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#012 Megan deBoer - Healing our relationship with money

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Megan deBoer is the founder of Tended Wealth, a business that helps individuals heal their emotional and practical relationship to money. As a certified Financial Recovery Counselor, her approach considers the context of our current financial circumstance: our lived experience, our family of origin, and the broad culture that together shape our beliefs about money. Megan is passionate about transforming this fundamental part of our lives from shame and overwhelm to a sense of agency, clarity, and potential. She specializes in helping those who are selfemployed to radically increase their earning. Her course participants and 1:1 clients regularly attest to the life-changing power of this work.

HERE ARE SOME OF THE POINTS MEGAN SHARED DURING OUR CONVERSATION:
  • “When we own our own business, and when we are responsible for earning our income, it’s very different from receiving a paycheck. It can be confronting."
  • “There’s so much behind closed doors, so much that is secret, and shameful, about that part of a business owner’s life not being neat, and tidy, and all buttoned-up. Then there’s this front-facing, how you’re presenting yourself as a business owner, as successful. And there can be this shadow side that’s filled with a lot of shame. […] that piece is often holding people back.”
  • “Shame is how we are perceived and judged. It’s always coming from the external. We feel it internally but it’s because we are perceived by someone else. It’s the exposure.”
  • “When we think of the term underearning, we think of low earning, while it can span a pretty wide range of earning. […] the common denominator is not honoring our own needs, and our own worth.”
  • “I started reframing underearning as underreceiving. It isn’t limited to just money. It spans a much wider spectrum - receiving support, giving yourself time off, allowing yourself to enjoy the money that you do have.”
  • “Coming into relationship with money is the path to coming into relationship with wealth.”
  • “In the US, and most Western countries, we have a deep conflict - an obsession and disgust with money. Those are two sides of a very extreme spectrum. A harmonious relationship with money is somewhere in the middle of the spectrum.”
  • “The language around abundance, attracting abundance, speaking to that side is so beautiful in one sense, but it has a shadow to it. Sometimes, it’s an aspiration to have an abundant life before there was resolution with the actual money piece.”
  • “There is abundance around us but how much do we really need?”
  • And so much more.

    • For links to the books which Megan mentioned click here.

    HOW TO CONNECT WITH MEGAN

    Megan’s website

    Megan on Instagram

    xo Rayna

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