YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

You're on a date with a woman, someone to whom you're pretty attracted, and she doesn't know a piece of information you thought was common knowledge. How should you react? Does it matter? Is it an opportunity to teach each other things about the world, or is it an indication that she won't be able to "keep up" with you?

Speaking of enlightenment, are women more enlightened than men when thinking about sex? Only in the period just after achieving climax do men have a glimpse at objectivity about sex, whereas for women that's more the normal state. At least, I think so.

If your partner specifically asked you for a facial, would you give it to her? Or would you be somewhat reluctant, wondering if it's something she "really" wants to have happen?

And, what should a woman do if she finds out her partner has been consuming fetish porn that she finds ... troubling?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/144/hair

https://ymmv.me/144/facial

https://ymmv.me/144/drive

https://ymmv.me/144/animal

https://ymmv.me/144/family

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I think women are well within their rights to be proud or self-assured when they see their male partner's penis erupt into a fountain of semen during a sex session. It's reassuring, and it certainly suggests that his attraction is strong and enduring.

But in a scientific sense, what it really means is that he's just masturbating less. Storing up his reserves, as it were, to release them on his partner. Now, this isn't necessarily a contrary indicator: His decreased masturbation frequency probably does mean he's pretty interested in the relationship.

Something similar applies to a situation where someone realizes that their date has brought condoms to the party. It's a sign that sex was expected to be in the offing. The important question we analyze is whether that is presumptuous and/or problematic.

And, wen a 50 year old man realizes he's not attracted physically to women his age, and not attracted mentally to those 30 years his junior, is the proper response to become asexual and take up a hobby?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/143/condoms

https://ymmv.me/143/volume

https://ymmv.me/143/growth

https://ymmv.me/143/sleep

https://ymmv.me/143/older

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Straight back from a Covid-induced hiatus, Keith explains that fickle-ish women on dating apps aren't willing to wait out his illness for a chance to meet him. Except one, who may or may not have prepared him a steaming bowl of soup, which he may or may not have accepted.

Speaking more globally, why is it that women are messaged that they shouldn't care about the things in men that they likely do care about: intelligence, ambition, ability. Instead, romantic notions seem to suggest that some random guy out there might be a "soul mate".

Let's say you've made an agreement with your partner to accept pegging, and in return, your "fetish" of analizing her will be realized. She pegs you, and then she reneges. How upset should you be about this state of affairs? And, is it fair for her to peg you with an instrument that's exactly the same size as yours, or should it be a bit bigger given her likely smaller stature.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/142/anal

https://ymmv.me/142/awful

https://ymmv.me/142/masturbating

https://ymmv.me/142/awful

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A friend tells you a story about a woman he's dating. He mentions that she climaxes so easily that he has difficulty even holding hands with her, lest it trigger her. What's your thought process? Does she have a medical condition? Is she telling the truth? Is she clear on what an orgasm even feels like?

Now, let's say you're a woman, and you're married to a man who likes to draw sexually explicit pictures of redheaded women. You're not a redhead. Should you be jealous or angry? Or does it not really matter? And, what if he slips off to do it at inconvenient times?

If your female partner wants to have an MMF threesome with you, and the other man wants to "eat the leavings" after you and your partner have PIV sex, should you be ok with that? Does it matter if a man ingests your semen after you've made the deposit?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/141/threesome

https://ymmv.me/141/crying

https://ymmv.me/141/fast

https://ymmv.me/141/illustrator

https://ymmv.me/141/too-long

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Like a warm placid river running down her tongue to her throat. That's more or less how Ally describes the crucial last moments of oral pleasure as she gives it to her male partner. "It irrigates my tonsils," she says, as she relaxes into her easy chair. "It's like he's delivering me a medicine I didn't know I wanted, but I did."

This self-evident truth shouldn't distract you, dear listener, from the other important topics discussed in this week's installment of YMMV. We discuss attractiveness levels as a person ages, followed by a discussion of what truly constitutes a "God Pussy" (c.f. the subreddit of the same name).

It should come as little surprise that some men have a hard time telling when their partner is having a real orgasm, cleverly named by Mike as a "Cis-Orgasm," following the conventions of America in the 20's.

And, what is a man to do who wants his female partner to be more dominant?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/140/no-blow

https://ymmv.me/140/camping

https://ymmv.me/140/feeling-it

https://ymmv.me/140/dominant

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Keith has rediscovered the Amazon position, so we take a look at some videos that listeners will likely enjoy. It's one of the ways a woman can be more dominant in the bedroom, but it's a tricky position, as it requires the man to be "bent" downward in a way that might make the action difficult for him.

So what's a dominant woman to do? We discuss some strategies which make use of their talents without requiring less-common activities such as pegging.

A woman "used to be" a serial cheater, making her partner pretty uncomfortable. Another declared suddenly that there would be no more sex before marriage. And, if a woman doesn't feel anything during her climax, what does that suggest?

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-1

https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-2

https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-3

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/139/cheating

https://ymmv.me/139/no-sex

https://ymmv.me/139/confusion

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There's a fine line between being a sugar baby and an escort. The question is how do you draw the line properly, and who falls on which side of it? Regardless, it's tricky to keep doing it after a certain age; once some amount of attractiveness wears off, she risks becoming yesterday's news.

There are a lot of things that attract men to women, but "smell" usually is relatively far down on the list, unless you're talking about perfume. This is particularly the case for odors most consider objectionable. But, one man claims it's his fetish.

Speaking of odors, what's behind someone wanting both partners to shower every time before they do the deed? And, what is the right approach to partners self-pleasuring in front of one another?

Here is the link we discussed at the beginning of the recording:

https://ymmv.me/138/sugar

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/138/smell

https://ymmv.me/138/shower

https://ymmv.me/138/showing

https://ymmv.me/138/curiosity

https://ymmv.me/138/open

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We discuss the extent to which asking for consent and consent culture generally alter time-honored mating rituals. No cultural change is likely to dramatically reduce the young male libido, so does consent culture just shift the situation to him constantly demanding consent for sex? Is that actually better for his potential partner?

Along the same dating axis, what is the right way to mirror your date's drinking habits? If you're not interested in drinking as much as her, can you accomplish that without her thinking something is awry?

A man wants to know whether his wife is detecting his pheromones when she consistently initiates sex after he's just masturbated. A woman is concerned about how completely disinterested in sex her male partner becomes after the act is finished. And, how far can a man take "demanding" oral sex before it becomes abusive?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/137/pheromones

https://ymmv.me/137/aftercare

https://ymmv.me/137/oral

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If you're a woman and you are ready to commit to a man, it makes sense to me that you should "decide" he is your best-ever sex partner. My general sense is there probably isn't a hug difference between most of your "good" partners -- I know that some are just awful. So, assuming he's in the quality pile, it shouldn't be hard to do.

But if you can't do it, you should be asking yourself why not, and what it is about that guy who still fills your daydreams that really turned you on. Maybe you've picked the wrong guy?

We talk a fair bit about death grip, and the female equivalent, "white claw". But, a less common issue is when a man does something that makes him more sensitive in the bedroom and becomes a premature ejaculator. Should he worry about this, or will it take care of itself?

An insensitive man made the mistake of telling his partner that he has vulval preferences. Is she wrong to be upset? Sure, there's not much she can do about it, but it's the same situation for other physical attributes. And, what level of sex doll would be sufficient as a replacement for a real living partner? Will that ever come to pass?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/136/quick

https://ymmv.me/136/best

https://ymmv.me/136/color

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What do a politician and a regretful camgirl have in common? Quite a lot in this day and age, where they can be one and the same. If I decided to join Chaturbate as anything other than one of the infamous "grays" who never tip, I'd definitely scratch "politician" off my list of life goals. Same goes for hosting a sex podcast, probably.

I wonder, what percentage of camgirls decide later that maybe they regret the career choice. Does their feeling change depending on how successful they've been monetarily? Maybe fame makes a difference?

We revisit the age-old question of whether a penis extender is a good or bad idea for a man's self esteem. We investigate yet another couple's free use arrangement. And, does wanting to have sex with a sleeping partner imply something more?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/135/somnophilia

https://ymmv.me/135/extender

https://ymmv.me/135/free-use

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