Your Next Chapter

• Dave’s investment strategy

“A lot of people will stick to a plan, go

Dave can be reached through LinkedIN or on Twitter @PenderDave

On episode I have the fortunate pleasure of sitting down with Ally Pintucci. Ally is one of the founders of When in Doubt Love and in this episode we dive into self-love.

I brought Ally onto to the show because she is an incredibly beautiful human being who like all of us has had her ups and downs.

Ally discusses how she was able to lose 70 pounds through a determined lifestyle change. She focused on eating better and incorporating a variety of workouts into her daily life. Though having a lot of success physically, mentally this took a toll on her.

She talks about how the sudden drop in weight caused her to have body dysmorphia. Ally gets raw and shares her personal inner demons along with how she continues to cope with them.

Ally has used her experiences to help with the creation of When In Doubt Love, whose goal is to make us all realize that love and doubt can co-exist. It's to remind us that we can't control necessarily how we feel - but we can choose how we react towards ourselves and others, and hopefully it's from a place of love.

Dive into the episode to hear more.

• how to respond positively to adverse feelings

“You can’t give love, affection and supportto everyone else if you can’t love yourself.”

- Ally Pintucci

Ally Pintucci – Facebook

@allypintucci – Instagram

When In Doubt Love –Facebook

When In Doubt Love – Website

@WhenInDoubtLove - Instagram

Chasing Sunrise

• Ally’s definition of success @3:17

Jordan is a sex and relationship coach. Jordan has published several books on Amazon which have become Amazon best sellers.

I brought Jordan onto to the show due to his outlook on emotions, relationships and people. I knew that having Jordan on the show would lead to a rich conversation that would provide listeners with valuable insights about how to live a more purpose-filled life.

Jordan’s work has been featured on BBC, Entrepreneur and Business Insider.  Jordan launched his consulting business 3 years ago and now does over 6 figures in revenue annually via his coaching and blog. He has millions of monthly visitors to his website and has illustrated the content he creates is having a positive impact on people’s lives.

Jordan specializes in providing relationship advice, with everything from improving how long you last in bed to what everyone needs in a partner. Recently Jordan has taken a step away from relationships and has been writing more about living a deliberate life. In this episode, we dive into living intentionally, what sparked Jordan to move into his Next Chapter and much more.

Early in the episode we discuss how Jordan knew becoming a sex and relationship coach was something he always wanted to do. Let’s say the fact that his room was filled with psychology, relationship and sexuality books was a slight hint.

We discuss the importance of feeling fortunate to do the work you do each and every day and how Jordan first discovered this by interning for free at a company for over 100 days.

Jordan talks about how the only thing holding people back from pursing their dreams is fear. Fear of not being good enough and lack of self-worth are the two biggest factors that hold people back.

We talk about overcoming that fear and some mindsets to help you move forward by tackling the obstacles that are standing in your way.

Jordan shares his personal story about how he moved from Vancouver to Thailand with no real “business plan” and only an idea to build a business. He talks about how we was able to overcome his personal fears and what he did in order to be able to make a living abroad (19:22).

He opens up about the selfie video that he took in the Vancouver airport where he’s bawling his eyes out before boarding the plane and how he keeps this video on his desktop as a reminder to how far he’s come. This is truly an inspiring story about the fears we all have to tackle in order to build the life we dream of (25:10).

We dive into boundaries and how I believe this is one of the most critical things that Jordan teaches. We discuss how anger is an emotional barometer that we need to utilize to create healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

We talk about outgrowing friendships and how to move away from relationships that are no longer serving you. We also discuss the importance of honoring your core values and recognizing that you’re allowed to say “no” to anything in this world, including family.

One of the most interesting points in the podcast for me was when Jordan brought up a reframe about time. Jordan believes that people typically view time as easily expendable. Jordan suggests that we view time as money. When your friends or family ask for your time, ask yourself is this how you would want to spend your money?

If the answer is “no” you have a clear indication of how much time you should be spending with that person (44:41). It may not mean totally cutting someone out of your life but it may mean reducing the amount of time and activities you do with that individual.

Dive into the episode to hear more.

“To be able to crave our, honor you core values by saying ‘no’ to these things, ‘no’ to most things, which gives you the space to say ‘yes’ to the things that actually matter to you.”

- Jordan Gray

The microphone of society has never been more available – 3:59

All the greats effected humanity because they were “playing” – 6:03

Find work you would do for free, that you can’t not do – 6:30

What holds people from taking the leap? – 8:06

Worst case scenarios – 10:00

Laying on your death bed and looking back – 12:22

Jordan takes off to Thailand and sells 95% of his possessions – 17:25

Figuring out what he wants to do – 18:06

Building up courage – 23:09

Coping with his own personal fear – 24:56

That is the name of the game, constant experimentation 26:05

Breathing through fear – 28:52

Succeeding using your own personal gifts – 29:55

Major growth in his blog happened by focusing on his talents – 33:15

What sparked Jordan to pivot and move onto his Next Chapter – 35:01

Honoring the creative impulses that emerged from him – 36:06

Quieting the lizard brain – 36:54

BOUNDARIES – 38:21

Anger is a healthy emotion for boundaries – 38:57

Honoring your values – 39:18

How to look at your time – 43:48

Outgrowing relationships and friendships – 45:53

What is the most important skill for humanity?  – 50:27

Spending more time with people who magnify your well-being in the world – 54:30

Jordan’s favorite books – 55:45

Jordan’s favorite blogs – 57:54

Contact Info

Jordan can be reached through his website and all his books, courses and blog posts can be found there as well.

Brene Brown

So Good They Can’t Ignore

The Alchemist

Six Pillars of Self Esteem

Mastery of Love

Mark Manson

Ben Greenfield

On this episode I come clean by talking about the things that have troubled me. I’ve suffered with some personal pains over the last few years and wanted to talk openly about them on this episode. I hope this episode will shine some light on my pains and the motivation for creating this podcast.

In the episode I get into my sexuality, I talk about how I’ve wrestled with dating men and women and not knowing where I stand on the sexuality spectrum. I talk about how I’ve recently come out to family about identifying myself as bisexual and the shame, guilt that I’ve lived with for too many years. You learn some things about me that you may have never thought or expected.

I let it all out; I get raw, authentic and vulnerable because I want to create a podcast that is centered on authenticity.  When we are authentic that’s when our truth shines and we allow others to see us who we truly are. As long as we continue to hide and suppress parts of our true personality we will only continue to inflict more pain on ourselves.

I hope this podcast encourages others to be their most authentic self. Regardless of what you’re pain or suffering is know that you’re not alone. Know that others are suffering with you and only through opening up can we start to heal. It is our darkest shadows where we can have our richest strides.

Check out the podcast to hear more, it’s 13 minutes in length. 

Referenced in the Podcast:

Brene Brown - Shame and vulnerability researcher

Contact Info:

You can contact me through my website or email me at fil(at)filipsierpinski.com

On episode 12 of 'Your Next Chapter' I have Amy Elderkin on as my guest.

Who is Amy?

Amy is the co-founder of Popcorn Media. Popcorn specializes in social media marketing, along with providing PR and traditional marketing services. Amy co-founded Popcorn with her two business partners five years ago.

Why did I bring Amy onto the show?

Amy is the embodiment of an individual who has been able to create a lifestyle true to her nature by taking on challenging aspects of her life. As an example, she didn’t go to school for marketing, but has been able to build a successful social media marketing company through listening to past experiences and taking deliberate action.

In the podcast Amy explains that she found her path by following little bits of happiness. She went through several jobs and eventually landed in the hospitality industry doing sales and marketing. The job required her to use social media to promote a hotel and she soon found herself really enjoying Twitter as a platform.

Amy started building her own Twitter platform and soon found herself exploring events and meeting new people. She ran a campaign called "Tweet to Eat" where for 2 weeks she sourced all her food and meals through the generous donations of Vancouverites over Twitter. She became an influencer on Twitter in Vancouver and realized if she could do this for herself, she could do this for businesses.

She would eventually meet her future business partners through Twitter and they began to collaborate on what is now Popcorn Media.

Amy said she choose marketing because it was what she enjoyed from her last job. By following little bits of joy and taking on things that challenged her growth, she was able to build a business and career she enjoys.

Amy’s Mindset

Try things that scare you – The things that Amy likes to says yes to are the things that scare her. An interesting point that surfaced during the podcast is that at one point, Amy read that men are much more likely to say yes to opportunities in jobs that they aren’t qualified to do than women; thus they get more opportunities.

Amy decided that was not going to be the case for her, “I say yes to things I probably shouldn’t say yes to.” When we say yes to the things that scare us we step into an opportunity for growth.

Balance – There is no such thing as balance in Amy’s world. She says there is always something out of balance in her life and it’s a constant juggling act. There are times where she will be a complete introvert staying in and other times where things are going at 100 miles an hour. You learn to balance the variety in each day.

Her life motto – Interesting life; interesting marketing.

Amy’s core belief is that if she lives an interesting life that will carry over into her career (this is a perfect example of flow). Amy actively embraces her personal life which allows for her career and personal life tohave a blurry zone in the middle.

The more guests I interview, the more I recognize that blurring the two areas between your career and personal life is a repeating pattern among my guests.

We discussed numerous other avenues on the podcast which you can listen to and hear more about:

• When Amy knows she needs to make a change or pivot in her life (3:23)

 “I’m making this choice for the rest of my life. Which is not true. Your life changes all the time but you don't know that at 21... It’s about passion and not knowing what you’re doing. Just going with it and just living life being happy as much as you can and being okay not being happy. And that’s my thing. That’s my favorite thing”

- Amy Elderkin on public speaking to students

Podcast Notes

Marie Forleo – YouTube Inspiration for Amy

Ola Volo - @olavolo Instagram

Dj Khaled - @djkhaled305 Snapchat

Fascinate – 7 Triggers to Persuasion and Captivation by Sally Hogshed