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Jake Ducey is a three-time published author with Penguin/Random-House (The Purpose Principles, Into the Wind and Profit From Happiness).  He is an inspiration man whose goal is to help people live a more purposeful life.

Despite his many accomplishments, I have asked Jake to ZEN commuter to talk about the one thing that gives him the calm and confidence to change the world in such a profound way.   He and I spend a half hour talking about his meditation practice and how it has transformed his life.  I am sure you will find many bits of wisdom to helping you start your own practice or enhance the one you already have.

• How Jake learned about meditation
• The method of meditation he uses
• How he was able to restart his practice after leaving it for a while

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Jake's Ted Talk

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Do you think you have a handle on why you have a tough time saying no?  This entire week we went over it.  Today I want to give you sme actual exercise and methods for practicing the skill of saying no.  Saying no is really tough for people, but the only way you will be able to in the future is to start practicing now.  So let's dive in now!

• Methods for improving your ability to say no
• Exercises that will help you strengthen your resolve in saying no

Assertiveness Skills - The Art of Saying No

6 Exercises to Help You Say No

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I have already discussed why many people have difficulty saying no.  One reason many people say yes instead of no is due to poor self esteem.  They feel that their needs are less important than those doing the asking.  Another reason is that they lack the ability to be assertive, to stick up for themselves.  Some people come across as angry and others let people walk all over them.  Today I am going to discuss how to be more assertive and the difference it is from aggressive and passive.

• How to determine the difference between passive, aggressive and assertive
• Ways to improve your assertiveness

5 Ways To Be More Assertive

The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive and Assertive

How to be Assertive

Building Assertiveness in 4 Steps

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Already this week I have discussed the big reasons why you have difficulty saying no.  I talked about the fear of confrontation and the desire to be a people pleaser.  Today I am going to talk about the lesser known, but equally important reasons, for why you keep saying yes

• Four reasons why you have difficulty saying NO

12 reasons it's so hard to say NO

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The end game of this week is to help you become better able to say no.  It is one thing to be helpful and agreeable, but it's another to say yes to things when you really want to say no.  Yesterday I talked about being a people pleaser and steps to take to avoid that.  Today I am going to focus on the desire to avoid confrontation.  You won't want to miss this episode.

• 6 Reasons People Fear Confrontation
• Ways to communicate during a disagreement

Reasons People have a Fear of Confrontation

How to Disagree without Being Disagreeable

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Last week I sent out an email talking about the need to start saying "NO" more.  If you missed it then you'll want to join the ZENcommuter Daily Inspiration Email List.  I talked about how many times we find ourselves in a life we didn't choose because we simply agreed with what other people wanted for us. We didn't say no to choices that went against what we believed in.  A listener wrote me to say that she has challenges with saying no, so I assumed she was not alone. On today's episode I will talk about why people become people pleasers and how to stop

• The two main reasons people are people pleasers
• How being a people pleaser injures your health
• 5 Ways to stop People Pleasing

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Are You a People Pleaser

5 Tip to Help You Stop Being a People Pleaser

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Nourishing your spirit connects you to something greater.  And when you do connect to something bigger, you feel a sense of purpose.  What comes with that sense of purpose is unparalleled calm. Today I discuss 4 ways to enhance your spirit.

• 4 Methods for enhancing your spirit

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Taking care of your body and your mind is important, and even though it isn't a competition, the one aspect of your being that weighs the heaviest, is you emotional health.  It is about your ability to successfully embrace and express the myriad feelings we all possess.  Today I talk about 10 ways to practice self-care for your emotional health.

• The one question that people pleasers need to ask
• How to write a love letter to yourself
• The benefit of embracing and expressing all your emotions

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Your body is a vessel; it holds all that you are.  Have you thought about that?  All that you will do for yourself and the world, is made possible because of your body.  That is a pretty huge responsibility.  The good news is your body doesn't need to do it alone.  You can help.  You have to help.  If you want to help anyone else, loved ones, friends or strangers, you need to start by taking care of your body.

Self-Care Tips for Body and Soul

Ways to Practice Self-Care

• 3 Reasons to take care of your body and mind
• The ways you neglect your body and mind
• Usual and Unusual ways you can practice self-care for your body and mind.

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it seems we are perfect at taking care of ourselves when everything is going well.  If we are feeling upbeat or optimistic about ourselves and our lives then eating right and taking care of ourselves seems only natural.  We want the good feelings to continue.  However, in the times when things are not going so great, it's even more important to practice self-care.  Today I share an article that describes how.

Practicing Self-Care during Stressful Times

6 Ways to Practice Self-Care in Challenging Times

• Why self-care is important during stressful times
• Strategies for taking care of yourself in difficult times

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