If you’ve ever celebrated a “Good morning” text like it was a grand romantic gesture, mistook crumbs for commitment or convinced yourself that your anxiety was chemistry, this conversation is going to hit home in the best possible way.

This episode is your wakeup call, your nervous system hug and your permission slip to never entertain bare minimum behavior again.

In This Episode, We Cover:

- Why Women Are Conditioned to Accept Less Than They Deserve
- Emotional, Social & Generational Training that Creates Overfunctioning
- How Childhood Attachment Shapes Attraction to Inconsistent Men
- The Nervous System: Why “Bare Minimum” Can Feel Like Love
- Potential vs. Reality: The Trap of Investing in Who He Could Be
- The 10 Signs You’re Dating a Bare Minimum Man
- The Feminine Shift: From Hyperindependence to Softness & Standards
- How to Raise Your Standards Without Feeling Guilty
- Reprogramming Overgiving & Overfunctioning
- Letting the Wrong Man Eliminate Himself
- What Happens When You Finally Meet a Man Who Shows Up

Key Takeaways:

- Women don’t accept bare minimum because they’re “stupid”, conditioning chooses for them
- Your nervous system may mistake inconsistency for love because that’s what felt familiar
- Healing makes you allergic to bare minimum behavior
- You are not asking for too much, you were asking the wrong person
- Standards aren’t demands; they’re boundaries
- You don’t need to explain your standards. You embody them
- Raising your standards may feel scary at first, that’s your nervous system rewiring
- A man aligned with you will rise; a bare minimum man will exit. Both are blessings.
- When you meet real emotional safety, you’ll never settle for crumbs again

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

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Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most.

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See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

Welcome back to a brand new season of Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

In this week’s episode, we dive deep into a relationship pattern so many people confuse for “chemistry,” when what we’re actually feeling is the body’s addiction to chaos. This episode is your guided tour through emotional intensity: why it feels like love and how to break the trauma loops that keep you chasing relationships that burn hot, crash hard and leave you feeling empty.

In This Episode, We Cover:

- The Myth of “Chemistry”
- The Science Behind the Addiction
- Childhood Roots of Chaos Based Attraction
- The Trauma Loop Explained
- How to Break the Pattern
- Why Healthy Love Feels “Boring” at First

Key Takeaways

- You’re not “crazy” for craving intensity, you’re wired for it.
- Addiction in relationships is a nervous system response, not a character flaw.
- Calm love isn’t boring; it’s stable and your body can learn to desire it.
- Healing begins the moment you see your patterns clearly and choose differently.
- You can break the cycle and rewire your emotional chemistry.

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

Connect + Share

If this episode hit home, share it with the friend who’s stuck in her “but he might change” era.

Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most.

Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime.

See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

Rebecca Grech from Sexyland joins me to chat about the importance of sexual wellness and education for all - regardless of age, preference or nationality.

In this episode we cover:

- How Sexyland has created a safe and judgement free space for customers to embark on their sexual wellness journey

- The importance of education to help remove stigma and shame

- Creating a safe space for people to explore their sexuality without judgement

- Their new Get Real campaign and how it aims to promote authenticity and open conversations 

-  Offering a diverse and affordable range of products, ensuring everyone feels catered for 

Plus so much more.

From sensory exploration to engaging games, Sexyland has something for everyone. Don't miss this opportunity to dive into a world of pleasure and empowerment.

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Chris Nicholls joins me to chat about being on reality tv, mental health and his new career.

In this episode:

- His experience on reality tv

- What he's learnt from being on MAFS

- Why he applied to be on Married At First Sight

- What really happened behind the scenes

- The truth about what went on after the show finished

- His new career in coaching

- Struggling with mental health in the past

- How four of his previous relationships ended

- The work he's done to get to where he is now

Plus much much more.

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Alanna Smith joins me to chat about her life, love and how she became a brow artist.

In this episode:

- The way she starts her day

- Why she thrives in routine

- Finding what works for her

- Why running is so crucial for her wellbeing

- Her eye for fashion and individual style

- How her mood impacts what she wears

- Her last relationship and why they broke up after 6 years

Plus so much more.

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Madeleine Tirimacco joins me to chat about marriage, motherhood and how she became a makeup artist. 

In this episode:

- Why her husband's passion for his work sparked her to pursue something that she loved as well

- How she accidentally fell into her makeup career

- Why her perfectionism is a double edge sword

- Only doing things when she's absolutely ready, at her own pace and in her own time

- What she thought she was going to be before becoming a makeup artist

- The changes she's made since having kids

- The things her kids have taught her 

- How her and her husband balance working together

Plus so much more.

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Ilario Fazz joins me to chat about love, loss, heartbreak and he became Mr. Wedding

In this episode:

- How he became Mr. Wedding by sheer accident

- His future plans for his brand and his career

- Why his last relationship ended and what he learnt

- Why he can't do dating apps

- His morning routine he's developed since his break up

- The lows he had after his break up and how he got himself out of it

- The advice he would give his younger self

Plus so much more.

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Filip Odzak joins me to chat about love, dating and how he's created his multi-passionate career.

In this episode:

- How Fillip branded himself as a jack of all trades

- Why he doesn't believe in dating

- What he's looking for in future relationships

- The impact lockdown had on him and how it's changed him

- Why he never backs out of something once he's committed

- How his priorities have changed over the years

- Filip's reasoning for choosing to stay in Australia instead moving overseas for his career

Plus so much more.

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Cassandra Mamone joins me to chat about love, dating and her passion that became her jewellery business.

In this episode:

- How Cassandra's jewellery collection started

- Staying true to yourself in life and in business

- The unlikely way she ended up on Bachelor in Paradise

- Why she called off her wedding 6 weeks before she was going to walk down the aisle

- Learning to say no

- What she looks for in a partner now

- The advice her mother gave her that gave her clarity

- Listening to yourself instead of others

- How she meets men without using dating apps
 

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Olivia Jenkins joins me to chat about marriage, motherhood and business and why her brand has become known as the CEO's Wing Woman.

In this episode:

- Why and how her childhood impacted her career and her business

- Trusting her gut instinct even when it doesn't logically makes sense

- Pivoting during Covid and the steps she took to scale her business

- Having to work from bed when she had a health scare while she was pregnant with her third child

- Why she thought she'd always be a stay at home Mum

- How she fell in love with her husband and why he is the total opposite of who she thought she would end up with

- Her religious upbringing and how it's affected her intimate relationship

- The advice she would give her younger self

- Why her intuition is her superpower


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