Your Other Family

Tom speaks two months after the first release of this episode to confess, clarify, and also commit to things said in this conversation, differentiating his personal vision from the board’s governance of Your Other Family as a nonprofit organization. The episode continues in its original entirety after the confessions and clarifications expressed in this new preface.

What now? Last episode, we defined who gender minorities are, people inside the Church and out who don’t fit typically into the gendered binary, answering some “dumb questions” about their lived experience. But how do we love gender minorities well, including welcoming them in “Side B” spaces like Your Other Family? Join us for Part 2 of this important conversation as Tom, Erin, and Jesse address the questions, concerns, and fears from our YOB and YOS community members who submitted anonymous feedback.

Some of this feedback is uncomfortable. Unknowns are often uncomfortable. We want to enter into healthy conflict with one another and explore the unknown with curious empathy. We hope you enter our discussion with your spirit open, ready to receive whatever Jesus has for you as we all navigate, reclaim, and integrate the complexities of our faith, sexuality, and gender. Together.

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Nhat’s a former theater kid, and he loves telling stories. We explore his many storytelling pursuits, from working at a haunted house, hosting his own horror magic show, finding redemption messages in horror movies and other genres, and most recently becoming one of the new cohosts of the Life on Side B podcast!

you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

Our other brother Ryan is launching a singleness conference in Raleigh, NC! Learn the details of his one-day event, Oaks, along with his heart for thriving singleness in the church, regardless of one’s sexuality or life stage. Do you have any questions or wish to submit a liturgy or reflection on singleness for the conference? Get in touch with Ryan; he’d love to hear from you!

you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

What now? Last episode, we defined who gender minorities are, people inside the Church and out who don’t fit typically into the gendered binary, answering some “dumb questions” about their lived experience. But how do we love gender minorities well, including welcoming them in “Side B” spaces like Your Other Family? Join us for Part 2 of this important conversation as Tom, Erin, and Jesse address the questions, concerns, and fears from our YOB and YOS community members who submitted anonymous feedback. Some of this feedback is uncomfortable. Unknowns are often uncomfortable. We want to enter into healthy conflict with one another and explore the unknown with curious empathy. We hope you enter our discussion with your spirit open, ready to receive whatever Jesus has for you as we all navigate, reclaim, and integrate the complexities of our faith, sexuality, and gender. Together.

you are not alone; even the sparrow finds a home

Welcome to Your Other Family Podcast Network! A collection of shows from the nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, which includes our communities of Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters. We share authentic stories of faith, sexuality, and gender as LGBT+ or same-sex attracted people following Jesus with a historic sexual and marriage ethic, increasingly regarded as a “Side B” theology.

Listen to our extensive podcast archive, explore our links below, and reach out to us any time!

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Does everyone fit neatly into male and female? Where do many queer/SSA people experience an uncomfortable gender incongruence with their culture, and where do some experience a deeper gender dysphoria? Tom and Erin welcome YOF board member Jesse to share their experience as a gender minority in Your Other Brothers. We answer honest questions from our YOB+YOS members as we start a long overdue conversation with curiosity and empathy for gender minorities who are nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, agender, and transgender.

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Erin welcomes back Ashley and introduces Tangle for a discussion inspired by conversations from the Life on Side B and Your Other Brothers podcasts. So much can be said about queer representation in the media, especially as more queer stories have been told in the last couple years. Join us as we discuss our favorite TV shows and movies, including how queer characters have impacted them, and what we would like to see in future queer media productions. We end our episode with a lightning round of guessing the sexualities of cartoon villains from our childhood!

Curious about the Hays Code?

Follow Erin on Letterboxd!

Why are Disney Villains Queer Coded?

Tangle’s animation project

Ashley’s Charmed blog: “The Sisters Who Happened to be Witches”

Ashley’s favorites: Warrior Nun, Dead to Me, League of Their Own, Lioness, Supergirl, Fried Green Tomatoes

Tangle’s favorites: Arcane, Warrior Nun, The Owl House, Atypical

Erin’s favorites: Hacks, Saved!, But I’m a Cheerleader, The Children’s Hour (disclaimer: not a feel-good film), Wake Up Dead Man (bonus for great Christian clergy representation)

What are your favorite TV shows and movies that feature LGBT characters? What character or character dynamic made you feel seen while watching? What stories would you like to see be told via movie or TV show?

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Ten years of the YOBcast and not a single nudity episode?! Until now. Join Tom, Ryan, Matt, and a special guest to discuss this important intersection of nudity, body image, and vulnerability with other men. How did our familial and peer upbringings shape our relationship with nudity as adults? How have we – or haven’t we – entered nude environments like doctor’s offices, locker rooms, and Korean spas? We share stories of how appropriate, non-sexual nudity has initiated deeper brotherhood, and also stories of insecurity or lack of desire to be nude with other men.

Wherever you fall on this “nudity desire spectrum,” we hope this episode helps you reconsider your relationship with your own body, as well as your embodied relationships with the men around you. We also discuss Sam Allberry’s resignation and the impact on our community.

Where have you experienced safe, non-sexual nudity with other men? Why do you, or don’t you, desire nudity with men?

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We’ve taken a step back with podcast production as Tom has been refocusing his efforts and part-time hours on the YOB community. With more podcasts recently recorded and coming soon, Tom also takes some time to process the Alan Chambers arrest, following the former Exodus International president’s alleged solicitation of a minor. We encourage you to feel your feelings; please reach out to us anytime. We’re with you.

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An eclectic mix of questions from our YOBBERS community gets answered in our first-ever mailbag episode! Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for some deep dives on hell, Korean spas, bodily insecurities, and much more. We also look back at our previous episode and tie up some investigative loose ends regarding the Sexiest Man Alive committee and the categorization of gay sheep.

Share a story, or ask a question on any of the topics discussed in this episode! We’d love to follow up on a future episode.

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