YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

One surprising challenge for the man traveling through Africa is that porn is illegal in essentially every country there. This, combined with spotty Internet access, can genuinely inhibit a man from being able to orgasm during his trip. Not to mention what it might do to prostate-cancer rates.

Condom use, or lack thereof in early sexual encounters, is discussed. Men and women's different and competing strategies come into play here, since women can decrease the odds of being ghosted by suggesting some hot sex in the future. But, if they actually do the deed too well, maybe the guy gets what he "wants" and moves on.

And, how much do women really know about their own genitals, given how hidden they are? Why do they appear so surprised when interacting for the first time with another woman's lady parts?

Here is the video of women touching another woman's vagina for the first time:

https://ymmv.me/174/touching

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/174/condom

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Keith has a serious problem while touring Southern Africa: Access to high-quality porn. We take it for granted in this day and age, but it relies completely on high-speed Internet access. How much porn per day should a man prepare before such a trip, and what should he do if he runs out?

We dive deeper into questions of squirting and what esoteric places the fluid might be coming from. If it were a religious debate, you might be able to call it a "squirt of the gaps" argument being made by the pro-squirting contingent.

And, it seems Keith is aroused by his own naked image in the mirror. Perhaps this is more widespread than we might have thought?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/173/flatulence

https://ymmv.me/173/handjob

https://ymmv.me/173/butt

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It turns out that Ally has never been with a man whose penis was so tightly circumcised that he had an immobile foreskin when erect. This came up because I wanted to understand what goes into her management of semen when the guy orgasms in her mouth.

Come to find out this generally isn't an issue for her, which makes me wonder whether she's having sex with men who have small penises and/or aren't generating very large loads.

I also had the joy of showing Ally the large clitorises discussed on episode 171, which I think she did not particularly enjoy. Funny how women can tolerate a penis-sized thing on a man, but put one on a woman, and it becomes a problem.

And, is it normal for people to be sexually attracted to themselves in the mirror?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/172/mirror

https://ymmv.me/172/thin

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I think the clit might be the most misunderstood part of the sexual apparatus. What's really going on with that small penis-analog that sometimes isn't difficult to even locate? People really just don't talk enough about clits. Why is that?

On some level women are in luck, given that men generally haven't extended to clits the specific body-part fetishizing that is applied to breasts, asses, facial features and the like. This could change, given the "Big Clit" content available online. Maybe men will start looking for women to enlarge that erogenous zone?

In other news, a female friend decided to explain to me how YMMV should provide a disclaimer or be censored because of its excessive male-gaze. I disagreed.

Some discussion followed of a woman who enjoys her boyfriend cumming earlier than anticipated during sex. And, is cellphone addiction eliminating the power gap between men and women in sexual relations?

By the way, Mike also explains why politics in western nations are so toxic.

On the topic of big clits, here are a couple of the subreddits discussed:

https://ymmv.me/171/bigclit

https://ymmv.me/171/growyourclit

And here's the video of the quite large clit under discussion:

https://ymmv.me/171/clit-vid

Here are the two research studies about squirting sent in by a listener:

https://ymmv.me/171/squirting1

https://ymmv.me/171/squirting2

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/171/early

https://ymmv.me/171/orgasm

https://ymmv.me/171/phone

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Maybe all women fantasize about being a man during sex in order to get off. I have often hypothesized that it's just more fun for the male partner to do the act. In this gender-bending world, it's hard to know what's going to work for someone. One man's autofellatio is another man's pegging.

In this episode, Ally and Mike discuss details of what goes through women's minds when in the locker room, whether nipple erections for women are analogous to men's erections, and much much more.

I'm confident that a large percentage of women don't have their first orgasm until they've been sexually active for some time. Is this evidence of some kind of male failing, or maybe just lack of interest by women?

And, what to do as a woman if you're convinced your vulva just isn't good looking? Is there a way to hide it during sex?

Here's the article about the professor fired for having an OnlyFans account:

https://ymmv.me/170/prof

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/170/first

https://ymmv.me/170/fantasies

https://ymmv.me/170/hiding

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Even men who are into cuckolding tend to restrict it to their fantasies or to what they think about when pretty aroused. We discuss a man who wants deeply to interact with the penis of another man, until he orgasms at which point the desire recedes immediately. What should he do? Simply remain aroused as long as possible?

A woman is tired of turning over when she wakes up to find her partner masturbating in bed while ogling her body. Is this a reasonable reaction? And, what would it be like if the gender roles were reversed?

We delve again into a relationship that tried an MMF scenario, only to find that the added "M" gave the female partner way more orgasms than her male partner expected. She says it's not a big deal, but is it?

And, how should a relationship proceed when both partners want to be dominant?

If listeners are interested in the video we discussed about dreams and the brain, here is the link:

https://ymmv.me/169/dreams

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/169/threesome

https://ymmv.me/169/husband

https://ymmv.me/169/cuckold

https://ymmv.me/169/jerking

https://ymmv.me/169/exhibitionist

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It's an oft-discussed trope that women become much more attached to men after the first time they have sex. But, does the same logic apply to oral sex performed on the guy? That is to say, does it matter where exactly the penis goes? And, does it matter where the semen goes?

Keith is interested in understanding how, in a normal relationship, a blowjob is initiated. Is there a verbal request? Does the man "push her head down" as is often suggested online? Or is there some other protocol?

And, a man who is dating a transwoman would like to know what a vagina feels like. How does it compare to the anus or the mouth?

Here's the link to the Tenga egg product discussed on the episode:

https://ymmv.me/168/tenga

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/168/again

https://ymmv.me/168/bj

https://ymmv.me/168/vagina

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It's complicated, as a man, to know how to respond to receiving a nude photo from a female partner. The obvious answer is you should be complementary, and not respond with a dick pic or similar. But then, how strong should the complements be? Is she forcing you to interact with her insecurities?

We struggle often to define the term "fingering" as it applies to women. Is it an internal or an external act? And, what could be going on with a woman who needs deep, aggressive fingering to (sometimes) get off?

Is it smart for a man to tell his partner that her ass is "too bony" for doggy style sex? And, what does the term "pillow princess" mean?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/167/fingering

https://ymmv.me/167/cow

https://ymmv.me/167/dirty-photo

https://ymmv.me/167/pillow

https://ymmv.me/167/bony

https://ymmv.me/167/cow

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In this day and age, it's hard to believe how poorly informed men can be about women's sexual responses. This week, we've found a selection of odd male behaviors in relationships which we make an effort to explain.

To wit, what would possess a man to send a list of "mistakes" made by a sexual partner after their first encounter? From my perspective, this only really makes sense if he wants her never to have sex with him again.

If a man reveals his desire for a woman in terms that she might not find particularly alluring, is that his fault or hers? Especially in a people where men are increasingly encouraged to be honest about their feelings. Are women ready for the reality of young men's libidos?

And, can a woman be too wet for oral?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/166/list

https://ymmv.me/166/virginity

https://ymmv.me/166/condom

https://ymmv.me/166/ridiculed

https://ymmv.me/166/too-wet

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A listener ponders: Given a choice between a series of probably gay activities and pegging, which is the most gay? And, how would we rank-order the experiences which all sound pretty gay, including two men facing each other and then masturbating simultaneously on to a black towel.

Along the same lines, a man really really wants to enjoy being pegged by his female partner, but he just seems unable to turn his prostate "walnut" into the pleasure organ he's been promised. Is he doing something wrong with his technique, or should he give up? And, in general, do men get more pleasure out of receiving anal than do women? I suspect they do.

A couple of men seem to have real problems with their partners' genitals. One got dry heaves when he tried to give oral sex to his partner, and the next isn't even willing to touch her vulva with his fingers. Are these just strategies to get out of pleasuring them, or is something more at play?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/165/gagging

https://ymmv.me/165/pegged

https://ymmv.me/165/touching

https://ymmv.me/165/double

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