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The dynamic of guilt and innocence is in every relationship. It serves all our relationships since both giver and taker know peace only when both have given and taken equally. This part tells us about how the give and take is in or should be in a constant movement of changing positions from giving to taking. Stopping this movement will lead to unhealthy patterns. There are 3 different types of patterns people can adopt when it comes to the exchange in relationships: fasting, helping, and full exchange. But before we talk about them let’s look at what keeps this movement going.

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Most of the time the key matches the keyhole. Maybe the one person looks to fulfill the need to be needed and the other one wants to be seen. The one whose aim is to be needed fusses around the one who wants to be seen and gives, gives and gives. The one who wants to be seen says give me more so I feel more and more that I do matter. The truth is we normally find our perfect match, the key and the keyhole. Maybe our need is as bottomless as the one we keep giving to and it makes us unable to see whatever is given back to us from them. 

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In systemic wisdom atonement has nothing to do with committing a sin and atoning for it. It is the so called hidden loyalty towards our ancestors' fate and actions. This guilt will materialize in our inability to live our lives to the fullest. 

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There are 3 needs; the need to belong, the need for equal give and take and the need to be safe in society. These needs sometimes work together, but most of the time they compete with each other.

In this episode we explore how guilt and innocence feel in the 3 different cases of needs.

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There is an interesting dynamic that happens in the couple's relationship setting and Hellinger Institute states;

“The disorder that conscience can cause in a couple can be seen in the fact that each partner tries to convert the other to their conscience. They measure the behavior of the other according to their conscience and judge it as good or bad. This applies to both partners. It reduces mutual respect and love and leads to endless arguments in many relationships. Especially when it comes to how the children should be raised.”

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In this episode we explore the innate motivation that compels us to fulfill the need to belong or the need for equal give and take or the need to be safe in society. The fulfilment of these needs creates an internal pressure in us and these pressures influence our behaviour. Which means that these needs are our motivators in making choices. This also means that, none of the choices that we make are fully and completely free choice. We choose according to the different motivators in our lives. The need to fulfill our needs drive our choices. 

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When we look at guilt or innocence they have more to do with being safe than with actual evil or good deeds. Taking on responsibilities. Trying to balance scales. Inclusion or exclusion. They all have to do with guilt and innocence. All life and system altering decisions and events have to do with the perceived guilt or innocence.

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Guilt and Innocence, Consciousness and their place in the system part 2

Guilt & Innocence; Consciousness & Their Place in The System Part 2

When we look at guilt or innocence they have more to do with being safe than with actual evil or good deeds. Taking on responsibilities. Trying to balance scales. Inclusion or exclusion. They all have to do with guilt and innocence. All life and system altering decisions and events have to do with the perceived guilt or innocence.

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Guilt & Innocence; Consciousness & Their Place in The System Part 1

Up to this point in most of our conversations, when we talked about a system we meant the family of origin. In this episode, we will look into what ways the different systems are interlinked with each other in our family system.

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The Hierarchy Between Systems Part 2