YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

Like Icarus flying too close to the sun, we decided to tackle a series of topics this week that could get us banned from the Internet or worse. In general, we are very timid men, unwilling to challenge social norms, but this week was different. I blame climate change.

This may surprise you, but it sounds like men sometimes lie on dating applications in order to increase their odds of sleeping with new, attractive women. Sometimes this might even make sense, since women might apply too strict of a filter on their searches. Maybe dating apps should just make it easier for men to bust through such problems? Maybe using money?

You've undoubtedly heard the apocryphal story about the teenage boy who broke both his arms and, needing release, was assisted by a member of his family. In all seriousness, what do people do when they're in the hospital and need some sexual alone time? Is this an area where we can all agree that paid handjobs by a provider should be legal?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/154/gay

https://ymmv.me/154/study

https://ymmv.me/154/hospital

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Some men might not be upset to find out their partner invited another man to join their bedroom festivities. But, even those who at some time or another have declared they'd be up for "anything" may not really mean they want to take it quite that far.

Who are the real masters of the domain of orgasm? Is it perhaps time for women to concede that men might just have a better grip on the human sexual response cycle, given the frequency with which they "check the equipment"? This is of particular import when discussing a porn Mike shared with the audience (link below) where the male partner always urges his counterpart to orgasm during PIV sex. It doesn't really seem like she ever does.

What insights can a woman gain into the male desire (or lack thereof) for monogamy from sugar dating? Probably quite a lot, though there are certainly individual differences between men.

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/153/lustful

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/153/monogamy

https://ymmv.me/153/drive

https://ymmv.me/153/mmf

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What a world it is that people will stand up and shout you down for having the audacity to suggest that a fluid emanating from a woman's urethra is urine. Perhaps we are the Galileos of a new enlightenment, called to the world to bring knowledge to the huddled masses. Incidentally, and perhaps appropriately, if you want to see Galileo's middle finger, it's on display in the Museo di Storia del Scienza in Italy. We recommend that listeners view it before submitting uninformed one-star reviews of the podcast.

We discussed the techniques used by potentially scorned women to search through their boyfriends' phones to see what he's been up to. Clever searches include looking at his screen time and battery usage, reddit history and the like.

What differentiates touching aimed at intimacy from initiation of sex? Is it the same for men and women? And, how does differentiating between these kinds of interactions apply in "dead bedroom" situations?

Along similar lines, what's going on when a woman wants to "ignore" her partner during sex? Is it a fetish, or is she just not all that interested in the act?

For those interested in seeing the TikToker discussed early in the episode, her is her profile:

https://ymmv.me/152/trinity

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/152/rubbing

https://ymmv.me/152/ignored

https://ymmv.me/152/cumkiss

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In a thought-provoking start to the new year, we discuss requests for unusual types of porn made by men on Reddit, paired with a conversation about PornHub's 2023 porn trends data. Where are men coming up with these rather strange requests? Is it indicative of what they want in real life, or have they just been conditioned by online content?

If you've ever wondered where the hot spots are in your city for gay cruising, but you haven't wanted to install the Grindr app on your phone for whatever reason, we've got a site you can visit just to get the lay of the land. Lots of cocks, and some good information.

How do people justify getting plastic surgery, and is it effective? Is there an analogy between it and makeup, or is there a bright line? And, what advice should a young man get who is considering losing his virginity with a sex worker?

Here's the site we discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/151/sniffies

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/151/surgery

https://ymmv.me/151/sex-worker

https://ymmv.me/151/dryness

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Before getting to the heart of the matter -- how many times one should have had sex in 2023 -- we discuss some topics of perhaps more general interest.

A woman has a curious predilection for small penises, prompting her to receive a large number of dick pics showing off all the smaller-than-average men available on the Internet. Her opinion, presumably, goes along with the old saw that what men do with the organ is more important than its size. Personally, I think both are pretty important.

A man's delicate sweetheart gifts him with a large amount of urine to the face as she's climaxing from his ministrations. Apart from the obligatory race to the shower, what's the right level of aftercare in each direction for this situation?

And, is a woman guilty of anything if she gives a married man oral sex, when she neither knew nor suspected she was married?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/150/cheating

https://ymmv.me/150/small

https://ymmv.me/150/squirt

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Discussion continues of Keith's concern that women don't particularly enjoy giving head, turning partly to the question of whether they're enjoyment of sex would be enhanced by "leaning into" a more submissive role rather than focusing primarily on emotional closeness.

For the holidays, Keith made an effort to find a lady-friend willing to come with him on a Caribbean getaway. As he's not in a relationship right now, it would have to be a somewhat spur-of-the-moment thing, and he found it pretty difficult to find anyone willing to take him up on it.

This leads into some conversation about dating strategies more broadly, and the reality that the male-female balance of power shifts in the man's direction as time passes generally: 20-year-old women hold all the cards, but by age 35 it's a different world.

To wrap up the episode, we take on such perennial questions as female wetness, and the length that vagina odor tends to remain on the penis after sex, even after showering.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/149/mouth

https://ymmv.me/149/wetness

https://ymmv.me/149/smell

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There may be listeners who find it irritating when Keith and Mike pretty much agree on a subject, but such was the case regarding oral performed on women and how to optimize their orgasm quality. Sure, we haven't witnessed every single female orgasm that has ever happened on the planet (that will have to wait for the surveillance state of the 2030s), but our experience is that women who claim not to enjoy cunnilingus should probably give it another look.

Perhaps this goes along with a somewhat standard rule about life: The thing that is more cumbersome for one person is often the thing that provides the most benefit to the other. Many men do try to "dodge" their oral responsibilities, and perhaps that proves the point that it's something women should want and generally do want.

A man's wife offers him permission to see prostitutes while she is out of town. Is it a legitimate offer, or is this some elaborate form of entrapment? Should he do it, and what is the proper protocol? How far should he be willing to go with the lady of the night?

And, we begin a multi-episode arc of discussing social-media posts questioning the value to men of getting married at all. Does the current legal system and climate in the Western world make it just a bad deal for men?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/148/exhibitionism

https://ymmv.me/148/prostitutes

https://ymmv.me/148/facial

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What should a man do if his female partner starts taking steroids or testosterone? Whether it's to become a weightlifter or as part of a hormone-replacement regimen, he's liable to be confronted by someone with a significantly different libido from the norm.

It could even be -- bear with me here -- like the transition between Bruce Banner and The Incredible Hulk. Now, I'm no expert on the Marvel Cinematic Universe, but I believe the green guy has significantly larger body parts all over. In a similar vein, a man's partner might see her dainty vulva replaced by an angry red, or even purple, bulging clitoris. Should he become submissive in return? What if that's not really his style?

Speaking of submissive men, Keith wanted to understand the impact of Kegel exercises on a woman's virility, specifically whether using something like Ben Wa balls could actually improve a woman's ability to "grip" her partner during sex. Also, is this kind of gripping always voluntary, or is there a certain amount of it that happens on every insertion regardless of what she does?

We discussed a couple of pictures and articles on the podcast, and here are the relevant links:

https://ymmv.me/147/old-dildoes

https://ymmv.me/147/yoni-egg

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/147/painting

https://ymmv.me/147/anal

https://ymmv.me/147/crazy

https://ymmv.me/147/roids

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Men really like it when their partners orgasm during sex, and Keith is no exception. He has a theory for why maybe his partners are more likely to get there than those of a random man. He hopes he's a kind of orgasm whisperer, particularly early in a relationship.

Even pretty experienced and successful men probably make basic mistakes during early dates with a new partner. Keith offers some guidance on how men can correct these errors and move toward being "better" daters.

For whatever reason, we've recently been sent a cock ring and a request to take a look at a sex doll website, so we take care of that. Female sex dolls make some sense, but what is the function of the male ones, complete with large, protruding, erect penises?

And, we take a look at some data around first dates to try to evaluate claims made in various places on the Internet about male-female differences in that arena.

Here is the article we discussed in the episode containing data from first dates:

https://ymmv.me/146/first-dates

Here are links to the sex doll websites we discussed during the episode:

https://ymmv.me/146/hxdoll

https://ymmv.me/146/favdoll

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here is a link to the question we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/146/anilingus

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If you're like me, and I can only assume that you are, your enjoyment of sex follows the pleasure principle and the harm principle. In other words, my main reason for wanting to do things is because they turn me on and make me feel good. I'm not a goddamned sexual charity after all.

Well, come to find out that there are people out there who view sex in some sort of enlightened altruistic way. They do it "to increase the utility of all mankind". A bit preposterous when you consider the implications. Might one expect to see altruistic women offering blowjobs for free, because it's not all that much effort to make a man happy? Where would it end?

Alongside considering remaking society, we delve into a woman who wants group sex with a whole cadre of men (no news on who gets to go first, but I'd call him the "winner"). A man claims to get nothing out of playing with his partner's breasts -- and Keith sort of understands where he's coming from. After all, once you've "captured" the breast, what are you supposed to do with it? It's just a piece of human tissue after all.

And how should a man handle a woman who wants, say, an hour of oral sex from him each session. We're talking long enough that she gets up, goes to the fridge, and gets another Mountain Dew to savor while he's doing the deed. When is enough enough? And, is she really having all those "orgasms"?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/145/literotica

https://ymmv.me/145/gang-bang

https://ymmv.me/145/boobs

https://ymmv.me/145/eaten

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