Zazi Kipya

Today's topic was to help parents recognize how their own childhood wounds nay affect how they apent today.
Inner childhood-is the part of us that stll holds the emotions,memories,and experience of our early years especially those tied to love,fear,joy,pain and rejection.
Examples of childhood wounds
Overracting to your childs behaviour


Struggling with patience
Feeling unseen or disrespected as a parent
Childhood wounds show up in parenting in several ways
Over-discpling or underdiscplining
needing validation from your child
Reacting instead of responding
Comparing your child because you were compared
How to heal your inner child
acknoledging the pain without shame
Practice reparenting yourself
Seeking out intentional healing  
Practical holoday ideas
Use positive displine
Create safe talk moments

When we heal, our homes heal too
You ca;nt heal what you cant acknlowdge-Dr. Gabor Mate
Inner child- A part of your subonscious formed in childhood that holds emotional expriences, wounds and memories.
Parental wounds:-
Overly critical parent, emotionally absent caregiver, sibling favouritism
Unmet needs: Not being heard, validated, comforted, celebrated.
Reparenting:
Learn to give yourself the nurturing young didnt receive
Self-soothing techniques
Hug yourself
Speak words of affirmation
Realining our adult lives
Setting boundaries
Valuing your joy
Mothering differently
Breaking cycles with your children
Listening ,validating,affirming them

Who were ypu before the lables?
Reflections:

1. What made me feel alive before I was given responsibilities?
2. What did I silence in myself  just to be accepted?
3. How did I describe myself before people told me who i was?

Affirmations
I am not just what I do. I am who I am becoming.
I honour the woman I used to be and the girl I scarry
I am allowed to grow. I am allowed to rest. I am allowed to begin again.

The community's role in mental welness is acting as a safety net, most people isotae due to shame and fear of being misunderstood. A supportive comunity chesks in consistetly , respects confidentiality, doesnt try to fix  people.
Wisdom corner:-
A strong community is not one without pain,but one that chooses to walk with you through it
Healing doesnt require perfection ~just presence

Causes of suicide Trauma, Rejection, Substance abuse,academic and social pressure
Spotting signs Withdrawing from family, sudden calmness,expresing hopelessnes
Crisis response and when to get help
Dont leave the child alone 
Remove potential means-knives, ropes
Dont lecture ,listen, and affirm life 
Practical tools and prevention Journaling, profeesional therapy, 
Take aways for parents
Dont assume, check in 
Know your childs friends
Model healthy habits 
Take away for youth
You are not alone Speak up.
Ask for help
Your pain is not weakness
You deserve to heal

Why don children stay silent,how do we unintentionally create unsafe safe space at home,how can we make our homes safe space..
TAKE AWAY TIPS:-
 Listen more ,fix less
Repond,dont react
Ask "How Can i support you?" not " why did you that?"
Make safe space for family meetings
Speak life-not fear

Ways of engaging children /Family members when they are are strggling with mental health issues.
Tips for parents to seek proffesional help from Counsellors and for them to heal from their unmet needs so that they can help their children better.

Silent Battles , Stong spirits: 
It is possible to guide your child back to school with confidence and care through the following ways
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Helping them transition emotionally
Helping them build coping skills
Helping them manage time, set goals and stay organized
Strenghtning communication channels while apart

Take away Tips: 
Start small,listen more

Prepare your child to advocate for themselves
Celebrate independence
Chek in with the matron or teacher
Ask more, judge less
Watch for silence
Respect their routine
Let them struggle a little
Celebrate small wins 
The greatest gift you can give your child isn't perfection -Its presence

As a parent, what skills do you think are important for your child's success.
Focus areas :
1. Time mannagement

2. Goal setting
3. Resilience
4. Career preparedness
Do not prepare the road for your child...Prepare your child for the road.

Mental health issues in families are often unspoken due to Stigma, cultural Beliefs or lack of awareness.