Your Thoughts Your Reality

Send us Fan Mail

Ever wondered why women sometimes struggle with sexual desire and how societal expectations play a role? In this enlightening episode, we welcome Courtney, a distinguished relationship and sexuality expert, who opens up about her journey from an evangelical Christian upbringing to becoming a mental health and sex therapist. Courtney shares valuable insights from her book "Not Tonight Honey: Why Women Actually Don't Want Sex and What We Can Do About It," where she tackles the intricate dynamics of sexual desire in relationships, especially for military spouses like herself. Her observations reveal the often-overlooked patterns of disconnection influenced by religious and societal norms.

Communication can be challenging, particularly around sensitive topics like sexuality, but it's essential for growth and connection. We discuss practical strategies for reconnecting with one's desires by reflecting on childhood joys, and we emphasize the importance of overcoming societal pressures to foster more meaningful connections. Courtney provides actionable tips for initiating open and non-threatening dialogues about sexual interests, helping to build trust and prevent defensiveness in relationships. This episode is a treasure trove of advice for anyone looking to enhance their communication and intimacy.

Additionally, we dive into the significance of intentional communication within family and romantic relationships. Discover how neuro encoding techniques can help rewire your brain to celebrate moments of self-awareness, fostering healthier communication habits. We also advocate for the practice of an annual relationship checkup to ensure ongoing connection and understanding between partners. Lastly, we remind our listeners that embracing fun and enjoyment is crucial, not only in life but also in intimacy. Don't miss this packed episode filled with valuable insights to help you navigate and enrich your relationships and sexuality.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Looking for inspiration to help face the transition from military to civilian life? Tune in to hear the incredible story of Robert Casteel, a devoted Army veteran with nearly 24 years of service who has transformed his own struggles with PTSD into a mission of support for fellow veterans. Robert shares his compelling journey through trauma and recovery, highlighting how coaching and neuro-linguistic programming became pivotal in his healing. Together, we explore the profound refinement of human instinct developed in military training and its relevance to navigating life's complexities after service.

In this episode, we also delve into meaningful ways veterans can rejuvenate their spirits, from reading the Bible and enjoying uplifting music to embracing physical fitness and the solace of nature. Robert and I discuss the vital importance of addressing past traumas, the invaluable skill sets veterans bring to civilian roles, and the fulfillment found in serving others. Wrapping up, we reflect on the transformative power of thoughts in shaping reality, urging listeners to stay inspired and proactive in creating the life they desire. Join us for an insightful conversation filled with gratitude, motivation, and practical advice for veterans and their families.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

What does it take to transition from the battlefield to civilian life, especially when the odds seem stacked against you? Meet Stephan Beardwood, a veteran with 17 years of military service under his belt, including seven intense years as an airborne commando and medic. In this episode, Stephan opens up about his journey from enlisting at the tender age of 17 to his deployment in Somalia in 1992. He shares how his passion for music became a cornerstone for connection and inspiration. Stephan stresses the significance of action over mere awareness, pointing out the substantial challenges veterans face, particularly the lack of resources within the Canadian military.

Can rebuilding oneself be likened to growing a new brain? Stephan believes so. We delve into the metaphor of reconstructing oneself from scratch, emphasizing that recovery from trauma or addiction is not a solitary journey. Stephan shares personal anecdotes, including a touching story about helping a loved one with cancer, which underscores the importance of a strong support network. He also opens up about the power of vulnerability and the necessity of accepting help from those who have walked a similar path. The episode explores the role of medical professionals and alternative treatments like cannabis, advocating for open communication between patients and healthcare providers.

What initiatives are making a real difference for veterans today? Stephan sheds light on the impactful work of Veterans House Alliance International, an organization he co-founded. We discuss their innovative programs such as Veterans for Healing, which provides medical cannabis and wellness camps, and their collaboration with the Disability Channel to retrain veterans in media. The conversation highlights the importance of staying connected post-service and the value of engaging in challenging conversations for personal growth. Tune in for an inspiring episode that underscores resilience, recovery, and the transformative power of community support.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Can changing the script in your mind truly transform your life? Join us for an enlightening conversation with Marcus Weiss, an actor, director, and dual elite certified neuroencoding specialist, as he reveals how forgiveness and neuroencoding helped him overcome depression and anorexia. Discover how Marcus used theater and the power of neuroencoding to rewrite his mental narrative, leading to a life brimming with joy and vitality.

Explore the transformative technique of interrupting negative thought patterns like resentment and regret. Marcus and I break down the "stop technique," a practical method designed to shift your mindset and recondition your brain to connect negative thoughts with positive outcomes. By changing your body position, saying "stop," smiling, affirming a positive statement like "I am magnificent," and celebrating the action, you can gradually guide yourself towards more uplifting emotions and states of being.

Learn how to navigate life's challenges with a lighter heart and forward momentum by adopting a mindset of forgiveness and positive intent. Embracing the idea that life happens for us, not to us, we discuss how veterans and their families can let go of the past and avoid self-punishment. Marcus shares practical tips for maintaining a positive outlook, from starting your day with affirmations to reflecting on what went well. Tune in to discover how you can foster resilience and build stronger, more joyful relationships.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

How does a Navy SEAL on the brink of civilian life find solace and purpose through horses? Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Michael Hall, the dedicated founder of Hold the Reins. Michael's journey from the rigorous demands of military service to discovering the therapeutic power of equine-assisted services is nothing short of inspiring. After the loss of a teammate and the isolating effects of the COVID-19 lockdowns, Michael reconnected with horses and realized their incredible potential for healing. Partnering with retired Navy SEAL and seasoned horseman Rich Garner, and collaborating with Hugh Vale from Mustang Medicine, Michael has created a program that fosters wellness and recovery for veterans and their families through human-animal connections.

This episode is filled with heartfelt stories and transformative experiences that showcase the profound impact of equine therapy. Discover how the authenticity of horses and the principles of neuro-linguistic programming are helping veterans and their families stay present and rebuild their lives. Listen to the moving account of a veteran who gained unexpected insights from horsemanship, and a touching story about a veteran's wife whose encounter with a challenging horse led to profound self-realizations. Explore the emotional depth and healing power of equine therapy, and how it strengthens the bonds of brotherhood and community among veterans. This is a journey of healing, passion, and profound connections you won't want to miss.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Ever wondered what it's truly like to serve in the Navy? Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Rachel Oswalt, a courageous Navy veteran and the voice behind "Your Story Doesn't End Here." Rachel takes us through her incredible journey from Iowa to the Navy, where she became an aviation electronics technician. She candidly shares the grueling training, cultural shocks, and personal growth she experienced, as well as the unique challenges she faced as a woman in the military. Rachel’s story is not just one of resilience but also an inspiring call for better mental health support for veterans and their families.

In another compelling segment, we tackle the harsh realities of military life, including the Non-Judicial Punishment process and its impact on a young sailor. Reflecting on personal experiences, the episode sheds light on the difficulties of adapting to military culture, the temptation of unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the struggle to maintain mental well-being. We explore the transformative power of vulnerability and the significance of small, yet meaningful changes in leadership. Through Rachel’s advocacy and our discussion, we emphasize the importance of genuine leadership and the profound effects even minor actions can have in fostering a culture of respect and positive change within the military community.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

What if the key to a smoother transition from military to civilian life lies in camaraderie and humor? In this episode, we have the pleasure of hosting Mr. Whiskey, a US Navy veteran and a man of many talents, including being a podcaster, author, comedian, and religious speaker. Mr. Whiskey brings his unique perspective on supporting veterans, sharing heartwarming stories and practical advice. Listen to his inspiring tale of a mentor who deeply committed to his duty until the very end, illustrating the importance of community and camaraderie among veterans.

Struggling with mental health is a reality for many in the military, often masked by a façade of strength and composure. We discuss the emotional toll faced by service members and the intense challenge of seeking help in a culture where vulnerability is often stigmatized. Through personal narratives, Mr. Whiskey sheds light on the systemic issues that complicate mental health support and the necessity of a supportive community that understands these struggles. This conversation underscores the slow but crucial transformation needed within military structures to prioritize mental well-being and make service a long-term career option.

Discover healthier self-care practices for military personnel, from avoiding negative de-stressors like excessive drinking to engaging in meaningful hobbies and exploring new places. Mr. Whiskey emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and the power of positive coping mechanisms. Transitioning from high school to military life is a pivotal moment, and this episode explores the pressures young adults face to adopt unhealthy forms of stress relief. By fostering a supportive environment and promoting healthy activities, we can guide military members and young adults toward more fulfilling and balanced lives. Don't miss out on the invaluable insights from Mr. Whiskey and our exploration of transitioning to a healthier, post-military life.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

What if the key to your success lies in being "strong enough to be soft?" Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Andy Weins, a veteran of Operations Iraqi Freedom and Enduring Freedom, turned entrepreneur. Discover the transformative journey of how Andy leveraged his military background to build thriving businesses like Green Up Solutions and Camo Crew Junk Removal. You’ll learn how pivotal moments like master resiliency training reshaped his approach to leadership and life, teaching him the importance of vulnerability and authenticity.

In this episode, we explore the power of personal growth and the courage to challenge conventional wisdom. Andy shares his experiences transitioning from military life to civilian entrepreneur, offering valuable insights into mindset changes that drive self-improvement and effective leadership. Hear personal anecdotes about returning from deployments, facing identity crises, and the critical importance of investing in oneself to become a better leader and person.

Words shape our reality more than we realize. Andy illustrates how simple language tweaks can shift our mindset and foster gratitude and positivity. Learn effective communication strategies, especially during crises—emphasizing vulnerability, active listening, and ownership of emotions. We also introduce actionable frameworks like Action Coach's OAR versus BED, which can guide you toward more accountable and responsible living. If you're looking to innovate in your personal and professional life, this episode is packed with invaluable lessons and practical strategies to help you succeed.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

Can the power of self-talk change the course of a veteran's life? Join us as we sit down with the inspiring Tina Parker, founder of Lead Outside the Lines and retired Air Force Lieutenant Colonel, to explore the transformative journey of veterans transitioning to civilian life. Tina shares her deeply personal experiences and hard-earned insights on self-leadership, offering a fresh perspective on how words can shape our reality. From the intricacies of neuroencoding to transformational leadership, she provides practical wisdom on navigating life's challenges, managing responses, and reinventing identities beyond the military uniform. 

In a compelling discussion on inner truth and integrity, we tackle the tension veterans often feel between external regulations and personal intuition. Reconnecting with one's inner truth becomes a central theme as we discuss the dangers of relying solely on external validation. Tina introduces the concept of 'power statements' to affirm one’s ability to change and how cultivating a curious, non-judgmental mindset can open doors to personal growth. By posing empowering questions like "How might I do that differently?" veterans can start a journey toward positive change and a more authentic life.

Empowering self-talk and breath work are spotlighted as essential tools for reframing contributions and achievements. Techniques like the stop technique and neuroencoding are unpacked to help break negative thought patterns and foster positive self-dialogue. Recognizing and celebrating personal victories are emphasized, encouraging veterans to acknowledge their unique genius and potential. As we wrap up, we reflect on the precious resource of time and the power of thought to shape reality, urging listeners to continue seeking inspiration and creating the life they desire. Join us for an inspiring episode that promises to leave you with actionable insights and a renewed sense of purpose.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show

Send us Fan Mail

There are some audio issues on this episode. I decided to publish in case there are still some information the is of value to you.

Discover how functional nutrition and neuro-wellness can transform your health with expert insights from Gina Iovino. As a dedicated specialist, Gina takes us through her personal journey of overcoming severe health issues, such as eczema and brain fog, by adopting holistic dietary changes. We delve into the critical role mental and physical health play in our lives, particularly focusing on the detrimental effects of chronic inflammation on cognitive functions and overall well-being. Gina’s approach to managing pre-diabetes and diabetes through nutrition offers valuable takeaways, especially for veterans and first responders seeking mental resilience and holistic health solutions.

Explore the powerful trend of clean eating and its significant impact on brain health, featuring the innovative "Think Dirty" app. This tool helps consumers make informed decisions by identifying toxic ingredients in cosmetics, enhancing our commitment to healthier living. As we discuss the benefits of organic, whole-based dietary options, we underscore the importance of investing in personal health and making conscious, healthy choices. Don't miss Gina’s expert tips and connect with her on Instagram at @GinaWillShowYou for more guidance and inspiration.

Explore more episodes, resources, and updates from Mike Cole at:

https://YourThoughtsYourReality.com

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on leadership, mindset, and navigating life after service.

Support the show