You Don’t Know Anything About Women: Dating Stories and Advice

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who doesn't want to have sex with his new girl because he's starting a new job in a month (even though he hasn't gotten laid in a year).
- A 25-year-old guy who thinks that the guys getting girls are "complete trash."
- An insanely jealous guy who is worried that his older girlfriend with kids is gonna find someone else (they just started dating and are already having huge fights).
- A guy who is paying for everything for his girlfriend (she demands a "princess treatment") who has two kids from two different men.
- A guy who let a girl slip through his fingers all because he didn't want to meet one hour later than originally planned.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. Do not self-sabotage when a woman clearly wants to have sex with you. If you like her, find her attractive, and she is willing, turning down the opportunity for vague or overly cautious reasons can ruin the momentum. Men should take advantage of good dating opportunities when they appear.
2. Dating a coworker is risky, but the situation changes if you are already leaving the job. It is usually smart not to date where you work, but if the connection has already started and you are leaving soon, the risk may be less serious than it feels in the moment.
3. Do not put words in a woman’s mouth and then react as if she said them directly. In the first post, the man claimed the woman called him a “pussy,” but he was the one who introduced that word. Men should avoid escalating a situation based on their own framing.
4. Self-improvement alone will not fix your dating life. Going to the gym, earning money, eating clean, and having your life together are useful, but they will not automatically make women appear. Men still have to actively talk to women and create opportunities.
5. Dating apps often do not work well for average men, so real-life approaching can be more effective. If dating apps are giving you few matches, no replies, or no dates, cold approaching women in real life may be more effective than relying only on apps.
6. Cold approach is a numbers game, and a few rejections mean almost nothing. Approaching only a few women is not enough to judge whether cold approach works. Increase your number of approaches before deciding that women are not interested.
7. Asking for exclusivity too early can make you look anxious and desperate. Men should not beg for exclusivity or repeatedly ask whether a woman might meet someone else. Stay calm, avoid needy conversations, and accept that a woman could always choose someone new.
8. Major arguments early in dating are a serious warning sign. If a relationship is already filled with conflict, emotional repair, and pressure to prove yourself, it may not be worth saving. Early dating should not feel like constant damage control.
9. Do not pay for constant “princess treatment” without reciprocity. Paying for dates, flowers, gifts, beauty expenses, and emotional support while receiving little in return creates a one-sided relationship. Set the tone from the beginning and avoid becoming a provider for someone who does not appreciate it.
10. When a woman gives you a chance to meet, make the date happen. If she asks to move the date by one hour and you want to see her, be reasonable and make it work. Losing a date over a small scheduling issue can cause the connection to fade before it starts.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who says he can easily talk to girls...but is too scared to actually start the conversation.
- An autistic guy who was seeing a dating therapist (she wanted him to lie to girls) but she cut things off.
- A guy who is traumatized from his breakup so he doesn't want to continue the hobbies he did with his ex.
- A guy who jumped to the conclusion that a girl didn't want a second date because she didn't reply to his message (he's so wrong).
- A guy who was on a date where the girl was just scrolling on her phone as if he wasn't even there (he actually handled it pretty well).

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. How to overcome approach anxiety: practice talking to women more often. Freezing up when a woman responds positively is common when you do not have much experience approaching. The best way to get better is to practice more, assume she will respond well, and stop treating silence like failure.
2. What to say after approaching a woman: keep the conversation moving. If she smiles, turns toward you, and says something friendly, anything is better than giving up and walking away. Even a simple or imperfect follow-up keeps the interaction alive.
3. Assume women will want to talk to you when you approach them. A positive mindset helps you stay prepared instead of freezing. Approaching with the assumption that she may enjoy the conversation makes it easier to respond naturally.
4. Use simple conversation starters when talking to women in bars or social settings. You do not need a scripted routine, but it helps to have easy topics ready. Commenting on the venue, the music, the dance floor, or something she is wearing can keep the conversation moving.
5. Dating therapists and dating coaches may not fix your dating life, especially female ones. Spending money on dating therapy does not guarantee results, especially if the advice does not help men create attraction. Men should be cautious about paying for advice that does not lead to real dating improvement.
6. Being liked by women is not the same as creating sexual attraction. A man can be friendly, hygienic, and easy to talk to while still failing to create romantic or sexual interest. To change that, he needs to approach women directly, ask them out, and stop relying only on being liked.
7. If your dating mindset is not working, you need to change your approach. If the same beliefs and behaviors keep producing the same results, refusing to consider a different strategy will keep you stuck. Being open-minded about dating advice is necessary when your current approach is failing.
8. How to enjoy hobbies after a breakup: create new memories with new people. If a hobby reminds you of an ex, avoiding it forever can make the breakup control more of your life. Going with friends and creating new memories can help separate the hobby from the old relationship.
9. How to ask for a second date: send a clear invitation, not a vague text. Saying “we should do this again sometime” is not the same as asking for a second date. If you want to see her again, suggest a specific day or plan instead of waiting for her to take the lead.
10. Phone use during a first date is disrespectful, but call it out smoothly. If a woman keeps scrolling while you are talking, it is fair to stop and address it. A calmer line like “I’m waiting until you’re finished on your phone” may give the date a better chance of continuing than a harsher confrontation.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who gets super anxious whenever his girlfriend doesn't reply to his texts within an hour (a commenter gives TERRIBLE advice).
- A guy who got rekt in the comments because he mentioned he makes six figures and thinks girls are basic.
- A 20-year-old guy who gets no attention from women (they even make fun of how he looks).
- A guy whose girlfriend told him she loves him, and now he feels the pressure.
- A guy who got unmatched on a dating app immediately after what he thought was a great first date.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. Anxious attachment and texting can ruin the relationship dynamic. Getting anxious when your girlfriend takes an hour to reply creates unnecessary pressure. Even if you feel uneasy, do not act on it, do not demand reassurance, and do not ask why she has not texted back yet.
2. Stop texting your girlfriend constantly if you want a healthier dating life. Constant texting makes every delay feel bigger than it is. Taking an hour or more to reply should be normal, and a man should not apologize or explain himself every time he takes time to respond.
3. If girls lose interest after one to three dates, the dates may not be exciting enough. Repeating dinner, coffee, or sit-down conversation dates can kill momentum. After the first date, plan something more active or interesting so the connection does not feel stagnant.
4. Go for sex on the first date if the opportunity is there. If you want better dating results, you need to create romantic and sexual momentum early. Trying to bring her home on the first date, or at least by the second date, keeps the interaction from becoming dull or overly platonic.
5. Women do not need to share your hobbies to be worth dating. A woman’s hobbies do not have to match yours. What matters more is whether she has a good attitude and is willing to join you for activities you enjoy.
6. Do not expect money, height, or self-improvement alone to keep women interested. Being six feet tall, earning six figures, working out, or having your life together can help, but those traits do not automatically create attraction or keep a woman around.
7. If dating apps are not working, focus on approaching women in real life. Dating apps are often a bad fit for men who are not getting matches or replies. Public approach gives you a better chance to show personality, confidence, and presence beyond a profile photo.
8. Being short or below average looking does not mean you should give up on dating. Height and looks can create disadvantages, but they are not automatic dealbreakers. A man who is 5'7" can still date successfully, especially by approaching women in public and improving his style, body, and confidence.
9. Do not feel pressured to say “I love you” after only one month of dating. If a woman says “I love you” quickly, you do not need to force yourself to say it back before you mean it. Keep dating at your own pace and let her decide whether the timeline works for her.
10. If she unmatched you after a good first date, text her instead of overthinking it. Unmatching after exchanging numbers does not automatically mean rejection. If the date went well and you have her phone number, send a clear message to set up the next date and get your answer.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who thinks all the new girls he meets are downgrades compared to his ex (the Reddit comments on this one are really dumb).
- A guy who's convinced himself that he's not afraid of rejection, he just doesn't want to inconvenience girls.
- An overly-anxious guy who thinks it's a bad thing that a girl is texting less after the first date (even though the next date is already scheduled).
- A pessimistic guy that I was going to give advice to, but I gave up.
- A regular customer of a cute girl, so he gave a napkin with his phone number on it to her but didn't receive any texts.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. Everyone feels like a downgrade after a breakup when you are not over your ex. Comparing every new woman to your ex is normal after a painful breakup, especially when she was your first girlfriend. The solution is not to stop dating, but to keep meeting women while staying open to the possibility that another great one will come along.
2. Your ex may not be as special as she feels right now. When you are young and inexperienced, a first serious girlfriend can feel impossible to replace. More dating experience often reveals that the relationship was not as unique as it seemed in the moment.
3. Dating after heartbreak requires going on dates instead of romanticizing the past. If you are getting matches and opportunities, use them. Sitting around comparing every woman to your ex keeps you stuck, while going on more dates gives you the experience needed to move forward.
4. Approaching women in public does not mean you are ruining their day. Worrying that you are inconveniencing a woman by flirting can stop you from ever taking action. If you approach respectfully and accept rejection, you are not doing anything wrong.
5. A woman feeling uncomfortable after a respectful approach is not your responsibility. If you politely shoot your shot and she is not interested, that is the end of it. You do not need to leave the venue, apologize for existing, or manage her feelings after a normal interaction.
6. Stop waiting for women to text first after a date. Most men cannot rely on women to pursue them, even if the date went well. If you want to see her again, take the lead, set up the next date, and do not play passive texting games.
7. Less texting between dates usually creates less anxiety and better momentum. After a date is planned, you do not need constant conversation to keep her interested. Save your conversations for the date and send a simple confirmation message the day before.
8. Do not ask a woman if she is losing interest because her texting changed. Sending a needy message about her texting patterns can create the very loss of interest you are afraid of. Stay calm, avoid insecure check-ins, and focus on whether she agrees to meet again.
9. Confidence and humor matter in dating because women value how a man makes them feel. Resenting the importance of confidence or a sense of humor will not help your dating life. If your current mindset is bitter, negative, or self-hating, it will be much harder to attract women.
10. Do not give a coffee shop girl your number on a napkin and wait passively. Passing a note can feel bold, but it is usually not the best move. If you like a woman who works somewhere you visit regularly, talk to her directly when she has a moment and ask for her number with words.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who has been on 5 dates with a girl who has now told him she's going on a date with another guy.
- A guy who got kicked to the curb after hooking up with an older woman (he brought wine to her house).
- A post removed by Reddit mods from a guy who got herpes from his girlfriend.
- An overthinking guy who doesn't like that his girlfriend told him he can "do whatever he wants" physically.
- A guy wondering if he should keep seeing a girl he's really into or cut it off (isn't it obvious?).

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. If the woman you are dating says she is going on a date with another guy, move on. Even without an exclusivity talk, most men will not feel good hearing that a woman they have slept with and dated multiple times is seeing someone else. If she openly tells you this, it may be a sign to find a better woman instead of trying to rationalize it.
2. Do not ask for exclusivity just because you feel threatened. Asking for the boyfriend-girlfriend talk or exclusivity talk can make things feel forced and needy. It is better to keep the dynamic natural, let actions speak, and avoid turning dating into a negotiation.
3. Living far away can make dating harder if you are not available when she wants to see you. When you live two hours away and cannot meet, another man who is more convenient may win her attention. If you like a woman and want to keep things moving, you may need to make the trip, get a hotel, or find a way to see her.
4. Stop overanalyzing whether a woman is scared of intimacy if she is already sleeping with you. If she is having sex with you, do not get stuck worrying about whether she avoids kissing, cuddling, or emotional closeness. Focus on what is actually happening instead of creating a story about her past.
5. A one-night stand can feel brutal when you wanted more, but the decision may already be made. If a woman tells you it was only a one-night thing and removes you from social media, do not keep chasing her. Accept that it is over, forget about her, and understand that women can be just as harsh after sex as men are accused of being.
6. When a woman invites you to her apartment early, understand that it may only be a one-night stand. Showing up at her place with wine, having sex, staying overnight, and then expecting a relationship can set you up for disappointment. Pay attention to the signals she gave before and after the date.
7. If your girlfriend had herpes and did not tell you, find out what she actually knew before deciding what to do. It is fair to feel shocked, angry, or turned off, but the key question is whether she knowingly put you at risk or genuinely did not understand it could still be passed on. A one-year relationship should not automatically be thrown away without understanding the full picture.
8. Do not ask a woman for permission before every physical move. Asking about physical affection and boundaries can kill the mood when the woman already likes you and tells you to do what you want. In most dating situations, the man should lead physically and trust that she will stop him if she does not want something.
9. If she says “do whatever you want,” stop overthinking and make a move. A woman who is spending time with you, enjoying your company, and telling you to do what you want is giving you a good signal. Do not wait for her to initiate hugs, cuddling, kissing, or other physical affection.
10. If she is not ready for a relationship but wants to keep seeing you, keep it casual. If you like her and the dates are going well, do not throw the situation away just because she does not want a label yet. Keep seeing her, keep the pressure low, and protect your feelings by dating other women too.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy with no prospects and no sex in the past 7 years who quickly cut things off with a girl after one date.
- A guy whose photo got posted on Facebook by a girl he was dating because she wanted dirt on him.
- An ugly, boring guy with no personality wondering how he could ever attract a woman (me and him actually aren't so different). 
- A guy living in a huge city (Phoenix) but still can't find any women to date.
- A guy who has so many women in his life that he rejected an 18-year-old who wanted to go on a date.

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Dating lessons from this epiosde:

1. Do not cut things off after one date because of a texting argument. Texting can create misunderstandings, especially when personal topics come up too early. If the woman was good in person and you do not have other options, it is usually better to meet again before throwing the situation away.
2. Texting should mainly be used to make plans, not to argue about personal issues. Long emotional conversations over text can damage a dating situation before it has a chance to develop. Save serious topics for in-person conversations and use texting mostly to set up the next date.
3. If you regret ending things with a woman, send the message and get your answer. Worrying about seeming needy is less important than finding out whether there is still a chance. If you want to see her again, be straightforward, accept the outcome, and avoid sitting in regret.
4. Women-only Facebook dating groups are creepy and invasive when they post about men before a date. Being posted in a private group with your name, location, and dating details can feel like a privacy violation. If a woman posts about you before even meeting, it is reasonable to feel creeped out and cancel the date.
5. “If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about” is a bad dating privacy argument. Being a decent guy does not mean strangers should be able to discuss your personal life in private groups. Men should not have to give up privacy because other men behave badly.
6. Do not rely on women randomly showing interest in you if you want a dating life. Most men will not have women approaching them, complimenting them, or openly flirting with them. If you want results, you need to pursue women directly instead of waiting to be chosen.
7. If you think you are ugly or boring, you still need real data from approaching women. Feeling unattractive does not prove that women will reject you. You need to actually approach women, ask for numbers, and create a large enough sample size before deciding what is or is not working.
8. Dating apps are not enough for most men, especially if the top of the funnel is weak. If online dating gives you few matches or no dates, you need to create opportunities in real life. Cold approach, malls, Target, parks, and other public places can work if you actively talk to women instead of waiting for perfect openings.
9. Ditch the business card when cold approaching women. Handing a woman your business card can make the interaction feel like networking instead of dating. If you meet a woman in public, talk to her normally, get her phone number, and follow up like a man who wants a date.
10. Do not reject an attractive 18-year-old just because of an age gap if she is legally an adult. If she wants to go on a date and she is attractive, do not decide for her that the age difference is wrong or that you have nothing in common. Go on the date first, then decide based on the actual interaction.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who was taking it "slow" with a girl (AKA they weren't even dating) and now she hooked up with someone.
- A guy who knows that he needs to approach women, but freeze up when he tries.
- A guy who desperately wants to forget about a girl that he loves (HE broke up with HER so wtf?) + a story about a girl who was banging me while her boyfriend wasn't in the country.
- A worried guy wondering if his girlfriend who moved 4 hours away should be instantly replying to his texts (and my advice for when girls you hang out with go travel somewhere).
- A guy who feels guilty just because he hangs out with more than one women throughout his week.
- An ugly-duckling (self-proclaimed) who is suddenly getting TONS of female attention (what happened?).

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Dating lessons from this epiosde:

1. If your crush sleeps with another guy, forget about her and pursue other women. Even if you thought she liked you, sleeping with another guy shows she is not acting like a woman who is seriously interested. Do not pedestalize her, do not wait around, and do not chase one girl when you should be pursuing several.
2. Taking it slow with a woman can make you lose the opportunity. If you like a woman, you need to act on your intentions instead of slowly hoping something develops. Going too slow out of “respect” can leave you hurt when she chooses a man who moves faster.
3. How to start a conversation with a girl: give yourself permission to fail. Most men do not approach women at all, so taking action already puts you ahead. You may freeze, stumble, or say something awkward at first, but practicing cold approach is how you build confidence.
4. Cold approach gets easier when you stop judging success by the phone number. The first win is making yourself approach, not whether she gives you her number. Some days will be bad, some days will be good, and failure is temporary if you keep talking to women.
5. The best way to get someone out of your head is to meet more girls. If you are stuck replaying a woman in your mind, dating and sleeping with new women is the most effective way to detach. Even temporary distraction with another girl is better than sitting alone in mental replay.
6. Do not always end things just because a woman is thinking about another man. If she is still seeing you, sleeping with you, and not actively dating someone else, it may be better to keep the situation going instead of cutting it off too quickly. Take advantage of what is in front of you while it lasts.
7. If a woman moves away temporarily, keep expectations low and stay lightly in touch. A woman being four hours away for an internship does not have to end the connection, but you should not get needy about slow replies. Check in occasionally, consider visiting, and accept that the situation may fade.
8. Slow texting does not automatically mean a woman is losing interest. If she still apologizes, replies, and has shown affection in person, do not assume every delayed message is rejection. Texting every day may be unnecessary, especially when the better move is to set up the next time you see her.
9. You can date multiple women at once when nothing is official. After one date, you do not owe exclusivity to anyone. You can keep meeting new women, keep seeing the girl you have chemistry with, and even play tennis with another woman if there is no official relationship.
10. If women suddenly show interest in you, stop self-sabotaging and escalate. Getting more attention means you need to practice turning interest into dates, kissing, sex, and real experience. You may feel inexperienced, but you deserve the opportunity, and the only way to get better is to go for it.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who broke up with his last two girlfriends because they wouldn't stop texting him.
- A guy wanting to know what women find attractive and how he can change his personality/appearance.
- A 33-year-old guy who thinks he's running out of time to find a girl to have kids with (he might be right).
- A guy who needs help dealing with a girl who told him "I'll have to check my schedule."
- A 39-year-old virgin who wants to know if he should tell girls about that fact before dating.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. If you do not like texting, set the tone from the beginning of dating. You do not need to text women all day to keep them interested, but you do need to establish that dynamic early. If you start a relationship by texting constantly and then suddenly pull back, it can create suspicion, pressure, and unnecessary conflict.
2. Texting less does not mean ignoring women completely. If a woman sends something worth replying to, answer it, but do not treat every message like an obligation to start a long conversation. Taking a few hours to reply is normal and can reduce the feeling that texting is a part-time job.
3. Use texting mostly to make plans, not to maintain constant connection. Daily texting is not required for dating success. A better approach is to use texts to set up dates, confirm plans, and occasionally send something relevant, while saving most conversations for in-person meetings.
4. What women find attractive starts with looks, but confidence can overcome a lot. A good face, height, and a fit body make dating easier, but they are not the whole game. Confidence, experience, and the ability to approach women can help a man succeed even if he is not naturally extremely attractive.
5. Going to the gym gets you to the minimum acceptable level for many women. Being fit is not some magic advantage; it is often the baseline. If you are fat, too skinny, or physically out of shape, improving your body should be treated as a basic requirement for better dating results.
6. Do not approach women pretending you only want friendship. If you are attracted to a woman, let that intention guide the interaction instead of hiding behind “let’s be friends and see what happens.” Women usually understand when a man is talking to them because he finds them attractive.
7. Dating in your thirties means you should take time pressure seriously. At 33, you are not out of options, but you are also not getting younger. If you want a girlfriend, marriage, or kids someday, you need to be honest about that pressure and start dating with more clarity.
8. If a woman says she has to check her schedule, follow up instead of spiraling. “I’ll check my schedule” does not automatically mean she has low interest. Give her a little time, then send a direct follow-up asking whether she can meet, so you get an answer instead of sitting in uncertainty.
9. Keep dating other women instead of over-prioritizing one who barely sees you. If you only see a woman twice a month or she is hard to schedule, do not make her your only option. Keep meeting new women so one uncertain situation does not control your dating life.
10. If you are a 39-year-old virgin, do not put that information on your dating profile. You do not need to announce your inexperience early or make it the center of your dating identity. Let women assume you are normal, avoid oversharing, and only address the topic if it somehow becomes necessary.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who thinks he got ghosted after a 6 weeks of dating (but I'm not so sure).
- A guy who is thinking about ending it with the girl he's been dating because she doesn't meet up frequently enough (he should take a lesson from her approach to dating).
- A guy who received the ol' "let's just be friends" text message and wants to know the best response.
- A guy who handed a note to a girl who was working that asked her to hang out sometime (what did he expect her to do?)
-  A depressed guy that is considering quitting his meds because the girl he's dating was shocked when he told her.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. Getting ghosted after six dates can happen when the connection moves too fast. If a woman goes from constant “I miss you” texts and affection to complete silence, the early intensity may have been unsustainable. Set the tone from the beginning so the relationship does not peak too hard too early and collapse.
2. Do not match a woman’s love-bombing energy too quickly. When a woman sends constant affectionate texts early on, replying instantly with the same intensity can create unrealistic expectations. Keeping your replies slower and steadier can help prevent the dynamic from burning out.
3. If she stops replying after saying she is busy, send one more clear invite. “Let me know when you’re free” is often too passive because most people are bad at making plans. If you like her, follow up with a specific message asking when she is free instead of assuming the situation is dead.
4. Sleeping together on the first date does not explain why she ghosted. Having sex on the first date does not automatically mean a woman is playing the field or that the connection was doomed. First-date sex can still lead to strong dating momentum, so do not blame the timing of sex for every ghosting situation.
5. If a woman only wants to meet every two weeks, stop trying to force more time together. Seeing someone every two weeks can be enough early on, especially if she is still willing to meet. Pushing for more frequent dates, texting every day, or calling to ask where things are going can make you look too eager.
6. Asking for permission to kiss can make the moment awkward. Instead of asking directly, it is better to read the situation and make a move naturally. A small physical step, like kissing her cheek, can help you gauge interest without turning the moment into a verbal negotiation.
7. If a woman gets quiet after making out, she may be waiting for you to escalate. Quietness after kissing does not always mean discomfort or rejection. In some situations, especially after several dates, it may mean she is mentally preparing for sex and waiting for you to lead.
8. The best response to “let’s just be friends” is no response. If a woman sends a “just friends” text after a date, she is usually not actually trying to start a friendship. Do not argue, teach her a lesson, or send a reactive goodbye message; stay silent and go date someone else.
9. Do not give a woman your number on a note if you could talk to her normally. Handing a note to a woman who works somewhere you visit can feel awkward and usually gives her very little reason to respond. Build small conversations first, learn something about her, and ask directly when the timing is better.
10. Do not reveal antidepressant use early in dating unless it is necessary. Bringing up antidepressants on the fifth date can create doubts before the relationship is established. Do not stop medication for a woman, but in future dating situations, avoid oversharing medical or mental-health details too early.

Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode:
- A guy who had a girl tell him she can't meet for 3 months (but don't worry, she's not gonna talk to any other guys before then).
- A guy whose girlfriend is having long text conversations with the new guy at work.
- A spineless guy that paid everyone's bill when the girl he's been dating brought her friends to their meetup (he needs to grow a pair).
- A guy who wants to be eXcLuSiVe with the girl he's seeing and wants to know how to broach the topic.
- An obsessive guy that has 87 posters of a Korean idol on his walls and wants to know if girls will think that's a red flag.

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Dating lessons from this episode:

1. Waiting three and a half months for a first date is usually a bad use of your time. If a woman says she cannot meet for months, do not text her every day trying to keep the momentum alive. Ask her on a real date, put the ball in her court, and only check in occasionally if you still want to keep the option open.
2. Do not confuse asking about her “first date policy” with asking her on a date. If you want to meet a woman, ask directly whether she is free on a specific day. Vague conversations about dating expectations are not the same as making a concrete plan.
3. The longer it takes to get a woman on a first date, the lower your chances usually become. A match or phone number loses value the longer it sits without an in-person meeting. If you cannot meet quickly, keep your investment low and do not act like you are committed to someone you have never dated.
4. If your girlfriend is messaging a male coworker too much, you are right to be concerned. Work conversations are one thing, but full conversations about weekends, personal life, and getting to know each other are a problem. A girlfriend should keep it short with men who clearly have non-work intentions.
5. A girlfriend who entertains male attention is creating a problem she will eventually have to deal with. If she keeps engaging a man who is interested in her, the situation can escalate until he asks her out or crosses a line. Cutting it off early is cleaner than letting another man build momentum.
6. If a woman brings three friends on a date and you pay for everyone, you got taken advantage of. A date should not turn into a group outing where you are expected to cover her friends. Do not let a woman put you on the spot financially, and do not pay for people you did not invite.
7. Do not try to teach a woman a lesson by making her jealous. If she brings friends on a date or behaves badly, handle your own situation directly instead of playing games. Ask whether she is bringing friends again, say you want to meet one-on-one, and only pay your own bill if needed.
8. Do not bring up exclusivity with a woman you are dating. If a woman likes you enough, she may naturally stop seeing other men without a formal conversation. Trying to lock her down too directly can make you look needy and may lower her attraction.
9. If she wants exclusivity, let her bring up the conversation. Men should avoid confessing, negotiating, or asking whether she will stop talking to other guys. Keep dating, keep the dynamic vague, and let her raise the relationship label if she wants it.
10. An apartment covered in 87 posters of one celebrity is a dating red flag. A few decorations are one thing, but an obsessive celebrity shrine looks childish, feminine, and strange to women. If you want a better dating life, take the posters down and make your apartment look like an adult man lives there.