Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory

Summary:

I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour.

Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health.

Discover:

Green flags to look for on a date

Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship

The best time to ask “what are we?”

When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else

Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else

00:00 Intro

01:48 Starting an online presence

05:05 Back to (relationship) basics

06:08 Blaming your parents

08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal?

11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex

13:15 Know your own red flags

16:44 Assuming good intent

20:20 Asking for reassurance

26:56 Actions vs. words

30:45 Having needs is sexy

35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment

37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship

51:07 Red flags when you have a crush

53:10 Thinking relationally

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Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com

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