YMMV: The Unfiltered Sex & Dating Podcast

I'm old enough to remember back when Body Count was the name of Ice-T's band, which produced the single Cop Killer. This was back before he made his bones by pursuing his true passion as a detective in New York City.

So women's body count has become the new version of Baby Got Back. You've got Becky on one side critiquing other women's assets, while other women argue that it shouldn't matter at all. What's the truth? Does it matter at all? It's pretty obvious that it's going to come down to what a woman values in life and whether her chosen body count gets her there. This is made more difficult, of course, if people aren't willing to be honest about what they want.

In other matters, we've got a woman with the curious practice of freezing her sex partner's used condoms, presumably to save the semen. But what for? Is it really that hard to get a man to give you his semen the natural way? Maybe she thinks freezing the condom will turn her baby into some kind of superhero. Ice-Man or something.

And, what's the best way for a man to signal his impending orgasm when receiving oral?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit and X (formerly Twitter), so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/134/condom

https://ymmv.me/134/bodycount

https://ymmv.me/134/signal

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Sure, there is a subset of women who want to be dominant in their relationships, but it's decidedly not the majority. And few, if any, women want to contend with a man insisting that his parts be locked up in a cock n' ball cage or that he wear ladies' garments while she pegs him. At some point, enough is enough.

Further up the male sex spectrum, what about these men "caught" by the To Catch A Predator show. Is it entrapment? Can they be sure these aren't lonely men who would vastly prefer a non-underage girl but who felt (for whatever reason) like they had no other options?

And, how should a man go about "guarding" his semen after depositing it in a condom? What's the true risk and downside if his female partner uses it in some nefarious way later? Could he microwave it to render it inert, or would it be too weird to run to the kitchen with a fully loaded prophylactic?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/133/eating

https://ymmv.me/133/semen

https://ymmv.me/133/kink

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On this episode we discuss how many children a modern billionaire could bequeath to the world. Given technology, the numbers have to be north of 100,000 children, assuming said billionaire is a man. Honestly I don't understand why no one has considered doing this, especially given how much money could be willed to each kid. What better way to secure a legacy?

We discuss a man who is doing "everything" in his relationship but his wife just wants to masturbate and doesn't really want to have sex with him. Is there something more he should be doing, or does she have a paramour?

Is it reasonable for a man to be nervous about "transferring" his semen to his partner, especially if he's unsure about her birth-control status? And, is it reasonable for her to be upset because he doesn't trust her?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/132/sexless

https://ymmv.me/132/inside

https://ymmv.me/132/outside

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Following up on last week's episode, some listeners (primarily female) have taken the position that Mike is misogynistic for his portrayal of the typical woman's strategy for finding a partner and for sex in general.

To respond to this, Mike provides a steel-manned case that he believes matches what these women believe. This was done in good faith in an effort to produce a convincing argument for how and why his own argument was misogynistic. A discussion then ensues about the quality of this case and whether it's actually a reasonable explanation of how women choose partners and pursue sex.

We also tackle the subject of a man who is upset because his female partner noticed that his penis isn't very big when flaccid and had some choice words to say about it. And, can a woman really be loose?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/131/shaming

https://ymmv.me/131/loose

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Early in this episode, Keith baits Mike into a fairly long and complete heteronormative verbal screed. This doesn't meant it's wrong; it's right. There aren't many folks out there with direct access to the light of Truth. For musical rivals Prince and Michael Jackson, Truth came from some guy named Jehovah. For Mike, it boils down to cultural artifacts passed down throughout all of human history.

That out of the way, we tackle a man who, in his late 40s, has discovered he can take on a mistress in her 20s and abandon his wife. This is sort of a 50-50 proposition in the long run, but I can understand the core of his thinking.

Should you tell a prospective partner that you have Herpes? I can hear you saying, "Yes!" But what if I told you that virtually everyone has Herpes (except Mike), so telling them this just risks relationship failure without really doing anyone any good? Is omitting this information the better move?

And, what should a man do if his female partner makes a sexual request, not once but twice. My thought is he should go ahead and fulfill it.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/130/abandonment

https://ymmv.me/130/shaving

https://ymmv.me/130/herpes

https://ymmv.me/130/piss

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If I were a therapist, and a couple came in for counseling, sex would be on the agenda as a topic of conversation. I'd be suspicious if one of the partners completely took it off the table. Before you ask, I am cognizant that, despite Michael Phelps' claims to the contrary, the evidence for the efficacy of most types of therapy is weak.

Is there an orgasm reliability threshold below which a typical man would pretty much stop masturbating? Is it reasonable for his female partner to feel "used" if they frequently have sex where he doesn't finish? What really is the difference from her perspective?

And, is the new Barbie movie reinforcing outmoded stereotypes, or merely bringing them back into fashion where they belong? Either way, the movie's success hasn't done much for Mattel's stock price.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/129/videos

https://ymmv.me/129/better

https://ymmv.me/129/no-cum

https://ymmv.me/129/stuck

https://ymmv.me/129/oral

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For a man, orgasms are pretty much binary. Sure, there are some tantra afficionados who will tell you that ejaculation and orgasm for a man can be separate and the like. But for most men, they either cum or they don't, and the semen is the proof.

For women, the tale of the tape can be quite different. We can all agree that a woman is "faking it" if she receives nothing resembling an orgasm from the act. But what if she has one proper orgasm and then a series of "aftershocks". Should she be accused of faking if the subsequent events are, in her mind, orgasms in their own right?

Alongside this, why do men obsess over being able to "make" a woman orgasm. Sure, I can see the allure of her receiving intense pleasure from the same organ that gives you such pleasure (I'm referring to your penis). But, women's pleasure isn't really vicarious in this way. They have their own apparatus to manage. And, as with most things in life, to do it well you must first do it yourself.

Can any woman (or man for that matter) seriously enjoy thrusting that lasts an hour? What if a man needs this duration of stimulation to get him there? What should his partner do?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/128/dick-feel

https://ymmv.me/128/mad

https://ymmv.me/128/faking

https://ymmv.me/128/attraction

https://ymmv.me/128/duration

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It turns out Keith hasn't had partnered sex in some time, so he's simultaneously adjusting to the situation and looking for a way to change it. Fortunately for us, that probably only serves to increase his interest in discussing sex and relationships.

If a woman absolutely doesn't want to take hormonal birth control, what are the reasonable options for them? Is she just in for a lot of semen in her mouth, or does the rhythm method actually work if used very carefully?

What makes a sex act gay? Does that even mean anything, or is the real distinction between acts that are more and less dominant and submissive? Does a man wanting to be penetrated in some way suggest something about him?

And, what to do if you're in a dead bedroom situation, you try to communicate, your partner listens to YMMV, but there's still no spark?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/127/two-condoms

https://ymmv.me/127/gay

https://ymmv.me/127/dead-bedroom

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Back from Europe, Keith offers a way to break the ice with women on a date in a way that gets them talking about things they enjoy discussing. It's a reasonable suggestion, and one that Mike unwittingly deployed recently at the grocery store as well.

Keith wants to know if there's anything that an attractive woman can do without being super aggressive that would be a complete turn-off to a man during an early sexual encounter with her. Is repulsion even possible in that situation?

If a man is very attracted to a woman, and that woman has a twin sister, will the man be attracted to the twin as well? And, if the man becomes less attracted to his partner for whatever reason, will he start finding the sister more and more attractive? Can this cause relationship problems? Me, I have very little experience with twins. Twinks, sure, but not twins.

A woman wants to save her boyfriend's semen as a "souvenir". Another is concerned because her husband has lost sexual interest in her. And a man, in a curiously female-sounding piece of prose, describes how much he enjoys the initial penetration of PIV sex. Who doesn't?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/126/hygiene

https://ymmv.me/126/meh

https://ymmv.me/126/tissue

https://ymmv.me/126/libido

https://ymmv.me/126/dirty-talk

https://ymmv.me/126/penetration

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Mike interviews Dr. Ricky Arenson on today's show, a doctor based in Perth who has written a book about heterosexual relationships and hosts his own podcast as well (links below).

Given Ricky's status as an endocrinologist, Mike tried quickly to pin him down on the orgasm question. Namely, is there some sort of source of pleasure chemicals in the body which can run out, therefore invalidating people's claims of large numbers of orgasms in quick succession? Sadly, Ricky did not validate Mike's prior, and the reality is a bit more nuanced.

Most importantly, we talked about issues affecting typical heterosexual relationships, a topic that can sometimes be drowned out by those who don't view that lifestyle as worthy of discussion.

We also discussed such topics as trans people, libido mismatches in relationships and gender differences in what's attractive. And, what impact can testosterone therapy have on male libido?

Ricky's book is titled "Women Are Superior To Men" and his podcast is called "Happy Healthy Ever After". His website is https://ymmv.me/125/drrickyarenson.com.

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