena and Blair have the same privilege. Serena embraces her It Girl positioning, basking in the magnetism that comes with letting things be easy. Blair doesnât leverage the privilege she has, trying to âearnâ her way where she doesnât have to. She misses opportunities to connect in surprising ways. That fashion show that impressed the dean? Serena took credit, but it was Blairâs familyâs event.Â
Donât worry about what Serena Van Der Woodsen is doing.
What does Serena have that you wish you had? Use jealousy as a tool to inform what feels missing from your life. But if youâre too overwhelmed by envy to be curious, simply look away.Â
xoxo, X
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