Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., shares her personal journey toward embracing an abundance mindset as she approaches retirement. She discusses the challenges posed by a scarcity mindset and how it can hinder personal growth and fulfillment. By identifying two personas—the in-between transitioner and the hesitant dreamer—she emphasizes the importance of shifting perspectives to embrace opportunities. Tonya provides practical strategies to cultivate an abundance mindset, encouraging listeners to trust their journey and recognize that their best days are still ahead.

Takeaways

• Scarcity mindset can stop us from moving forward.
• We can shift our mindset from scarcity to abundance.

• An abundance mindset opens up possibilities and opportunities.
• Your best work may still be ahead of you.
• You don't need to have everything figured out to start.
• Three practices can help you shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.
• Anchor to your core values makes it easier to say yes to the right next steps
• Reconnect with your vision and let yourself imagine that future with boldness and hope

• Practicing gratitude and affirmations can help cultivate abundance.
• Your next chapter is not a detour; it's part of your becoming.

Sound Bites

• "Now is my time."
• "Your best work is still ahead of you."
• "Abundance feels like trust."
• "Your moment is now."
• "Shift from scarcity into abundance."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Abundance Mindset

02:08Personal Journey and Retirement Announcement

04:24Understanding Scarcity Mindset

08:43Transitioning with an Abundance Mindset

12:14Identifying Personas: In-Between Transitioner and Hesitant Dreamer

15:30Characteristics of an Abundance Mindset

22:50Practices to Cultivate Abundance Mindset

Summary

In this episode of Your Aha Life, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the mindset and psychology behind why individuals often play small and how they can reclaim their confidence and take up space in their lives and leadership roles. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-belief, integrity, and resilience, and provides practical steps to overcome psychological barriers that prevent individuals from fully expressing themselves. Through personal anecdotes and reflective exercises, listeners are encouraged to recognize their worth and embrace their authentic selves.

Keywords

confidence, self-belief, personal growth, leadership, authenticity, taking up space, resilience, empowerment, mindset, psychology

Takeaways

• The journey to confidence involves recognizing when we play small.

• Taking up space means being mentally, emotionally, and energetically present.
• Societal conditioning often teaches us to shrink ourselves.
• Past experiences can lead to a fear of being too much or not enough.
• Imposter syndrome can hinder our ability to take up space.
• We often seek approval before expressing ourselves.
• Confidence comes from within, not from external validation.
• Taking up space is about owning your presence and voice.
• Practical steps can help build confidence and reclaim space.
• Reflecting on how to take up space can lead to personal growth.

Sound Bites

"We moderate too darn much sometimes."

"Have you ever dimmed your own light?"

"You don't need approval to be yourself."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Confidence and Taking Up Space

07:15 Understanding the Conditioning to Play Small

17:37 The Meaning of Taking Up Space

22:56 Psychological Reasons for Shrinking

26:49 Practical Steps to Build Confidence

29:36 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the often overlooked 'in-between' moments in life, emphasizing their significance in personal growth and transformation. She discusses her own experiences of navigating transitions in her career and life and introduces the concept of the 'neutral zone' from William Bridges' transition model. The conversation highlights the importance of patience, self-reflection, and embracing uncertainty as essential components of the journey toward clarity and fulfillment.

Keywords

life transitions, personal growth, in-between moments, self-discovery, patience, transformation, career changes, emotional resilience, William Bridges model, self-renewal

Takeaways

• The in-between moments are crucial for personal growth.

• Patience is an active choice during transitions.
• The neutral zone is a fertile ground for creativity.
• Self-renewal occurs in the in-between spaces.
• Embracing uncertainty can lead to profound transformation.
• Micro wins should be celebrated during transitions.
• Self-discovery is a key aspect of the in-between.
• The in-between is not idle time; it's a time of preparation.
• Reflecting on what we learn about ourselves is vital.
• The in-between may be the most important part of our journey.

Sound Bites

"Don't rush to fill that space."

"Growth isn't always loud."

"Patience is not passive."

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to Season Five

00:49 The Hidden Power of In-Between Moments

06:21 Understanding the Neutral Zone

09:10 Embracing the In-Between

12:35 Strategies for Navigating In-Between Moments

15:59 The Importance of the In-Between Journey

Thanks for being with me to start Season 5 of Your Aha! Life - The Podcast. This is also my 50th episode. I appreciate you listening and sharing with your friends. If you love the podcast or this episode, please leave a great review and hit the follow button.

If you're not a member of the Your Aha! Global Community, subscribe by going to the Your Aha! Life website. You'll receive a gift, a monthly subscription to the newsletter, access to my private Facebook group, The Aha! Community, tools to navigate life and career transitions, and other member perks.

Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus discusses the vital distinction between empathy and compassion, emphasizing that while empathy allows us to feel the pain of others, it is compassion that drives us to take action. She encourages listeners to engage in compassionate activism through small, consistent actions in their daily lives, highlighting that every effort, no matter how small, contributes to a larger ripple effect of change. The conversation serves as a call to action for individuals to reflect on their values and find ways to support their communities.

Keywords

compassion, empathy, activism, community, change, social justice, kindness, daily actions, ripple effect, personal growth

Takeaways

• Compassion rooted in love is about showing up consistently.
• Empathy helps us feel, but compassion urges us to respond.
• Compassionate activism can be quiet, personal, and deeply local.
• Opportunities for compassionate activism are often closer than we think.
• Compassionate activism isn't a one-time act, it's a practice.
• Small actions done regularly have a cumulative impact.
• Your actions can be the spark that lights the way for others.
• The world needs compassionate hearts willing to act.
• Every act of compassion contributes to a greater ripple of change.
• Find your own way to make a difference.

Sound Bites

"Find your own Calcutta."

"Stay consistent, stay hopeful."

"Be the pebble that starts the ripple."

Chapters

00:00 The Call to Action: From Empathy to Compassion

03:31 Why Empathy Isn't Enough

04:45 Compassionate Activism: Making it Accessible

06:11 Opportunities for Compassion are Everywhere

08:16 Making Compassion a Way of Life

09:26 Call to Action:

Your Aha! Life Click the link to learn more about theYour Aha! Life movement and sign up to become a member. If you enjoy listening to my audio blogs and podcasts, please leave a review, subscribe, and share with your friends. By doing so, you'll be that pebble that leads to a ripple beyond what you can ever see. Thank you.

Summary

In this conversation, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the significance of mentorship, especially during National Mentoring Month. She shares her personal experiences with mentors and emphasizes the transformative power of these relationships. The discussion covers how to find a mentor, what qualities to look for, how to approach potential mentors and the importance of being a proactive mentee. Tonya encourages listeners to reflect on their needs and take actionable steps toward establishing meaningful mentoring relationships to support their personal and professional growth.

Keywords

mentorship, finding a mentor, mentoring relationship, personal growth, career development, professional guidance, mentee, mentor qualities, mentorship benefits, mentoring process

Takeaways

Sound Bites

"Finding the right mentor is worth the effort."

"Mentorship is a relationship, not a transaction."

"Finding a mentor may feel intimidating at first."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Mentorship

04:09 Finding the Right Mentor

04:52 When to Engage a Mentor

05:58 What to Look for in a Great Mentor

06:54 How to Approach and Ask Someone to be Your Mentor

08:57 Question to Ask a Mentor

10:30 How to Be a Great Mentee

13:48 Call to Action

Thank you for listening to Your Aha! Life - The Podcast, where I share insightful stories through the podcast and my audio blogs. Please take a moment to subscribe and hit the notifications button so you'll be notified anytime I drop a new episode. Also, leave a review and share this episode with someone you know who would benefit from hearing it. To learn more about Your Aha! Life and join the global community: go to my website at yourahalife.com. You can also follow me on Instagram @tonya.yourahalife.

Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus discusses the transformative practice of choosing a Word of the Year, emphasizing its power to inspire and guide individuals throughout the year. She shares her word for 2025, equanimity, and offers practical tips on incorporating this word into daily life to foster intentional living and personal growth. The discussion highlights the importance of reflection, visual reminders, and community support in making the chosen word meaningful in one's life.

Keywords

Word of the Year, Equanimity, Intentional Living, Personal Growth, Mindfulness, Reflection, Daily Practices, Inner Peace, Self-Discovery, Life Coaching

Takeaways

Chapters

00:00 Choosing Your Word of the Year

02:05 The Power of a Word

03:01 My Word for 2025: Equanimity

04:16 How to Bring Your Word to Life

06:41 What's Your Word?

07:35 Books to Explore Equanimity and Inner Balance

08:25 Call to Action

Loved this audio blog? Click to follow so you don't miss an episode, leave a review, and share it with your friends. Thanks!

Summary

In this episode of Your Aha Life, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus discusses the journey of personal growth and how to become your future self through five intentional steps. She emphasizes the importance of small, meaningful actions and consistency in shaping one's future. The conversation covers visualization, reflection on the present, identifying areas for growth, creating a roadmap, and the power of consistency in achieving personal transformation. Dr. Cornileus encourages listeners to take actionable steps toward their future selves and to join a supportive community for ongoing growth.

Keywords

personal growth, future self, intentionality, self-improvement, roadmap, consistency, visualization, reflection, small actions, community

Takeaways

Chapters

00:00 Becoming Your Future Self: An Introduction

04:39 Five Steps to Your Future Self

09:35 Consistency and Small Actions for Growth

12:19 Call to Action and Close

Resource for You: ⁠Your Aha! Life Journey Accelerator: Future Self Roadmap⁠

Books referenced:

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Personality Is Not Permanent by Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D.

Manifest by Roxie Nafousi

Don't miss an episode -- subscribe now for insights, stories, and actionable tools to live Your Aha! Life - one filled with joy, purpose, and fulfillment and loved this? Great! Leave a review and share it with your friends. Finally, if you want to connect with me, follow me on Instagram @tonya.yourahalife. Thanks!!

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the detrimental effects of overthinking and overplanning in our lives. She emphasizes the importance of finding a balance between planning and spontaneity, sharing personal anecdotes and practical examples. The episode provides strategies to recognize and break free from these patterns, encouraging listeners to embrace an unscripted life filled with unexpected joys and experiences.

Keywords

overthinking, overplanning, mindfulness, spontaneity, life balance, personal growth, stress management, self-discovery, joy, freedom

Takeaways

Sound Bites

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Unscripted Living

03:30 Understanding Overthinking and Overplanning

08:03 Examples of Overthinking and Overplanning

11:50 Recognizing Patterns of Overthinking and Overplanning

15:18 Strategies to Break Free from Overthinking and Overplanning

19:27 Embracing an Unscripted Life

Thank you for listening to Your Aha! Life - The Podcast. This concludes Season 4! If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review, comment, and share with your friends. Remember to hit the follow button to receive notice when new episodes or audio blogs are posted.

I'm excited to return for Season 5!

Summary

In this episode, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus explores the profound and often challenging topic of forgiveness. She shares her personal journey and insights on how forgiveness can free us from past hurts and allow us to embrace our future selves. The conversation delves into the complexities of self-forgiveness, the impact of unresolved grievances on our lives, and practical steps to cultivate forgiveness. Dr. Cornileus emphasizes that forgiveness is not about condoning past actions but about releasing the emotional burdens that hold us back from living fully and authentically.

Keywords

forgiveness, self-forgiveness, personal growth, emotional healing, letting go, future self, mental health, personal development, spirituality, resilience

Takeaways

Sound Bites

"Let it go, let it go."

"Forgiveness is an act of self-love."

"Forgiveness is rarely a simple act."

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Forgiveness

10:21 Personal Stories and Reflections on Forgiveness

19:52 Forgiving Yourself: The Hardest Journey

27:12 Forgiveness Beyond People: Experiences and God

32:23 Ways to Let Go and Move Forward

The book and podcast referenced in the episode: The Gift of Forgiveness by Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt.

Thank you for listening to Your Aha! Life - the Podcast. If you love it, please leave a review, follow or subscribe, and share it with your friends.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the journey of embracing singlehood and thriving while remaining open to love. She shares her personal experiences after a long marriage, discussing the emotional landscape of being single, the importance of self-love, and practical actions to enhance one's single life. The conversation emphasizes that being single is not a waiting period but an opportunity for growth and self-discovery, encouraging listeners to embrace their individuality and prepare for future relationships.

Keywords

single life, self-love, personal growth, relationships, emotional well-being, thriving, hope, self-discovery, empowerment, love, romantic relationships, healthy relationships

Takeaways

Sound Bites

"Real love starts with self-love."

"You're better off alone than settling."

Chapters

00:00 Embracing the Single Life

07:19 Lessons Learned in Singlehood

11:16 Actions for Thriving as a Single Person

13:38 Conclusion: The Opportunity of Singlehood

Thank you for listening. If you enjoy this podcast, please take a moment to leave a positive review and share it with your friends. Thank you!