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Morning, Bladimir. Take a seat, please. We will start the class in some minutes.

Yeah, okay, teacher. But I don't think it makes sense to learn more things in English.

No? Why do you say that? You look a little sad. What happened?

I have been studying English and learning a lot of things, but I don't have anyone to practice it with. I have applied some tips that you gave me last time, but I still haven't found anyone.

Oh, I see. Well, there are some things you can do to find people to practice English with.

Really? You're going to help me then? Thank you very much, teacher.

Yeah, sure. It's important for many reasons: practice makes perfect, real conversations build confidence, feedback, or just to make friends. What can you do then? Well, one thing you can do is use language learning websites. Websites like BBC Learning English or British Council offer resources and activities for learning English. They often have community sections where you can interact with other learners. Use these websites to practice exercises and then discuss your progress with others. Many websites also have chat features where you can ask questions and get feedback from native speakers or advanced learners.

What else?

Oh, this is something I used to do when I was studying English: attend virtual workshops and webinars. I used to do it and it worked very well. Find virtual workshops and webinars on topics that interest you. Many websites often have free or paid events where you can learn new skills. These events are usually in English and give you a chance to listen and ask questions. Participating in workshops helps you practice English. You can also meet other people and network with them. That's what I did. I subscribed to some editorials and usually they offered free seminars and conferences, so I always signed up for those events and participated there and made many friends to practice English.

This is another thing you can do: follow English language influencers and comment. Follow influencers on social media who post content in English. This could be on Instagram, YouTube, or Twitter. Engage with their posts by liking, sharing, and especially by commenting in English. Respond to their content or ask questions. This helps you practice writing and understanding English. You can also connect with other followers who have similar interests.

Seriously?

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Matthew：Hello

John: Hello, my name is John and I'm calling to ask about the apartment for rent. I saw your advertisement online.

Matthew: Yes, thanks for calling John. I'm Matthew. I have a two-bedroom apartment and I'm looking for a roommate to share the rent.

John: Great, where is the apartment located?

Matthew: The address is 345 South Street, Apartment C. It is across from the library and right next door to the pizza restaurant.

John: I know exactly where that is. That's a great location.

Matthew: Yes, I find it very convenient.

John: And what is the rent?

Matthew: It's 800 per month so your half would be 400.

John: That sounds good to me.

Matthew: Would you like to come by and check out the apartment?

John: That would be great. How about 5 pm today?

Matthew: Perfect, I'll see you then.

Matthew: So John, I've prepared a few questions to see if you'd be a good match as a roommate. Are you ready?

John: Go for it.

Matthew: Okay, first of all, are you a smoker?

John: I am not a smoker. Do you smoke?

Matthew: I don't and I'm really glad you don't either. I would prefer to keep the apartment smoke-free.

John: Me too, I cannot stand the smell of smoke.

Matthew: Perfect, next question. Are you a night owl or an early bird?

John: I tend to get up early because I like to get to the gym early and work out most days. I've always liked staying active and fit.

Matthew: Great, I'm an early bird as well and I like to run in the morning whenever I get the chance. How often would you plan on having friends or family visit? Are you very outgoing?

John: I would probably have friends over a few nights a week but I wouldn't host a lot of parties. I'm pretty laid back and prefer a night of playing cards with friends rather than a loud and crazy dance party. My little brother will probably come visit a few times a year but he is really friendly and easy to get along with.

Matthew: That sounds good. I do host a few parties a year but otherwise, I too just have a few friends over every once in a while. How old is your brother?

John: He's 16. He might be coming to college here in a few years. Do you have siblings?

Matthew: I have a brother too but he is older than me. He's married and has kids so he will not be visiting me anytime soon. I think it's cool if your brother wants to come visit us a few times. That shouldn't be a problem.

Matthew: Another question, when it comes to chores and cleaning, what tasks do you prefer to take on and how clean do you expect the apartment to be?

John: I generally like things to be pretty tidy. I'll gladly help out to make sure we keep the apartment clean. I'll do the dishes and run the vacuum often. How clean do you like to keep things?

Matthew: I'm pretty neat as well. I hate coming home to a messy apartment so I'm constantly cleaning up the kitchen and mopping the floors. I'd also help out with cleaning the bathroom and dusting around the apartment.

Matthew: It sounds like we would both keep things clean which is good. What are you studying in school?

John: I'm a chemistry and a biology major. I hope to become a doctor one day.

Matthew: Wow, that's impressive. I'm majoring in business but I'm not exactly sure what I will do after I graduate. Do you have any questions for me?

John: Yes, in general, what are some things you like to do? How do you spend your weekends and free time?

Matthew: I like to go to the movies a lot. I also like to cook and try new recipes. On the weekends I swim, meet friends for lunch, go on hikes, and play video games. How about you? What do you like to do?

John: I love to read and play video games. I also like to go to concerts and listen to music.

Matthew: Nice, I love music as well. Is there anything you really don't like?

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Hello Jonah, what happened? Why are you sad? Do you have any problem?

Hello Richard, yeah I do. You know, money problems as usual.

You always have that problem, bro. Why is that? What's the matter?

Well, I don't know. Every time I receive my payment, I think it will be enough, but then it isn't. I think I'm spending too much money. I really need to save money, but I can't.

Well, yeah, saving some money is important. That way you won't be worried later.

Yes, I know that, but I can't. I try, but it doesn't work for me. I opened a bank account just to save money, but every time I need more money, I take it from it. I don't know what to do. You and I earn the same amount of money, but you're always fine. You know how to save money, right? Help me, please. I need to know.

Well, that's true. I always try to save some money. I know it is very important. I am not an expert, but if you want, I can give you some tips on how to save money.

Yes, please. I'm tired of borrowing money at the end of the month.

Alright, the first thing to do is establish a monthly budget. Making a monthly budget is a great way to save more money. Why? Well, simple. By having a budget, you become more aware of your spending habits, and rather than spending endlessly, there are parameters to how much you can spend, which ultimately leads to greater savings. So that's an important thing to do, my friend.

Yeah, but how can I make a monthly budget? I have never done something like that.

Follow these simple steps: examine your monthly income, categorize your spending distinguishing needs, wants, and goals, track your spending, budget for fixed and irregular expenses. To ensure that your budget is helping you save money each month, you'll need to review it consistently and make adjustments. Your financial habits and goals will change over time, so your budget should reflect those changes. Without a budget, it is impossible to know how much you're spending every month. And remember, it has to be a realistic budget.

What else can you do? Well, automate transfers to a savings account. An almost effortless way you can save money each month is to set up automatic transfers from paychecks to one or more of your saving accounts. Your financial institution can help you do this. Once this is set up, you won't have to worry about saving on your own. It'll be something that happens automatically, making it easier to save before you spend it.

Count your coins and bills. Another option is saving your change manually by setting it aside each night. After you have a sizable amount, you can deposit it directly into your savings account.

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Hello, hello to all my friends!

Today's podcast episode is going to be extremely helpful. I really hope this is the most requested podcast episode. Hey Kelly, are you excited about the episode?

What's the topic of today's podcast?

I don't know yet, sorry that I forgot to mention the topic earlier. We're going to discuss how our viewers can enhance their English-speaking skills.

Oh, I see. That's an interesting topic. So Kelly, is English your native language?

No, not at all. Spanish is actually my native language. I learned English as a second language.

That's amazing! But why did you choose English among all the languages out there?

Nice question. I chose English for various reasons like its wide usage and importance in the professional world. Also, English opens up more opportunities for personal and career growth.

So, is that the only reason?

While those are some key reasons, there's more to it. Learning English also connects me to diverse cultures, allows me to access a vast amount of knowledge and entertainment, and helps me communicate with people from all over the world.

Hey Daisy, what challenges did you face while learning English?

When I was learning English, I often struggled with speaking. I could understand everything, but when it came to speaking, my mind would go blank. It was frustrating and made me feel less confident.

Are you serious? I also used to face the same problem while I was learning English. I think most people face this problem because speaking a new language can be intimidating. We worry about making mistakes or not being able to find the right words, and that fear holds us back.

I fully agree with you on this. Yes, I realized that language is a bridge that allows us to understand and be understood by others, and I wanted to be able to communicate effectively with a wide range of people.

Yeah, that's right. Because so many people can speak the language, it helps to connect us in a global world. As well as knowing English increases the chances of getting a good job.

Also, I found that setting small, achievable goals for myself, such as having short conversations with native English speakers or practicing speaking for a few minutes each day, helped me gain confidence and improve my fluency over time.

I have a question here, may I ask?

Sure, you can ask me anything without hesitation.

Just before, you mentioned that you used to practice speaking with native speakers, right?

Yes, I said that.

How did you find native speakers to practice English?

Oh, that's a great question. I forgot to tell you that I lived in the UK for more than 5 years, so I got the opportunity to practice speaking with native English speakers daily.

I see. That is what I wanted to address. Living in an English-speaking environment really accelerated my learning process and helped me gain confidence in speaking English fluently. I surrounded myself with English speakers, and that constant exposure to the language allowed me to adopt the natural flow and nuances of English conversation. It was a significant factor in improving my English-speaking skills.

But most people don't have the opportunity to live in an English-speaking environment like you did. What advice would you give to those who don't have access to native English speakers daily?

I see. There are language learning apps such as Cambly, italki, and HelloTalk, which offer paid and free options for practicing speaking with native English speakers.

Hey Kelly, what would you say on this?

For those who don't have access to native English speakers daily, there are still plenty of resources and methods to improve English-speaking skills.

Great, what kind of resources?

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Roman, what a beautiful day it is today. Don't you think it is? It's very sunny. Unfortunately, I have to work today, so I can't enjoy this sunny day. But today is Saturday; you don't work on Saturdays. That's what you told me.

Yeah, but this week is different. I have to work some extra hours. I need money. You know what? Last time I was thinking, if I were a millionaire, I wouldn't work anymore. If we were millionaires, we wouldn't be living here, that's for sure.

Why not? This is a nice place. Where would you live if you were a millionaire? I don't know, but probably in a luxury house near the river or the beach. That sounds great. I could also buy a house, a big house, but here. If I were a millionaire, then my life would take a dramatic turn from what it is now, for sure.

Really? Tell me more about it. What have you imagined if you were a millionaire? Well, basically, I would adopt the lifestyle of the rich and famous.

Yeah, the first thing that I would do if I were a millionaire is to help my parents. My parents are poor and live in a small house. It could be a dream come true if I could buy them a bigger, better, and more spacious house. They would also be able to live a life of luxury as I would be able to hire people to help them. My father could finally get his well-earned break. He has been selling vegetables in the market all his life and has worked hard. So if I become a millionaire, I could ask him to stop working as he is old and needs to rest. I would not want him to die in harness, of course.

Not man, you're right. Your dad works really hard every day. He needs to rest. Yeah, money is definitely a boon and can be a friend. My life could change too. I could finally be able to afford to buy better clothes and could even be able to afford some designer labels. You know I like to wear nice clothes, but I don't have much money to buy them. If I had the money, I wouldn't care about buying clothes. I know you wear the same clothes every day. Ha haa.

Well, tell me more about it. What else could you do if you were a millionaire? I could be driving a fancy car. I love a sports car. I could buy a great luxury car too. I could go to eat at the best clubs in town and rub shoulders with only very special people.

Really? What about your old friends, friends like me? To maintain this image could mean that I will not be able to hang out with some friends. No, I'm kidding. Of course, I wouldn't change my friends. I'm just joking.

All right, tell me something good. You give money to charity? I'd donate liberally for all kinds of victims such as floods, famine, cyclone, earthquake, communal riots, terrorism. You know what I mean. I'd help them all and even more than that, I'd not hesitate in doing social service with my own hands.

And you don't need to be a millionaire to start with that. You can help a charity organization now. That's good. I'd open dispensaries and schools in rural areas. I could start the change of factories to increase industrialism and provide employment to thousands of unemployed meritorious young men and women. I'd provide a park for children in my own locality here in this town. We don't have one.

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Hey Diana, how are you doing, my friend? I'm doing great. How is your mother's health now?

Yeah, she is fine now, but how do you know about that?

As a good friend of yours, it's my responsibility to stay updated and show concern for the well-being of your family. You know I'm always here for you and your family no matter what.

How sweet of you to say that, Diana. It means a lot to me and my family to have you in our lives.

I understand, but I'm feeling a bit upset about it. Why didn't you tell me?

I'm really sorry for that. I was worried about my mother's health.

What's the illness that she is dealing with?

It is pain-related. She has been suffering for many years.

So how many doctors has she consulted so far?

Till now, three doctors have treated her, but none of them were able to provide a long-term solution.

Oh, I see. You must be feeling really worried and frustrated about this. It's tough to see a loved one in pain and not be able to find a solution.

I can't shake off this feeling of helplessness and frustration.

No, no, Robinson. Never give up. You have to keep trying. I just hope we can find a way to ease her pain and bring some comfort to her.

I can recommend some doctors to you. I know a few good ones who might be able to help.

Sure, my mother has pain in the upper and back side.

I'll send you the list tonight. Don't worry.

Hello, my friend. Now we are going to listen to some success stories. Hey Robinson, do you know Elon Musk?

Yes, of course. Who doesn't know him? He is the richest man in the world.

Correct. He is inspirational for a new generation.

Yes, truly. Let's discuss his story. Elon Musk was just a kid, but every school day was a nightmare. As he's described it, bullies hunted him down. They were verbally, physically, and psychologically abusive. Eventually, they beat him so badly that Elon woke up in a hospital. And his home life was no picnic either. While Elon has never divulged exactly what happened between him and his father, Elon Musk is a person who never gives up. He has faced many challenges but always keeps going. He started his first company when he was young and worked very hard to make it successful. Even when things were tough, he never gave up. This determination has helped him to achieve amazing things like starting companies such as SpaceX and Tesla.

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Hello, what are you doing here? The class has finished, you can go home.

Yes, I know. I decided to stay because I want to ask you some questions.

Please.

I see. Well, tell me, what's your question? I think I have some minutes for you.

Thank you, teacher. Well, I have to tell you that I probably won't attend classes next month. I am planning to take out a loan from the bank to go on a trip to an English-speaking country since it is the only way to learn English. I must be in a country where they speak English, otherwise, I will never be able to speak English. That's why I have decided to ask for a loan and go to another country.

What? Who told you that? That's not true. Where did you see that?

Well, I saw that on a video. They said you need to live in an English-speaking country to become fluent.

Well, let me tell you, that's not true. That's only a myth. I will explain it to you. It is a common belief that you must live in a country where English is spoken to become fluent. However, this is not necessary. With the internet, movies, books, and online classes, you can practice and improve your English anywhere. Seriously, the most important thing is regular practice and exposure to the language. That's all. So it is not necessary to travel to another country to learn English. If you can do it, excellent. It is really a great experience to visit and know different cultures, but you don't need to go into debt to travel. It may be an error, so think about it very carefully.

I understand. Well, I suppose you're right. Now that I think about it, you're right. It's just that in the process of learning English, one can despair and believe anything.

I know. There are many myths about learning English. Another one is you can learn English quickly with the right method. This is not correct. There's a belief that you can learn English very quickly if you use the best method or a magic trick. In reality, learning a language takes time and effort. There are no shortcuts. Consistent practice and patience are key. Now, of course, different methods can help, but there's no single best method that works for everyone. There are methods that can help you learn English better and even faster, but not in a very short time. You have to understand that.

Oh yeah, now I get it. I have also heard speaking is the only important skill.

Oh, that's another myth. Some people believe that speaking is the most important part of learning English, but they don't understand that reading, writing, and listening are just as important. All these skills work together. For example, reading can help you learn new words, which will improve your speaking and writing. Listening to English helps you understand how words sound and are used in real conversations. All the skills are important.

Yes, you have said something like that before, I remember. Another myth, another example is you must learn perfect grammar first.

That's not true. Many learners think they must know perfect grammar before they can start speaking or writing in English. This is a myth. It is okay to make mistakes. Mistakes help you learn. You can communicate effectively even if your grammar is not perfect. The goal is to communicate your ideas, not to be perfect. Or the myth that says you must understand every word to understand English. In reality, you don't need to know all the words. Often, you can understand the main idea by knowing some key words and using context. Learning to guess the meaning from context is a very useful skill.

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Checking in at the Airport

Good morning! Welcome to our check-in counter. How can I assist you today?

Good morning. I have a flight to Chicago this morning.

Perfect. Let me just pull up your reservation. Can I have your full name and flight details, please?

Of course. My name is Oliver Adams, and my flight is scheduled for 10:30 a.m. to Chicago O'Hare.

I see your reservation here, Mr. Adams. May I have your passport, please?

Here you go.

Do you have any bags to check in?

Yes, just this one.

Please put it on the scale.

Great, your bag is all set. Here is your boarding pass. You are seated in 18A.

Thank you. Can you remind me where the gate for my flight is located?

Of course, your gate is B12, just a short walk from here. Boarding will begin 30 minutes prior to departure.

Thanks for the reminder. I really appreciate your help.

My pleasure, Mr. Adams. Is there anything else I can assist you with today?

Actually, yes. Could you please confirm if the flight is on time? I have a meeting as soon as I land in Chicago.

Let me check for you. It looks like your flight is currently on time. You should arrive in Chicago around 1:45 p.m. local time.

Perfect. That gives me just enough time to make it to my meeting. Thank you so much for checking that for me.

You're welcome, Mr. Adams. Have a safe and pleasant journey to Chicago.

Thank you. Have a great day.

Ordering Food and Drinks on the Plane

Good afternoon. Would you like to order your lunch now?

Sure, what are the options?

Today we have three choices for you. Firstly, we have baked chicken breast on a bed of mashed potatoes, served with a green salad with beetroot and a dessert chosen from our finest cakes.

That sounds delicious. What are the other options?

The second option is pork tenderloin stuffed with vegetables and cheese on a bed of mashed potatoes, topped with a green salad with radicchio and a dessert.

And lastly, we have vegetable meatballs with tomato sauce and herbs, served with a green salad with ricotta and a dessert.

They all sound tempting. I think I'll go with the baked chicken breast.

I'm going to try the pork tenderloin. What kind of dessert options do we have?

For desserts, we have a selection of the finest cakes, such as chocolate mousse cake, lemon tart, and tiramisu.

I think I'll have the tiramisu.

I'll have the chocolate mousse cake, please.

Perfect choices. Anything to drink with your meals?

I'll have a glass of lemonade.

I'll have sparkling water, please.

Great, I'll make a note of that. Your meals will be served shortly. Enjoy your flight.

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Hey Elena, I am not feeling good today, my friend.

What's on your mind? Is everything okay? Feel free to open up to me.

Nothing serious, but I don't know, my relationships are not good.

It's evident that you're not happy in your relationships. It's important to address this and figure out what's causing your unhappiness. I'm here to support you through it.

Thanks, Elena. How is your relationship with your people?

My relationships with my people are thriving. With my close friends, I always try to be a good listener and show empathy. I believe that understanding their feelings and perspectives is crucial.

Is just listening enough for a healthy relationship? I make a conscious effort to be an attentive listener, yet I find that my relationships are not thriving as I'd hoped.

Good question. Listening is definitely important, but building strong relationships involves more than just that. Understanding, empathy, trust, and communication are also crucial factors in fostering healthy and thriving relationships.

Good points, I agree with you. It's important to show genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings, be there for them in good and bad times, and communicate openly and honestly. These qualities can help in creating strong and meaningful connections with others.

I always make an effort to support them during their hard times, but when I find myself in need, it saddens me that nobody is there for me. This is where my relationships start to falter, and it's disheartening.

It's really a shame when some people only contact you when they need something. It feels pretty disheartening to realize that certain folks only remember you when they're looking for help.

You know, I used to like a girl and I proposed to her.

Wow, who was the girl? Did she accept your proposal?

Don't be happy, Elena. She rejected my proposal.

Why? I mean, how did you propose to her?

I took her to my favorite spot in the park. I got down on one knee, told her how much she meant to me, and asked her to spend the rest of her life with me. But she said no.

That sounds lovely. Did you have a conversation with her before proposing?

No, never. I didn't have a direct conversation with her about it before proposing. I wanted the moment to be a surprise, and I had been dropping hints here and there, so I believe she had an idea that it might happen soon.

Cool, what type of hints did she give?

Whenever I glanced at her, she would flash a bright smile, and I couldn't help but believe that she had feelings for me.

Only giving a smile is not enough, and you shouldn't propose to someone directly.

Then how should I impress a girl and propose?

Well, building a strong foundation of friendship and understanding is crucial before proposing to someone. Take the time to truly get to know her, her likes and dislikes, her dreams and aspirations. Show genuine interest in her life and make meaningful memories together.

You mean I have to be a friend of hers before proposing to a girl?

Absolutely. Being a friend allows you to truly get to know her, understand her values, and build a strong foundation for a successful relationship. It's important to establish a connection and trust before taking the next step towards something more serious.

I totally agree with you, Elena. There is no doubt being friends first can help you both determine if you are truly compatible and share similar interests and goals. So take your time to be a good friend first, and when the timing feels right, you can consider taking your relationship to the next level. When you feel confident that you both share a deep connection and understanding, express your feelings honestly and openly.

Thank you so much, Elena. I had no idea about these cool things before. I have many things to share if you are interested.

Sure, why not? I'm actually really curious to learn more about this topic too.

Great, let me share some common mistakes you should avoid.

Mistakes, huh? Okay, it's also important to know.

Don't compare your girl with other girls or your ex. Each person and relationship is unique, and it's important to appreciate and focus on the present. Give your current relationship the opportunity to flourish by seeing your partner for who they are, not by measuring them against others. It's all about creating a genuine connection and leaving unnecessary baggage behind.

That's a good point. I also don't like comparing myself to another guy.

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Samuel, you are here. Why didn't you go down for lunch?

I am not hungry. I am not going to eat today. I don't feel like eating or anything else.

You're not hungry? That's not common. Tell me, son, what happened?

Nothing happened. I'm fine, Dad. I just want to be alone, that's all.

Okay, okay. I will leave you alone, but if you need someone to talk to, count on me.

Wait, Dad. I need to ask you, did you and Mom fight a lot when you were dating?

Are you serious? Of course we fought when we were dating. It's something normal. But why do you ask? Don't tell me you fought with your girlfriend again, Samuel.

Yes, we did, and this time I think she's really upset with me. I don't know what to do.

Oh, my son. But why? What happened? Tell your dad.

Well, she says I don't care about her feelings and that I'm not empathic. Is that true, Dad?

Well, I don't know, but we all make mistakes when we are young. That's the truth. She says I have no emotional responsibility. What the hell does that mean?

Oh, I see. Emotional responsibility means understanding and managing your own emotions. It involves recognizing how your feelings and actions affect yourself and others. Being emotionally responsible helps you build healthy relationships and handle conflicts better. By practicing emotional responsibility, you create a positive and supportive environment for yourself and those around you. And of course, that includes your girlfriend. That's what emotional responsibility means, son.

I see. And what can I do, Dad? I don't want to lose her. Help me, please.

Let's see. To start, you need to be self-aware. To be emotionally responsible, start by being self-aware. Pay attention to your emotions and how you react in different situations. Notice what triggers your feelings, whether it's anger, happiness, or sadness. Understanding why you feel a certain way helps you manage your emotions better. For example, if you feel angry when someone interrupts you, recognizing this can help you find ways to stay calm and manage the situation better.

Show empathy. Empathy involves understanding and sharing the feelings of others. Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and see things from their perspective. When someone is sharing their emotions with you, listen carefully and show that you care. Do you think it's difficult? No, this can be as simple as saying, "I understand how you feel." Empathy helps build stronger relationships and shows that you value others' feelings.

Practice self-control. Self-control is key to emotional responsibility. When you feel strong emotions like anger or frustration, take a moment to pause and breathe deeply. This helps you think before you act or speak. For instance, if you are upset with a friend, take a few moments to calm down before talking to them. This way, you can communicate your feelings calmly and avoid saying something hurtful in the heat of the moment. It is very important.