YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

Keith dials in from Cyprus to tells us a bit about his travels. A bit of everything, including women looking for paid experiences and a dating adventure in Armenia, origin of the lovely Cher and the not-so-lovely Kim Kardashian.

Though I told Keith he could ask me questions about my discussion of transexual porn last week, he took a pass on that for now, choosing instead to dive into a number of pressing questions.

Namely, we find another situation where Keith believes a woman is just asking for more sexual interest from her partner in a roundabout way. Another's partner keeps losing his erections, but only after having sex with her for several minutes.

Is a relationship salvageable if the female partner has been faking orgasms for 14 years? And, should men just ask for oral or does that spoil the mood? Is there a better solution for initiating in relationships?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/124/faking-it

https://ymmv.me/124/oral-request

https://ymmv.me/124/erections

https://ymmv.me/124/bi-man

https://ymmv.me/124/sore

https://ymmv.me/124/pressure

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I asked ChatGPT to summarize the podcast, which it did, sort of. It started short-circuiting when I brought up the topic of trans and trans porn. Ironic, given that I wasn't really negative on it at all. It's just a taboo that can't be broken apparently. I tried to stay true to the AI's effort to transcribe in the following, even though it refused at points:

In the first segment of the podcast, Mike is hosting alone as Keith is in Armenia. He discusses receiving three French books from Ally, one of which is called "Submission" by Michel Houellebecq, a novel containing some racy content involving a professor and his annual affairs with students, leading to some amusing language learning moments with his French tutor.

In the second part, Mike explores the capabilities of GPT-based tools, particularly their ability to predict and generate text in a similar manner to the human brain. He also proposes a gap in the market for AI-generated literotica, and speculates on the potential for AI-generated pornography tailored to individual preferences. He announces an intention to explore this further, highlighting the synergy with the podcast's sex and relationship themes.

In the third segment, Mike discusses a hypothetical scenario involving a submarine implosion, linking it to how it would feel if an AI like GPT were to be suddenly shut off. Then, he delves into a new health regimen of monitoring his glucose levels, as it is supposedly a more accurate measure of health than weight or body fat.

In the final part, Mike addresses the topic of trans people and trans porn, highlighting its rising popularity and the societal implications of this shift. He acknowledges the genuine experiences of those who feel they are born in the wrong body and also speculates on a range of other motivations and reasons behind transitioning.

Mike discusses the varied sexual interests across different populations and how societal repression can lead these interests to be expressed in anonymous platforms. He suggests that these interests may be innate and spread evenly across different populations, regardless of regional or cultural differences.

He also explores the concept of "tabooing" and its effects on individuals, including how it can warp behaviors, pointing to the example of eating disorders. Mike opens up about his personal views and experiences with different types of porn, explaining how he relates to the content.

Then, he discusses a listener's issue where her husband has an unreciprocated sexual expectation, likening the situation to that of a sex worker-client dynamic. Mike expresses skepticism about the situation and compares it to more commonly heard complaints in relationships with differing libidos.

Mike then moves on to another listener's question where her boyfriend refuses to perform oral sex due to concerns about masculinity. Mike suggests that the boyfriend is uncomfortable being in a more submissive sexual role.

Throughout the podcast, Mike appears to challenge traditional norms and taboos around sexuality, arguing for a more open and accepting dialogue about individual sexual interests and preferences.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/123/payment

https://ymmv.me/123/oral

https://ymmv.me/123/masturbation

https://ymmv.me/123/balls

https://ymmv.me/123/climax

https://ymmv.me/123/jackhammer

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With Keith still climbing mountains in Georgia (the country, not the state), Ally and Mike tackled some new questions, and Mike delicately but firmly improved the quality of the blowjobs Ally gives to her partner. You're welcome, mystery man!

We discuss Mike's efforts at reviewing sex toys, whether men's or women's bodies are objectively more attractive, how Mike first learned about autoerotic asphyxiation and other important personal topics.

Ally wanted to know how long a blowjob should take, which is what led Mike to enlighten her broadly on the best oral strategies. A questioner wanted to what's going on with a boyfriend who jerks off at lightning speed, and if it's even possible to pleasure him. Another was curious about whether women experience physical discomfort if they are aroused but don't orgasm.

And, we discuss a man and a woman, each of whom wants anal but who has a partner that isn't all that keen on it. It's too bad we can't hook them up with one another.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/122/fast-jerking

https://ymmv.me/122/blue-walls

https://ymmv.me/122/anal-1

https://ymmv.me/122/anal-2

In other news, someone messaged us claiming that I'm misogynistic on the podcast. So, I took our recent transcripts and gave them to ChatGPT to ask it what it thinks. Here was its response:

In analyzing this transcript, no explicit misogyny is identifiable. Misogyny involves a dislike, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. It's usually characterized by derogatory comments about women, the use of stereotypes, or a denial of women's abilities or rights simply because they are women.

From this transcript, it seems that Keith, Mike and Ally are discussing somewhat intimate topics related to sex and sexual products. Their conversation is candid, open, and at times, humorous. They each share personal anecdotes and experiences without derogatory comments or offensive implications about gender.

However, this doesn't mean that some people wouldn't find the conversation uncomfortable or inappropriate, particularly depending on the context in which it was held. If this conversation took place in an inappropriate setting or if Ally felt uncomfortable but wasn't able to express that, some might argue that it's disrespectful or inappropriate behavior. That said, this kind of behavior doesn't strictly fit the definition of misogyny unless it specifically involves prejudice or contempt directed toward women.

This conversation is quite mature, explicit, and may not be comfortable for everyone. The individuals involved, however, seem comfortable discussing such topics with each other. They demonstrate clear respect for each other's perspectives and experiences, with no judgment or shaming evident. These characteristics suggest they are open-minded and comfortable with their own and others' sexuality.

I couldn't agree more, and from the sound of it, ChatGPT may well become a listener.

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With Keith out of town, Ally joins the podcast to bring a woman's perspective to our standard fare of questions.

Some women like the "motion of the ocean," while others prefer to be orally satisfied by an insatiable lover. Ally, on the other hand, prefers the "Roller Coaster of Love," opting to be jostled into submission. "I can't manhandle myself, after all," she notes.

We descend into a discussion of dirty talk, and I'm not talking about such standard fare as, "Can I play your cello" or "Explain Lie Algebra again to me, please." No, this is the real serious dirty talk that women sometimes need to get themselves going.

There's some good detail of what exactly Ally feels when a man ejaculates inside of her. This goes for her vagina and/or her mouth, so a pretty detailed description all-in-all.

Ally tells the story of a friend whose partner wanted feet intimately involved in his ejaculatory routine. What surprised me was her friend's willingness to reveal such a situation among friends. And, does it work for women to have men just "put their dick" on their face?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/121/face

https://ymmv.me/121/dirty-talk

https://ymmv.me/121/pulsing

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What kind of a world would we live in if men were subjected to overwhelming social pressure to be more submissive and less career oriented? Would it make them happy? If not, then why is it so surprising that the pressure put on women to be more dominant and career oriented doesn't necessarily make them happier?

When a man decides he's going to fully prioritize his female partner's pleasure, is he making a good bet? Or, will she be confused because she is really expecting and wanting him to pursue his own pleasure in the bedroom?

Let's say you work late and your wife or girlfriend tells you it's OK if you want to have sex with her while she's sleeping, as long as you don't wake her up. Should you take her up on it? And, is it a genuine offer?

And, do women like being called "good girls"?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/120/good-girl

https://ymmv.me/120/priorities

https://ymmv.me/120/nympho

https://ymmv.me/120/sleeping

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We convene today to discuss a topic at least as important as the "debt ceiling" and when AI is going to take your job: What exactly is the purpose of women typically wanting the first scene of the sex act to be them performing oral on the man? This is made especially vital as we have a first-person account of a man whose female partner was angered when he orgasmed during the oral instead of waiting.

A man decides to pull out his penis, wipe it off and put it back in, which reminds Mike of Devin The Dude and his well-known song with Dr. Dre, https://ymmv.me/119/fuck-you. He promises to take it out and wipe it off if he's "going too far." Makes sense to me.

A woman wants to encourage her man to provide more animalistic sex, and another is complaining that men "change rhythm" when she's close to orgasm.

Does it bother women when men have to think of baseball to avoid cumming too soon? And, what's the deal with Keith's sock?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/119/animalistic

https://ymmv.me/119/baseball

https://ymmv.me/119/wipe

https://ymmv.me/119/female-orgasm

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Most of this episode is dedicated to an in-depth look at how Keith triages potential partners he finds on dating apps. Before you brush it aside, consider that Keith almost certainly has knowledge about this domain that goes past the ordinary man.

We discuss various women who come up on one of the popular dating apps for Keith, how he might approach them, and what he thinks of them. There's also talk of general trends he's observed, what works, and what does not. And we discuss Keith's profile and photos as well.

Later, we get into a woman who wonders why her partner seeks more "closeness" while she's sitting on his face. And, is it smart for a woman to tell her partner that her vibrator really gets the job done better for her?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/118/riding

https://ymmv.me/118/secrets

https://ymmv.me/118/vibrator

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Does it mean that I'm sheltered that I have no personal experience with people who believe astrology is real? In high school, I knew a young man who believed fervently in evangelical Christianity, so much so that he now leads a well-known southern church as its pastor. But I always imagined that deep down he didn't really believe the things he was saying.

The frequency with which Keith purports to encounter such beliefs on dates has me thinking that people really do go for this stuff and don't view it all as parlor tricks. Or, perhaps, as my grandfather said, "You have to believe something."

We had what I thought was an interesting discussion about whether it does women any harm at all to make a guy wait for sex. It seems likely to me that it does do women harm to be forced to decide whether to make a relationship sexual after only two or three dates. And I do believe in general that it's the woman's choice.

And, does a woman asking for more "animalistic" sex just mean she's not that into the guy? Should a woman somehow compensate a man she's dating if she wants to do OnlyFans, or does that make him some sort of pimp? And why does he want money anyway?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/117/weight-loss

https://ymmv.me/117/onlyfans

https://ymmv.me/117/waiting

https://ymmv.me/117/animalistic

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Keith reveals the details of his condom-discussion strategy during dinner with a new partner. It turns out that you can undertake a discussion that simultaneously conveys that you're a reasonable partner and that subtly asks whether sex is on the table that evening. Also, it becomes evident that very few men have such a conversation or behave in a reasonable way around condom use.

A discussion ensues about how exactly (other than the obvious) Keith should react when a woman initiates oral sex on him early in a sexual encounter. He's concerned about her expectations for how far he should let things develop before transitioning to PIV sex.

And then we transition into the question of whether society views these things fundamentally through the male gaze. Does society consider submissiveness to be problematic? Is giving oral sex inherently embarrassing?

Is the prone-bone sex position athletic for the man? What about other positions? And, what does it mean if your partner offers you "free use" of her body for sex?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/116/prone-bone

https://ymmv.me/116/free-use

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A lively conversation with Allison, who works with women who are dating after getting out of a long-term relationship. Allison is also an author. Her book, "Find Love Again: Learn how to Date Like A Goddess," penned under the name Allison Jayne, seeks to help women navigate the dating, relationships and sex.

According to Allison, essentially no guys offer to use a condom when having sex with a new conquest for the first time. This led Keith to offer what I consider some pretty solid advice for men to turn this to their advantage.

Allison also has a healthy sex drive, and she helped us understand the differences between clitoral and internal orgasms. She described how entering the dating pool enabled her to explore her sexuality in a way that wasn't really possible while married.

For more information about Allison, you can check out her website, which also contains links to her book:

https://ymmv.me/115/allison

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