Your Turned on Desire

When one starts confronting their sexual relationship, it’s common to start deconstructing and evolving their beliefs around a lot of other things too. Because spirituality and sexuality are deeply connected, when we deal with the challenges in our sexual relationships, the theology we were brought up in is usually poked at and oftentimes unravels as well. This is very normal and I’m happy to share this conversation I had with David Hayward (also known as the Naked Pastor) where we navigate the unraveling many of us go through concerning religion and sexuality. His art has been so helpful for me as I reflect on different areas of my life.

Connect with David Hayward (NakedPastor)

https://www.instagram.com/nakedpastor?igsh=MWxnY2hjZ3ZkcWh5bw==

NakedPastor - David Hayward

Books:

https://www.amazon.com/Flip-Like-This-David-Hayward/dp/1506484727?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=nakedpastor-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=53e8fd7a10363e1980906ca1c2ab5709&camp=1789&creative=9325&dplnkId=8ecc75e6-cb65-45af-96b4-631f48ebad16&nodl=1

Emotional Connection has always been the foundation to a good intimate life. So why do some of us lose this awareness and start the game of tennis where we go back and forth between sex first or emotional connection first?

The perspective that emotional connection should always come first isn’t always talked about, but I want to advocate for this perspective because it’s what women are saying they need in order to enjoy a sex life they look forward to. Today we are joined by Cory Ivins who is a coach who helps men heal so they can enjoy meaningful relationships.

Connect with Cory here:

https://www.instagram.com/coryivins?igsh=bTR4M2Rzd3h6MGk5

I am currently taking a step back from business and social media to work on some of my own healing. In the meantime, please enjoy these podcast episodes that were referenced in this conversation:

Episode 61: Female Sexuality and Intellect

Episode 71: Keep on Insisting for Emotional Connection or Give Up the Quest?

Episode 72: Navigating His Reactions to Sexual Rejection

Stay tuned for a conversation with David Hayward, you may know him as Naked Pastor on social media coming up for episode 75.

Are spirituality and sexuality connected?

Is spirituality different for women than men? Has religion done a disservice to women when it comes to their overall wellbeing and their sex lives? We discuss these questions and more in this episode with Jamee and her guests Britt Hartley and Corrie Woods.

Connect with Britt Hartley:

Nononsensespirituality.com

Britt’s YouTube channel

No Nonsense Spirituality | Britt Hartley - YouTube

Corrie Woods:

https://www.facebook.com/share/1R484GmeTF/?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Details about private coaching with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

You saying “No” to sex is not the problem. His responses to your “no” are the problem.

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

It’s time we put an end to the idea that men need sexual connection before they can connect emotionally and start prioritizing emotional connection first always. Why? Because it’s what women are saying they need before they happily have sex with their husbands and we need to listen to them.

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

Does the way religion teach women about modesty cause more harm than good? We are going to discuss this idea with a guest named Buck. He is a Christian, a father and a husband and he noticed the harm that had been done on women and men with the emphasis that religion had placed on modesty so he and his wife decided to teach their children differently than the rhetoric that was being used inside their religion.

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

Lots of people think that in order to make their intimate lives better in their marriages that they need books on better positions and they need to just keep giving into sex until they like it better. Almost like sex can be approached the same we approach exercise. Luckily, this isn’t the case. Lets talk about the 4 things we can focus instead that actually change our intimate lives for the better in this episode.

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

Sex isn’t just about attraction and desire in marriage. Sex is a mixture of playing with power dynamics, avoiding rejection, and learning what true intimacy is. We are unpacking some of this in this episode. And it’s a good thing to unpack this because wouldn’t it be great to be able to enjoy a fun fulfilling sex life?

Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her private coaching program.

Article by Celeste Davis: The Men Who Like Women and The Men Who Don’t. Yes We Can Tell.

https://open.substack.com/pub/celestemdavis/p/men-who-like-women?r=1tvcj9&utm_medium=ios

Article by Celeste Davis: Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends? God I Hope So.

https://open.substack.com/pub/celestemdavis/p/can-men-and-women-be-friends?r=1tvcj9&utm_medium=ios

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

Women are too tired to have sex with their husbands because they are the kind of tired that husbands can’t possibly understand or imagine. It’s not just something women are saying to get out of sex. We need to stop ignoring the “I’m too tired” response and take it seriously. Women would like to feel turned on and sexy and they want to enjoy their sex lives with a good amazing husband so if we listen to women, better sex is around the corner. But even better, women will be feeling better.

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0

Why are so many marriages struggling with bad sex lives? Why are so many men wishing their women wanted more sex but so many women aren’t wanting sex at all? Why do troubled and struggling sex lives feel like it’s a pandemic that has hit marriage? And isn’t it strange that women have an organ specifically designed for pleasure and multiple orgasms yet, they don’t really care to use it?

Link to details about my private coaching program and links to schedule your free consultation with me:

Private Program | Your Turned on Desire

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesire

Sexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbands

Link for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807

I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:

https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0