We do not encourage violence, but what can we do if a bully does not listen to us when asking to stop and gesturing that we do not appreciate their actions? Sonya from Kanga Karate talked to us about what we can do if the bully is insisting on getting 'physical'. How can we respond? Who can we talk to? How can we get out as quick as possible?
•If you're in a school situation and you're cornered - Start using your voice. Cause a 'scene' and create space between you and the bully. Don't scream or squeal. Statements we can use: 'Look, I don't wanna do this', 'Leave me alone', 'I don't understand what is going on'.
•Read the bully's body language. What are they doing? Are they coming towards you or looking around? Bullies DO NOT want the attention. Remember to keep calm, use your voice and move back. Get into that safe space.
•Where are the bully's hands? If their hands are coming up into a fist position, then you know their malicious intent or if they're waving their arms around or looking awkward. Keep your hands where their hands are. If their hands are starting to raise up, put your hands into a defensive stance, NEVER close your fists. You do not want to take their challenge.
What can we say to ourselves, our parents or mentors, if we have to protect ourselves?
We never want to be in a situation like this, but we have to view it as self defence. If you feel guilty for protecting yourself, keep telling yourself that it was self defence. Go speak to a parent/mentor/teacher/friend/family member and talk about the challenges. Remember that you didn't start the fight. Mentors don't judge.
5 Seconds
You only need five seconds of pain to get out. The five seconds of pain could be standing on the bully's toes. Give the bully a chance to re-consider their decision.
Vital Numbers
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Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800
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Sonya talks to Jaxon every Saturday Morning about bullying and how we can protect ourselves, both physically and mentally. Stream us online at youthtalkradio.com or via TuneIn.
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