YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

Well, it's about time we talk about a person with a truly off-the-map sexual experience. In this case, it's a woman who spent many years in amorous relations with her canine buddy. I can't say I've ever felt the desire to be in such a situation, but starting as it did in her younger years, I can understand some level of confusion. And her poor partner who now has to process this information.

We discuss in reasonable detail the ins and outs of vasectomies and relationships. It seems like for younger women learning that a partner has had one might be discourage continuing with the relationship. But maybe a sperm bank could operate as a reservoir of good will?

And, do men think of clits in a way inverse to how they think about penises? Is better worse?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/114/dog

https://ymmv.me/114/clit

https://ymmv.me/114/vasectomy

https://ymmv.me/114/bleeding

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We discuss with Celeste Moore her experiences with coaching mid-life men on dating, how men and women approach sexual experiences, and the during and after of working in a strip club.

I think the typical assumption is that different people experience dating in more or less the same way. But there's a pretty significant gender gap in how things get experienced. This is particularly true at younger ages, when young women might feel like they can "get away" with anything because there are plenty of fish in the sea, and young men are just trying to navigate the maze to get sex.

But, as people age, the tables turn to a significant extent, and maybe what men and women are looking for even begins to look more similar. In my mind, they're both likely looking for membership into exclusive spaces, like the Soho House. Is such a place the same as sugar dating, or is there an important difference? Should people seek partners online or in person? Has dating gone awry?

Which reminds me, I went to the Tesla factory the other day and noticed the rich(ish) tech workers all picking out which car they wanted to buy. On the other side of the parking lot were factory workers getting into busses to be transported back to the train station. I felt more kinship with the latter.

For those interested in Celeste's website and more information about her:

https://ymmv.me/113/celeste

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What is there left to say about blowjobs? Keith doesn't like them, but women like giving them. They like that submissive role, giving their man a good safe place to put his semen. What a privilege.

How should a woman take it if she clearly is sexually interested in a man and he's not reciprocating? The sad truth is it probably means he's just not seeing a future with you. That categorically does not mean he won't continue to have sex with you occasionally, but it does very likely mean he wont be pursuing much if any of a commitment.

What's the right response for a woman who is dating a man who only cums from masturbation? And, how should she respond if he texts her after not being able to cum during partnered sex to tell her that right after she left he had a great orgasm from masturbation?

And, should men be embarrassed about premature ejaculation? I know I was sort of embarrassed when I became partially aroused from Keith's description of one such encounter by a questioner.

To see Mike's Subreddit, containing only the best curated amateur porn, one which you absolutely should subscribe to:

https://ymmv.me/112/curated-amateur-porn

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/112/masturbation

https://ymmv.me/112/boner

https://ymmv.me/112/premature

https://ymmv.me/112/anal-orgasm

https://ymmv.me/112/slow-orgasm

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Can hot girls be good at sex? It's certainly possible, though it might also be the case that a less well-endowed female would try harder in the bedroom to impress her partner. What is pretty evident is that prior to getting into bed, women who are more attractive don't have to work as hard to land a partner.

We finish up our dissection of the audio and questions sent to us last week by a female friend of the show. Then we move on to discuss whether men using sex toys is (at least somewhat) aberrant. A man wants to know how he can last longer in general, and we discuss the difficulties in that area early in a relationship.

And, what is the right set of tongue movements when performing oral on a woman? Should it be random? Rhythmic? Systematic?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/111/toys

https://ymmv.me/111/squirting

https://ymmv.me/111/lasting-longer

https://ymmv.me/111/asking

https://ymmv.me/111/oral

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A kind listener wrote in to ask some questions and to provide us with what I have to admit is a pretty good audio of her masturbation session and orgasm. I want to mention this up front, because we'd certainly like to receive more content like this in the future. From women. Not from men. But also, if you like listening to women orgasm, you should consider listening to this episode now.

What would you do if you proposed an MFM threesome to your female partner, whom you'd never provided an orgasm through intercourse alone, and within the first minute of the other man penetrating her she had an orgasm. A pretty crushing situation for the man, and confusing for the woman. She's thinking, "He's going to be so happy I had fun." He's wondering, "Why is this other guy's cock so much more effective than mine?"

What's going on in a situation where a woman feels so unable to refuse sex that even when she has Covid she feels obligated. And, is she really proud to be able to offer him "all three holes"? Or is it just some sort of weird training she's undergone?

I'm just going to assume people want to look at Mike's new subreddit. And they should, because it's a pretty good set of porn. Also, it'll give you a nice sense of the reach of our YMMV empire so far:

https://ymmv.me/110/mikes-subreddit

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/110/cleaning-up

https://ymmv.me/110/mfm-problem

https://ymmv.me/110/covid-sex

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Threesome trouble stories are our bread and butter, and this episode is no exception. We have both an MMF and an MFF tale of woe to bring to you. Then there's this question about how much less pleasure men get from sex when wearing a condom. Keith says it's "a lot worse." Women don't care that much about PIV sex in many instances anyway, so what's even the point?

But look I don't want to bury the lede too much here. We discussed just how much money it would take in various instances for Keith to be willing to engage in gay sex. It's pretty expensive, but there's a wide range depending on exactly what he has to do. Maybe one of our listeners/benefactors will step up to the plate and make it happen?

We discuss whether a woman should prefer giving the first 90 percent of a blowjob or the last 10 percent. It's honestly not clear.

And a word on glory holes. I've never rightly seen someone using one in person. For me they operate more as a sort of philosophical entity, useful for distinguishing what exactly you'd be willing to do, when and to whom. And, what level of certainty you'd require. Listeners should carefully consider their own preferences when listening to our discussion points here. How much certainty would you really need regarding who is on the other side of the glory hole?

And, a man has never received oral sex. What exactly is he missing out on?

To see the coconut story discussed at the beginning of the episode (if you dare/must):

https://ymmv.me/109/coconut

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/109/threesome

https://ymmv.me/109/mfm

https://ymmv.me/109/condom

https://ymmv.me/109/bj

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Soaking is the practice of placing the penis in the vagina but not moving, presumably to enjoy intimacy with a partner but without violating religious strictures against premarital sex. We discuss a couple who soaked while watching a movie, but then the situation got too intense and progressed from the figurative to the literal.

Keith attended some sort of Ketamine-fueled San Francisco Eyes Wide Shut party, complete with a naked hot tub. His claim was his eyes were focused on the view of the bridge and the bay. That's not what I would have been looking at.

Mike only likes submissive eye contact, not the kind that searches for a true interpersonal connection. Seems normal.

And we investigate the details of a camgirl's menu. Frankly, she's missing the point. Camgirls need to take charge and show a real interest in the proceedings. Just the presence of a menu suggests a passive, somewhat uninterested role. That's not what men want when they're hunting for online sex.

To check out the menu discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/108/menu

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/108/toys

https://ymmv.me/108/g-spot

https://ymmv.me/108/eye-contact

https://ymmv.me/108/soaking

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I wanted to start off by saying that we haven't done any original research into this question of whether dentists can easily discern which people have recently given oral sex to a man. But it seems plausible, and assuming it's true, it's a pretty funny situation.

It's usually the woman who has to work around men not being able to "go the distance" during sex, but what if the gender roles were reversed? How would a man tolerate a situation where the woman orgasmed very quickly and then lost all interest in sex?

What is the right level of pregnancy protection? Especially if the partners trust each other? And, if they don't trust each other, does each partner need a form of protection that he or she controls?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/107/bad-sex

https://ymmv.me/107/rough

https://ymmv.me/107/protection

https://ymmv.me/107/thrusting

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This week I interviewed Stephanie Sellars who both wrote and appeared in the movie Lust Life Love, about the experiences of people in the polyamorous lifestyle. I enjoyed the movie thoroughly, watched it twice and took notes.

Without giving too much away, some things I wondered about were the prevalence of MFF versus MMF situations in poly arrangements. How important are ground rules, and is poly a lifestyle choice that can work long-term.

The film depicts a polyamorous club/party scene which frankly surprised me. I always imagine such situations as mostly dominated by men looking for hookups or partners, but I learned that the film is based heavily in reality.

As often happens with these subjects, I found myself wondering what's in it for each person. I get that the most obvious thing straight man gets out of polyamory is multiple partners. But what about other folks, and is that really the main reason a straight man would do it? And, is polyamory a lifestyle or something you're born wanting to do?

For more information about the film, to watch the film, or for more information about Stephanie, here are some links:

https://ymmv.me/106/movie

https://ymmv.me/106/stephanie

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Going through Aella's "scientific" studies is a pretty interesting exercise, so I decided to dedicate part of this episode to her findings. She uncovers data about fetishes, the definition of rape, political and gender differences.

Down to the nitty gritty, a man is trying to figure out if his thrusting technique is sub-par, made more difficult by his issues with premature ejaculation. A couple men have issues giving oral sex to women. A woman wonders whether she really is too pretty to give a good blowjob.

And, is it compelling at all to women when men "slap" their vulvae, either with their hand or their penis?

Here are links to Aella's scientific work:

https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-1

https://ymmv.me/105/fetishes-2

https://ymmv.me/105/autogynephilia

https://ymmv.me/105/rape

To see Uncle T's most recent episode, here's a link:

https://ymmv.me/105/uncle-t

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/105/frustration

https://ymmv.me/105/oral-1

https://ymmv.me/105/oral-2

https://ymmv.me/105/pretty

https://ymmv.me/105/rough

https://ymmv.me/105/dtf

https://ymmv.me/105/fantasy

https://ymmv.me/105/slap

https://ymmv.me/105/kiss

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